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BrightSunshineyDay · 2014-06-08T05:22:31+00:00

I gave birth yesterday and immediately relinquished responsibility. I have so much going round in my head right now that I hope no-one minds if I blurt it out here. I will be speaking with social workers tomorrow so I want to think of as many questions as possible. I know without a doubt I am doing the right thing. He will go to a foster family for a few weeks until new parents are found (I was in denial about the pregnancy until only a couple ofdays ago) How quickly will he be found a new family? Will the new family be in my local area? Should I write him a letter explaining my life circumstances and his birth story? Should I get him a keepsake? Is letterbox contact the best thing for him and his new family? Thats all I want. What is best for him. I want to do whatever is best so he can grow up not feeling abandoned or deserted. I want him to know I love him but I want him to have the best life possible. Please tell me there are parents/a parent out there who are just about to receive into their life the most perfect beautiful boy, and they will be kind and loving and settled. Sorry for the brain dump - I've been awake for hours and this is all going round in my head.

BettyFlour · 19/06/2014 11:08

Thinking of you Bright. Wishing you good luck.

VisualiseAHorse · 19/06/2014 11:17

Thinking of you x

Migsy1 · 19/06/2014 11:46

Good luck! Hopefully, social services can help you with your needs in bringing him home xx

LittleMisslikestobebythesea · 19/06/2014 12:29

I have been lurking but I just wanted to wish you luck today, well done for being so strong for your baby

Enjoy your cuddles and I hope ss get their arses in gear!

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BrightSunshineyDay · 19/06/2014 14:00

it went well. Better than well it went brilliantly. Will try to make sense but my head is buzzing and I want to get it all written down before I forget a single second.
I held ds and smelt him and kissed him and cuddled him. It felt amazing! I have a bit of his baby spit on my shoulder still. Never thought I would love the smell of baby sick so much :)
Before I saw ds I met with sw who wasn't nice yesterday. Didn't think I would say this but he was fab. Asked me how things had got to this point in my life. So I told him my life story he asked about my housing situation and about telling the 3dc. I was brutally honest with him about everything.
He said as far as he is concerned ds shouldn't be with ss if I want him back. They want me and all DC together. He asked what I wanted to happen. I said I want to take ds home with me today. But it isn't about me. I need to sort accommodation, I need time with ds to build a bond, time for the 3dc to adjust and get used to the idea and to meet him. I don't want to bring him home in a panic and have us all struggle to adapt and cope. I want to do it right, for ds and the other 3. He said he thought that sounded sensible. I will have daily contact with ds :)
I met the foster mum. She seemed nice. I got teary and thanked her for taking care of ds until I am able to. She said ds is a pleasure and laid back and just a content little boy
I am walking on air. Still lots to be sorted but on the right track :)
Think you so much for all your support and messages. I will reply to them when my head has calmed down. Right now I feel like I could conquer Everest!

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BrightSunshineyDay · 19/06/2014 14:00

it went well. Better than well it went brilliantly. Will try to make sense but my head is buzzing and I want to get it all written down before I forget a single second.
I held ds and smelt him and kissed him and cuddled him. It felt amazing! I have a bit of his baby spit on my shoulder still. Never thought I would love the smell of baby sick so much :)
Before I saw ds I met with sw who wasn't nice yesterday. Didn't think I would say this but he was fab. Asked me how things had got to this point in my life. So I told him my life story he asked about my housing situation and about telling the 3dc. I was brutally honest with him about everything.
He said as far as he is concerned ds shouldn't be with ss if I want him back. They want me and all DC together. He asked what I wanted to happen. I said I want to take ds home with me today. But it isn't about me. I need to sort accommodation, I need time with ds to build a bond, time for the 3dc to adjust and get used to the idea and to meet him. I don't want to bring him home in a panic and have us all struggle to adapt and cope. I want to do it right, for ds and the other 3. He said he thought that sounded sensible. I will have daily contact with ds :)
I met the foster mum. She seemed nice. I got teary and thanked her for taking care of ds until I am able to. She said ds is a pleasure and laid back and just a content little boy
I am walking on air. Still lots to be sorted but on the right track :)
Think you so much for all your support and messages. I will reply to them when my head has calmed down. Right now I feel like I could conquer Everest!

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VisualiseAHorse · 19/06/2014 14:04

Easily the best post I have read for weeks :)

I'm still blown away by your strength, your calmness and your love.

ClairesTravellingCircus · 19/06/2014 14:04

Oh Bright I have tears in my etes reading your update! I'm soooo happy for you.

Hugs xxx

Boomer51 · 19/06/2014 14:04

Good news, OP.

ClairesTravellingCircus · 19/06/2014 14:04

Also just wanted to add, you have been amazing, bloody well done!

pinkpiggy · 19/06/2014 14:05

I have been following this and I am so pleased for you!

holiday88 · 19/06/2014 14:11

Really pleased

MagpieMama · 19/06/2014 14:13

Oh bright, I'm so happy for you! You've shown so much strength and love. I wish you and your family all the best for the future

foolishpeach · 19/06/2014 14:13

That all sounds so positive OP!

I hope they will give you the support you need now, so that your little DS can go home with you soon.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 19/06/2014 14:13

Hooray! Brilliant news.

Phalarope · 19/06/2014 14:15

Another delurking to say well done - you sound so strong and grounded about building the future for your whole family. So pleased for you today, and I hope you continue to get good support from the sw.

YellowStripe · 19/06/2014 14:16

Wonderful news so pleased for you and your family.

When your head had stopped spinning it might be useful to email the points of your discussion to the sw and his manager while the agreement is clear in your mind.

Whiteshoes · 19/06/2014 14:18

Top top top result. You have done brilliantly. Lucky children and lucky baby to have you.

Lollyheart · 19/06/2014 14:21

I'm so happy for you, you'll soon have all your family together

Jomato · 19/06/2014 14:21

Tears from me too! Well done, you have shown so much strength and have handled things brilliantly. Onwards and upwards from here. Sending hugs regardless of the mumsnet policy on sending hugs!!!

Doodleloomoo · 19/06/2014 14:21

Your elation is shining through your post, he must be a wonderful little boy. Have you named him? (Obv don't need to say what his name is).

I hope I have strength like yours should my dd or future dc ever need it.

Best best wishes xxx

McPhee · 19/06/2014 14:23

I'm crying with total euphoria for you

You amazing, brave and flipping strong women

You go girl!!!

LJBanana · 19/06/2014 14:23

Ah tears in my eyes. Well done, I bet it felt amazing.

SuperScrimper · 19/06/2014 14:24

Yay!! I've been refreshing all day for this

So glad you're on the track to getting your baby back where he belongs.

WhizzPopBang · 19/06/2014 14:29

I'm so happy for you Bright, and full of excitement about you having your DS back with you soon... I think you handled it just right, and with such strength, well done! will you be seeing him again tomorrow?