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MissFenella · 30/05/2015 23:42

Is it usual/typical for letters from parents to include 'when you are 18 and we meet again....' type stuff.

Letter from birth mum included a few 'wonderful future together' type references.

Putting aside the heart crushing 'she thinks I am babysitting' element (because that is about me not the girls) how would you couch the tone to your children?

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StaceyAndTracey · 24/07/2015 18:08

Nope, can't do it

Daisiemoo · 24/07/2015 18:14

Ok JaneDonne cmon spill the beans.....

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Themoleandcrew · 24/07/2015 18:31

Wow. If I square my points for siblings I manage 16 points. Do I get to double that for adopting the third sibling, although that one was under 2 and blue eyed so I'll lose a bit there. Damn my kids for being so adorable. But at least they match the car.

Kewcumber · 24/07/2015 18:48

Mole - your car has blue eyes?! Shock

Daisiemoo · 24/07/2015 19:45

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Daisiemoo · 24/07/2015 19:46

just ignore me... Too much wine

IamTheWhoreofBabylon · 24/07/2015 19:59

All I can say is bloody hell, what a thread

I've scored 11
We chose our child to match our decor but we have since redecorated
Do you think we can do an exchange for a more suitable one?

Devora · 24/07/2015 21:32

Have you noticed I'm now lying a bit low on this thread? That's because I've only got six points Blush. My credibility is shattered. I would try to claim extra credit for being a rainbow family but I fear that in 2015 that one is fading fast...

StaceyAndTracey · 24/07/2015 22:42

I'm sorry, but lesbians are ten a penny on the adoption boards . You will need to try harder .

I think you get points for multi coloured though , as opposed to rainbow . I'm claiming point for that anyway

And you could aos get more points if a social worker once thought you might be disabled and therefore not permitted to adopt *

  • disclaimer for any lurkers - having a disability is Not repeat NOT a bar to adopting . You get assessed as a individual / couple, just like everyone else . Just so you know
Daisiemoo · 24/07/2015 22:43

When I was much much younger I read a book which I thought was called the rainbow family. It was about a family in America who adopted loads of children and since adopting I have been trying to find the book so I can read it again. But not getting the name right or knowing the author I'm a bit stuffed.
Any idea anyone??

Devora · 24/07/2015 23:05

I know, StaceyandTracey Sad. I used to be effortlessly cool, just by being ME. Then the years passed and I became a big fat yawn.

Multi coloured a bit dullsville, too.

I'm going to have to keep boasting about how we don't have a car or a dishwasher. That makes us REALLY unusual, out here in the burbs Grin

StaceyAndTracey · 24/07/2015 23:13

Indeed, but you do have farrow and ball paint Wink

Daisiemoo · 25/07/2015 08:50

#jealousfarrow&ballpaint

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IamTheWhoreofBabylon · 25/07/2015 18:33

We think we are doing well if we use dulux
I am a, shhhh, working class adopter though
Do I gain or lose points for that

JaneDonne · 25/07/2015 19:42

Got to gain points for that.

Everyone knows adopters are all middle class bitches who only want children to have something to fill the back of the lexus.

Devora · 25/07/2015 20:40

I also have an Orla Kiely casserole dish [loses more points].

WhoreofBabylon, you definitely gain points for your class credentials. And for your cool name.

Devora · 25/07/2015 20:41

Love the idea of being a hipster adopter, though I fear I may be too old and fat to catch that bus.

Could try growing a beard, though.

Daisiemoo · 25/07/2015 20:55

I've got one hair on my chin that drives me mad Devora. You can have that if you want? #sharingiscaring

Maryz · 25/07/2015 21:23

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Tangerineandturquoise · 25/07/2015 21:58

Wine Mary and we really need a nibbles icon.
Grin

Velvet1973 · 25/07/2015 22:06

I'm not coming out of hiding. I think I must be on about -1000 by now! Middle class, adopted baby-singleton, farrow and ball paint, I'll go and get my coat now......

Maryz · 25/07/2015 22:33

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