Another hideous day

[Ketzele]

Hi, I've name-changed again, but I know that many posters here struggle with their own anger in the face of very challenging behaviour [waves to tldr]. Well, just to say that today was hideous. I got hit multiple times, screamed at, told "You are a fucking pig" and, "Why couldn't I have been placed with people I could love?" My dd is 7. My reaction was not my finest hour.

Just wanted to say that, really. To people who may understand. This is a hard gig sometimes.

What a culture change. I didn't realise this adoption section existed and have been looking at other chat section where people get quite offensive and aggressive. People are so kind to each other over here and like to try and help. As an adoptive parent myself my LO is coming up to one and has been here since three months. It's been hard and I liked the analogy of a nightmare babysitting job where no one comes back for the baby. We are through that now but I realise we may have more to come as he grows. For now I'm enjoying the baby kisses and pinching his fat little cheeks......While he lets me. Good luck to us all our kids are extra special xxx

Welcome over here #Casschops! Enjoy the baby time.

Hello Casschops. Sometimes I come over here and am nice then go over to AIBU and unleash my mean. 😬😀

Ohhh I'm so glad I've found this thread! I'm tired beyond tired right now. Yesterday was a very bad day. My DD I'd 5 with an iron will like nothing I've ever encountered before and selfish beyond comprehension which doesn't make for a happy family. I'm currently led on the bed listening to the quite now both kids are at school. I've got an appointment at camhs this morning, but I'm not sure they can work magic.

The first couple of years are a blur of exhaustion.

Nearly 5 years in (half DD's life) we've gone from absolute rages several times a day - during which I had to hold her so she couldn't attack me/destroy the house - to the occasional strop that isn't any worse than other girls her age.

3 1/2 years fighting with the school has finally (after being escalated to quite a high level) seen them concede that she is academically able enough to cope with mainstream school. And that I know what I am saying when it comes to DD, I am not thoughtless, stupid or neglectful - sadly it took having a parent support worker and SW backing me up to get that across.

So, it can get better. I just don't think too far ahead - the focus now is to build as much connection with DD as possible before the teen years hit, and to keep chasing up the referral for psych assessment for her anxiety.

One day at a time (or one minute at a time on a bad day!)