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[Italiangreyhound]

Hi I am a newbie and only just started this journey, officially made the call last week.

Just interested how may other newbies are out there who are still in the early stages. I keep coming across people and recognising names. Anyone want to let on what stage they are at?

Tinkerbell I hope your move will do you good and that things will work out well weight-loss-wise.

Good luck.

Ok, this is a tricky one. Last week we saw a CPR and after a lot of late-night discussion decided we would like to take things further. On Friday our SW (who sent us the CPR, not just the profile, as she thought it could be a good match for us) emailed back and said she thought we were 'very brave'. Is she testing us?! Confused...

chocy what a weird thing for her to say, why not ask her what she meant. If she says oh nothing just say what's on your mind to her.

Will pm you.

Ok, thanks, will keep an eye on my inbox

Been mulling it over: if she doesn't think it's right for us, why did she suggest sending the whole CPR over? Does she think we wouldn't cope?

We are both aware this is the only CPR we've seen (seen a handful of profiles, followed one up, didn't come to anything) so don't want her to think we're jumping at the first one. But we both felt it could be a good match for us.

Choccy she just needs to explain her comment. (IMHO)

Yes what Italian said. Try not to second guess it, people say all kinds of stupid shit off the cuff stuff.

Choccy how exciting. Don't worry about her comment. If she's anything like our s.wrker she thinks she's being funny I'd ask her what she means. You've talked it through abd are happy, she must be happy to show it you so try not to fret (pot-kettle I know) By the way, ours was the first one we'd seen. Our s.wrker was determined not to show us any she wasn't totally happy with and she was right.

Glad to hear yours was the first you'd seen, soon as that does worry me a little.
We are now waiting to hear back after she talks to LO's SW tomorrow.
If I can get it into conversation I will ask her what she meant, as we both found it a bit odd.

Wow! That's brilliant news, Choccy! I am so pleased for you!

If your SW is anything like ours she will have meant it in a 'brave for taking the plunge' kind of way. Not specific to that child, but just in general. Does that make sense?

I wouldn't worry about it, but if it's out of character for her to say something like that, I would casually ask what she meant.

Good luck!

How exciting Choccy!
Oops I'd better explain I've namechanged, we'll be going to panel shortly after you, if that helps?
'brave' could mean any kind of thing, such as, brave for going for the first full profile; brave for 'committing' mentally, even before approval panel; brave for some reason specific to this child, which need not be about you coping at all; or, in fact, if she is anything like ours, your SW could have momentarily confused the child with another one.
I'd ask, and you may get a satisfactory answer. But don't worry too much if you don't; it could have been a throwaway comment which she has already forgotten about, so she wouldn't be able to properly explain what she meant.

Our SW has advised us that our draft PAR (which was due now) will be delayed. Oh well.

Apparently she meant brave as child has suspected FAS.

Medical for Dp was not so great.. 1kg on since last medical, bp was elevated. Just about tops off a fantastic week! And it is only Tuesday why the hell do we bother putting ourselves through this crap.
Got prep tomorrow but I am not looking forward to it after the sh*t time we had with the LA when we went through it before when she called us fat

Hugs to Choccy and Tinkerbell

Choccy - slightly odd SW comment, since that info was presumably covered in detail in the CPR, and you'd considered it carefully before you made your decision? Don't let one comment affect your instincts and your own reflections about the right match.

Tinkerbell - wow, just wow about what happened to you last time.
I hope prep tomorrow is a pleasant surprise and a much better experience for you.

tinkerbellpixie the benefits if the weight loss works out will be for you, it will be worth it. I really hope the rest of the week will be better.

Greyhound, if they look at last medical and this one the last medical was better despite the dr messing up. Dp has lost weight but not to what the scales are saying. I am going to talk to SW tomorrow at prep and ask for some advice

waves
I'm a newbie, recently approved.
Tink I know you from another place ;)
Just wanted to say hi

Tinkerbell how it go today talking to the social worker?

Italian greyhound pm x

Feeling a LITTLE bit better about the whole panel thing now I have received PAR today.

We sound rather nice :) Maybe I would like to be adopted by us

It's weird though innit? They say you never get to know the effect you have and there it is in black and white. Well I never. Apparently dh is a bit more intelligent than me. Who knew?

Ha ha!!! Don't tell me they put in your report that your DH is more intelligent.???

It's the phrasing - 'namechanges is lovely but Mr namechanges is very intelligent and...'

I think he might get it framed.

No gender stereotyping there then

name that made me chuckle. I won't tell dh about that, he'll only be disappointed if similar observations aren't made about him!

choccy hope all is going well for you with your possible link.