Anyone else hate their neighbours?

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I’m just having a little rant. I hate my neighbours so much. They live as though they are in a detached house rather than a flat in a densely packed building. They ripped out the carpets and put wooden floors in without any consideration for noise. They stomp around with shoes indoors on said wooden floors. They get aggressive if anyone dares to complain and smoke cannabis which makes the building stink.

The building mangers are useless. They don’t do anything other than issue notices to all of the flats about antisocial behaviour but then do nothing about it.

Fortunately I am moving very soon. But I feel sorry for the next tenants. I was always puzzled when I first moved into this flat as to why the previous tenants had moved after only a few months. Now I know why.

WIBU to leave a parting note to the neighbours telling them how awful they are?

I have also turned in to a curtain twitcher, trying to figure out if my awful neighbours will be back soon, or if the car I can hear is them coming back.

the noise they generate is insane and even when they are out I can’t relax as I’m waiting for them to come back again

Yes, you would be unreasonable. Let the new people make their own assessments about the neighbours. For all you know, they may also smoke, like hardwood floors, have a parrot who curses loudly all night long, or practice the bagpipes first thing in the morning.

Either way, it won’t be your problem anymore.

Wow fancy being triggered by a flag .

I absolutely effing hate mine.
Tracey next door has a gob like a fucking fog horn.
She shouts at her husband alot. She goes off on huge rants at him. Usually it involves something to do with her wanting a Chinese take away, but he wont get one so she screams and shouts and bangs doors. The rants sometimes last 2 hours and tgen re start after an hour of silence. Today she had 30 minute rant mid morning something to do with her husbands "effing shed". She calls him a fat bastard and skinny cunt in the same sentence. She's an absolute delight.

When she's not shouting at her husband she is very loudly performance grand-parenting. Its honestly like a full blown kids party every single day between 3pm ish and 7pm. Full blown nursery rhymes, her screaming and shouting and whooping at the kids. Not in an abusive way, but animated, like is normal when playing with little kids except....she is at full shouting volume.

Apparently she is a retired teacher, but she does a fine job of manically and I mean in a manic way, winding up the poor kids to the point they get over stimulated and have a tantrum. It ends in tears EVERY day.

Imagine someone shouting at top volume Look at the fire engine, look at the fire engine really fast 20 times then shouting NeeNaw nee naw nee naw for about 2 whole minutes then shouting look look look. Its absolutely hell.

I work from home and ive become famous in my company for my nextdoor neighbour because its so loud it can be heard on a Teams meeting.

And then when him nextdoor isn't being shouted at, he does fucking continuous DIY. Drilling, hammering and using any fucking power tool he can get his hands on.

I HATE them!!!

The first 18 months i lived here, I had a young family with 2 under 5s nextdoor. Never had an issue.

A hate symbol toward what or whom? Saints? Dragons?

We're detached and only have one immediate neighbour but because of the way the houses are positioned rarely see them. It's bliss and the main reason I chose the house. The house itself is a complete fucking money pit and has given me nothing but trouble since day one but other than the canadian geese that reside in the area behind us we get very little noise. I would rather live in peace in my half renovated arsehole of a house than tolerate dickhead neighbours.

I’ve been there and it’s one reason why, now I’m almost ready to buy my first property, I would never buy a flat and don’t recommend anyone else does, unless they’re desperate.

Sometimes, people think it’s funny to blow cannabis smoke into their dog or cat’s face. A former boyfriend had a flatmate that did it. I think it’s cruel.

Thats bloody awful 😖

Sounds like you live in the area where they film benefits street or shameless!!! Id move rather than live next to what Sounds like real lowlives

It is. Also pets can become high through hotboxing, same as people (including children). Basically sitting in a small unventilated room filled with people smoking weed can get you passively high. Its cruel when it's an animal or child that has no choice or control in the matter even if it's through carelessness rather than intent.

I had a neighbour who would have parties until 7am and they would all bang on the joining wall. All because I asked her to stop banging in the middle of the night.
She would go to the pub and tell people there was a party after closing hours at my address, I would get drunk men ringing my doorbell, very late.
They posted cheesecake through my letter box and smeared butter all over my front window whilst I was away one summer.
They put my wheelie bin up again my door handle so I couldn’t get out and threw glass bottles into my back garden, my son was only 4 and loved playing in the garden.
I logged it all and sent it to the Housing Association, who did sweet fuck all.
I became suicidal and even wrote a letter pleading for them to stop, it didn’t stop, I had to move.
It all sounds over the top, but I honestly had to put up with this for 5 years.
She used to grin at me if I passed her on the street.

For all the talk of nextdoor neighbours, it can be those nearby that can cause issues.

There’s a family on our road that are evidently drug dealers and cover it by owning the next door house as a rental. The sons don’t work and spend their days pissing about in fast cars driving up and down the 20mph road for no reason at 50mph. The main issue is who it attracts on what is normally quiet residential street with their like minded customers driving at ridiculous speeds up and down the road at all hours.

I’m sure because they are such low level weed dealers the police don’t intervene. It doesn’t make them any easier to cope with.

Frustratingly it’s not just those adjacent or over the road from you that can cause the bother.

West midlands yes. She's a bloody nightmare. Her daughter and son in law are junkies(son in law also sells drugs) the daughters two kids live with her cos school reported to social and kids are with the nan(my not so delightful neighbour) she does all this mouthing off in front of those grandkids too-seems they're no better off there than they were with their parents a few doors down. Poor kids think that these behaviours are normal. The street constantly stinks of weed and it's not difficult to know where it's coming from as the daughter and her 18year old that social didn't remove from her are forever going about with a spliff in hand and high on goodness knows what else. Actually can't believe this neighbour is in her late 50s with adult grandkids the way she goes on she's like an overgrown antisocial teenager. It's like she thrives on drama. Even her husband has been heard telling her to shut up and get back in. My daughter had a few friends over for her 15th birthday 5 years ago early evening around 6pm they put some music on whilst sat in the garden she came out raging saying they couldn't be playing music at that time and had a shovel in hand threatening to cut heads off if they didn't turn it off(it wasn't even loud and even her own teen granddaughter said dunno what nans problem is it's a bit of music not even loud or at an unreasonable time) she told me get your kids mates out of your house before my family come after em else they're having you too. It's taken far too long for police to take her harassment and threatening behaviours somewhat seriously. She's on a community protection warning so far which was only issued days ago. Cannot wait to find somewhere to live away from her and her shitty family

It IS horrible. And not a bit funny.

Had an awful neighbour. I mean really awful. Moved into a care home a few years ago and since died. House up for sale, so run down it won’t sell. The longer it stays empty the better in my opinion.

I had a neighbour who was an alcoholic and an addict. It was truly horrible. Awful noises through the wall at all hours, especially really violent vomitting. Shouting. Banging things. When you hear things through a wall but cant actually see what is going on it is genuinely frightening. And a terrible smell of weed in the corridor.. He was initially some kind of executive and I gradually watched him go downhill. It was incredobly stressful having to live next door to him. I was so so relieved the day I moved.

I’d just leave and not even bother as it sounds like they are very selfish and won’t care!

Some of these stories are awful - so many inconsiderate and obnoxious people around 🙁I wouldn't leave a note in case it makes things worse for his wife and daughter. I understand the temptation though. Nothing worse than bad neighbours.

I live in a cul de sac and the house at the entrance flies a St George’s flag . I don’t like it as I feel it makes us look like a racist street. Two of my neighbours are in a relationship and have children but live opposite each other . They do it to commit benefit fraud I guess . They used to have gatherings in the street with another group of neighbours and a family of pleasant but permanently stoned weed smokers from further down the street. They all had decent sized gardens so never understood the gatherings in the street. On bonfire night they had huge fireworks in the street . While they were never unpleasant it made it difficult walking or driving down the street . Thankfully two of the families have left and it’s fairly peaceful now .

I live next door but one to a woman who introduced herself in our 2nd viewing of the house ( we've now lived here 12 years )
She told us it's a nice , quiet place to live and people are willing to help if needed but everyone usually keeps to themselves .

Truth in the matter , what she really meant is she sees herself as the queen of the street and will complain to the council if you don't comply to her wishes .

Don't keep your lawn scalped , complain .

Leave your hedges for the birds to nest in so don't trim them monthly , complain . Someone parks outside her house , knocks on every door to complain .

This. Are trades people known to be aggressive or are they just beneath you? What a stupid thing to say or even think.

I can't type out everything my neighbour has done since they moved in, they have also had the kids taken by ss, twice.
I don't know how many times the police have been out, the constant noise, whether it's music, shouting, banging (what on earth to they find to bang that makes so much damn noise?) Slamming doors, visitors at all hours of the day and night, shouting in the street.

But my main reason for posting is just because I have actually found the people that 'get it'.
That the silence is somehow worse than the noise, because you're constantly on edge waiting for the next thing. The curtain twitching (I am constantly on my ring doorbell). The lack of sleep leaving you feeling so ill and barely able to function. And just how badly it affects your mental health.

Unless you're dealing with something like this, I don't think anyone can truly understand.

I'd contemplate selling my house and moving, but no one who came to view would part with a single pound to live here. So I am trapped.

Isn't it the most awful feeling?

It consumes your life, so you have sympathy. I hope your dreadful neighbours move away soon.

Get a grip of yourself.