So, pil told dh I had a man around the house when he was at work…..

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Was at home with toddler, call from pil they said who’s there with you?
i said it’s just me and dd

then he asks me again
again no reply just is two

fil replies
I can hear a man’s voice …..

i realise he’s probably talking about a you my dd is playing with in background
like a shop type toy

what would you make of that?

You answered, he responded.
Mountains, molehills.

I think it's reasonable to ask who is there if you hear someone else talking while on the phone.

It's not reasonable to question your answer or to then tell your husband (although I'm still not clear whether they did or not. It seems a bit vague).

Anyway, why are your in-laws calling you? Surely they should be phoning their son rather than you. Just stop with the phone calls.

As a previous poster said, this may be his version of normal. It’s likely that he will always yearn for his mum to be the mum he yearns for, for things to improve. Many people from dysfunctional families model what normal is while their batshit relatives carry on dishing out hurt. It’s a really big thing to disown a parent and many don’t do it.

Exactly this - I started to laugh a bit because AS IF you would just casually be having random men over when you have a toddler tornado running around 😄

The amount of people who either have no clue, have forgotten or just underestimate how busy a toddler keep you always surprises me. My husband and I are always joke that we are amazed when we hear that anyone else has had an affair because who has the time and energy quite frankly lol

Is this clearer for you?

(OP) Was at home with toddler. Call from pil. They said, " Who’s there with you?

I said, "It’s just me and dd."

Then he asks me again.
Again, I reply, "Just us two."

Fil replies, "I can hear a man’s voice ….."

i realise he’s probably talking about a toy my dd is playing with in the background, like a shop type toy.

what would you make of that?

Well I’m going to guess that they’re my age or older so I’d probably be having fun with it (at their expense)

”oh it’s the window cleaner, you’ve seen ‘confessions of a window cleaner’ ?” 😂

Because making yourself effectively an orphan is a huge and painful thing to do, and has to be when he is ready.

Yes guess your right.
Just a bit weird when he says how much he can't stand them, that they are like strangers, yet he still sees them, so you must be right, guess he will take that step if he's ever ready. Guess in the mean time next time he's moaning about them, I just got to listen really.

Exactly this. If I were at home with a toddler, and there were times of day when it was awkward to go out because of naps or whatever, I’d have every available friend I had around for coffee. I mean, do they think you need a chaperone?

This approach definitely has merit. My sister has bullied me her whole life but our last interaction I got angry instead of timid and flared up at her. It actually fucking worked! She backed right off and I wish I had done it years ago!

She leaves me alone now.

OP. Maybe you should have said, "You fucking what? Come round here, check the place over for male DNA and then say it to my face, you twisted cunt!"..

Maybe one big pop like that would get the nasty minded turd to have a word with himself but I'm post menopause and have run out of fucks a good while since. 😶

I would never speak to them again. Looking for trouble. Block & delete, let them be your DHs problem if he wants a relationship.