I want 3 days in bed with shivers & aches

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The kind of shivers where even in the hottest bath you still have goosebumps from the shivers.

3 days in bed with a hot water bottle and sleeping

3 whole days off doing life

Anyone else resonate?

I’m really confused, are you saying you want to be unwell?
Or are you saying you are ill and need to go to bed for three days but can’t?

I think they are saying they want to be sick to escape life for 3 days

Dont be a dick. Some of us are genuinely unwell and this makes a mockery of this. Enjoy your health ffs.

I hear you. Three days unhooked from all your responsibilities, just unwell enough to warrant it but nowhere near bad.

Oh god. Don’t be so dramatic, you’ve chosen to be offended by that

You're allowed to take some time off just to rest if that's what you need.

Sounds like you need a couple of days off. How can you pull the trigger on that? What would you do if you were sick?

I've had this thought so many times! The truth is, if you were that unwell, you'd be miserable. But I understand the fantasy. I used to dream about breaking my arm to get some time off work.

Yeah, I get it. A brief, mild illness that’s just bad enough to necessitate a few days of R&R but won’t do any major harm. Some will say “just take a few days annual leave” but that misses the point. You can take time off but then there are all the other jobs that need doing. Catching up on the ironing, DIY tasks you haven’t got around to… and all the general family stuff that you still have to do.

A brief, mild illness is sometimes the only thing that gets you a few days of peace.

Yes because I have had terrible health this year with cancer and other shit. All I wanted was to be healthy and not bed ridden. So Yes, to wish your health away, albeit temporarily, is offensive to me.

She was talking about shivers… not cancer. Wishing you better anyway

Oh, I am super ill at the moment with cough, aches, shivers etc. Its horrible. I have not enjoyed my time in bed at all because I feel so awful! I can't sleep cos every time I try i just cough and cough. I cant breathe and my face hurts. I feel really cross that I've lost my whole weekend. Its been pants.
I know what you mean about wanting a break from the world but be careful what you wish for. I am now desperate to be well enough for work!

I had pneumonia ages ago and when it was bad it was horrible, but there was a few days in the recovery period when all I could really do was sleep, read a bit, sleep, go for a wee, sleep, eat a little, sleep and then get a full night's sleep too. And that bit of recovery was actually very pleasant, especially compared to the next stage which was pushing myself to get back to school run and all the household stuff.

The martyrs are out tonight with the ‘I fantasise about being ill as it’s the only way I can have a break’.

Like a PP said, enjoy your health and, assuming the world would still turn if you were in bed for three days, you can take a break.

Don't be silly. Of course the OP can long to have a few days in bed, excused responsibility. Her post isn't about you. (And I've had years of serious illness including cancer.)

It's also a symptoms of stress and depression. Some people even think about doing much worse to get a break from pressure and responsibility. So choose your words carefully and don't be so fucking nasty.

No thanks, health is wealth.

Precisely this.

Who can really take 3 random days off from life just because they're feeling a bit stressed? I'd love a full day where I spend all day in bed reading and chilling. But life doesn't stop and it really takes 2 adults to keep our household running as we like. Obviously if I were ill, yes we'd make it work. But I'm not going to put my husband through that just to indulge me.

So yes, op, I get you. I often want a day or two off and find myself thinking the only way would be a mild illness. I know that will offend some people but we're allowed to think these things.

I know I’m overdoing things when I start to imagine this. You need a break. I understand it’s not easy to do that though.

I used to think this when I was my most stressed and life felt out of control. I honestly think if you want to be ill or injured just to pause life for a while, you need to look at how to reduce some stress or pressure and how to take back a bit of control. Now I just look forward to weekends and holidays.

Oh god yes, but not to be long term ill. I get this also 🤣

So many people have missed the mark and overreacted to your post 🤣🤣

I’m thinking the same.

OP you can’t really want to be that ill? Unless you view it as some kind of martyred punishment for those who will have to pick up the slack? Colleagues? DP?

If you are dreadfully burnt out then you can take to your bed for a few days to recover. Will that actually fix what is broken though?

Its not really about matyrdom, its usully people with very young children in the relentless years with no support.
I totally get OPs feeling. Though when mine were little if I got sick and DH was on shift I would still have to somehow look after the kids as we had no help. We all got the flu once (proper can't lift your head flu) and had yo get up in 15 minute shifts to look after the babies and todders. Which was worse when they got better before us.
I did end up in hospital for a night once for monitoring as DD almost came too early. That was nice!
I now have a chronic illness, and the DC look after me sometimes, but can relate to OP very much!