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when we are here?

style, 40 denier purple tights and over the knee socks

plus cocktail rings and swatch watches

yes

most unlike you M

how's everything and everybody?

well dd phoned this aft before she came over and oldest gd is mis behaving at school,obviuosly her home life is playing a big part of it ,BUT she wants also to change schools and go to the one her boyfriend goes to and dd says no, i think maybe she thinks if she mis behaves she will be asked to leave that school and so in the end get her own way !!!

God, that's all your dd needs right now.

will dd have to go into the school and speak with teachers?

i told dd when she came over to be careful because she may try and manipulate things to go her own way .She is a lovely girl and certainly not stupid but I think she could be very crafty !! I also told dd to remember she is the parent.

Good advice, M

it's hard isn't it?

apparently she did yesterday and lost the plot with them .They knew when they came to stay here the reason they werent at school and three times they phoned dd on the first day they were here to report that gd wasnt at school and where was she ,three dif people all working at the same place not communicating .dd was upset to have to keep explaining,so they do know the background of it all.

the school said she is being very disobedient and seems to be quite tearful !!! when they know the reasons already !!

dd,s partner was going to look at some more rooms tonight ,he hates being at his mums.

how old is she?

I hope he finds something

He must feel dreadful, trapped, frustrated, full of self-loathing.

she will be 14 in dec. she is taller than me already ! she is a very pretty girl but if you tell her that she dosent believe you.But even before this year she started to get the usual teenage attitude ,where you ask her a question and you get a grunt for a reply !! that kind of thing

yep all of those i would think tnog.Its a lot he has to go through before there is any light at the end of it,and it wont be easy for him.But of course my main concern has to be dd and the two girls.

I really want him to kick his addiction and I don't even know him

I want him and your dd to be happy together and for them all to be together again as a family, minus his drink problem

I know M

and you're a damn good mother and grandmother

thats what i want for them too tnog ,they actually go together as well.Time will tell.But they do still love each other so thats something ,hard to understand how he could attack her ,but that was the anger which is caused by the drink

what were you like at 14, M?

I can't really rememeber much except I know I was an absolute nightmare

boy mad and really really cheeky

well i dont always get it right tnog ,i try but its not always easy

very hard to stay calm with someone who hurts your child physically, specially someone who is supposed to protect them

well i wouldnt of dared to answer any teachers back,but i was a bugger for playing truant !! and not only that i always took a few other kids with me and of course when asked whose idea it was ???????????? guess who !!! we used to do normal things like smoke and hang around with a gang of boys etc.

To be honest I think you're quite an amazing person in a quiet unassuming way.

I really do.

oh god yes ,that night it happened ,i dont now how I stopped myself punching him ,but it may of made things worse for dd

Happy days, eh, M?

your dd's stress levels must be through the roof though

yes i think they must be and the school,sending her a letter made it worse !But she said she apologised today for her language that she used yesterday !!

my god ,you think when your kids become adlts they can sort themselves out and you will have some peace,not in my family !! but im glad they will come to me when they are in trouble even though it causes me sleepless nights etc.

Oh M

our children are our children till our dying day and we'll never stop worrying about them, will we?