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School asking for flight details after unauthorised term-time absence abroad

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PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:19

We went abroad mon-thu last week, ds (10) was in school the week before and went back on Friday. We let them know and obviously knew it would be unauthorised. As it was 8 sessions we don’t qualify for a fine. His attendance is usually 100%.

They asked on friday before and after for us to provide proof of the flights and other details for ‘safeguarding’ but he was back in school and clearly fine ?? We declined as this is private personal data. They replied back that we must submit the evidence by the end of tomorrow?

Is this usual ?

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JLou08 · 20/09/2026 18:30

Winter2020 · 20/09/2026 18:13

When I read the opening post I initially thought "why do they need that?"

But having read the thread and people's thoughts there are reasons that the school might ask

Some children are sent abroad to be married and while this is usually going to involve certain countries and cultures it is easier for the school to get information from everyone than to be accused of discrimination.

Some children are sent abroad for female genital mutilation and this is also going to involve certain countries and cultures - again it is easier for the school to get information from everyone than to be accused of discrimination.

Some children will experience abuse or injuries that lead parents to keep them off school.

On reflection parents with nothing to hide co-operating with the school and providing the evidence frees up the school's time for cases that are concerning. If we are going to push back and talk about our right to keep our holiday flight private etc then we should do that knowing it makes it harder for schools to spot children being sent abroad for harmful purposes and harder to spot abuse.

It's a bit late to ask for the info don't you think? Especially if it was FGM or marriage, the damage would already be done.

CandyCrushLevel14809 · 20/09/2026 18:31

KeepPumping · 20/09/2026 18:18

Yes, but most people won"t shell out for flights they don"t use, and you are checked onto the flight so they could check, same with hotels etc. very hard to create a false trail in the digital age, and easier to abuse a child in your home than at a relatives or in a hotel/AirBnB without being spotted?

I very much doubt (and hope) that any airline won't give our such details, same for hotels. They're not about to tell school staff who's flying/staying with them.
They would tell the police and maybe (??) social services, but unless the school had concerns for the child's welfare (parent not giving details of their holiday wouldn't meet that threshold).

OP, does your school as for such evidence for authorised absences - funeral, marriages? If not then do they think it's only a safeguarding issue when absences are unauthorised?

durdledoris · 20/09/2026 18:31

Gosh it wouldn't occur to me to ask a family for this - attendance is a massive part of my job. Theu must have their reasons. Just make sure he doesn't have any more absences within 10 weeks so you stay out of fi e territory

Error404FucksNotFound · 20/09/2026 18:32

Realistically, what can they do if you continue to say no?

Libby1233455 · 20/09/2026 18:32

No professional thinks that ticking this box rules out any abuse happening ever.

They’re doing due diligence. The boxes exist because eventually, if enough boxes aren’t ticked, and enough suspicions are raised, they might start to suspect something might be wrong and begin to build a picture of what might be happening in that family.

It might indeed be that this box IS ticked and the family HAVE been to Tenerife, but actually it’s established in multi professional meetings that the child has also been to A&E 3 times in the last three weeks, hasn’t been to the dentist in 6 years, the police have been to the house due to a domestic incident, etc.

It could also be the A&E thing, the dentist thing and the police thing, but also the child has been out of school for 4 days and the ‘flight details provided?’ box is NOT ticked. This then adds to the picture.

There’s lots of boxes and lots of things that could raise suspicion but it’s about patterns, not one box.

godmum56 · 20/09/2026 18:32

PersonalData · 20/09/2026 17:25

I’ve asked them. They just keep repeating for safeguarding and that it’s a requirement not a choice .

if it was me I would be asking them one of my usual questions which is "where is it written" I mean I wouldn't put it like that but would ask where it appears in the school safeguarding policy with link to the relevant law or other official requirement. I'd be making it clear that I have no wish to hide anything but do need to fully understand the request.

PigletJohn · 20/09/2026 18:33

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:07

The absence is enough to cause concern
They are being sensible. Why not just answer and be pleased they are bothering to ensure the children at the school are as safe as possible. Why does everyone have to make a problem out of everything.

And, what is the school going to do with the information, that they can't do without it?

Libby1233455 · 20/09/2026 18:33

Yewlez · 20/09/2026 18:10

But:

I could provide details of flights but never actually have gone on them

Or I could abuse my child while on holiday

How does having some fight numbers do anything except create a false sense of security?

No professional thinks that ticking this box rules out any abuse happening ever.

They’re doing due diligence. The boxes exist because eventually, if enough boxes aren’t ticked, and enough suspicions are raised, they might start to suspect something might be wrong and begin to build a picture of what might be happening in that family.

It might indeed be that this box IS ticked and the family HAVE been to Tenerife, but actually it’s established in multi professional meetings that the child has also been to A&E 3 times in the last three weeks, hasn’t been to the dentist in 6 years, the police have been to the house due to a domestic incident, etc.

It could also be the A&E thing, the dentist thing and the police thing, but also the child has been out of school for 4 days and the ‘flight details provided?’ box is NOT ticked. This then adds to the picture.

There’s lots of boxes and lots of things that could raise suspicion but it’s about patterns, not one box.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:33

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:10

Actually, it is.

It really, really isn't

notimagain · 20/09/2026 18:34

Just remembered this subject came up in a thread here a few weeks back in the context of a school wanting proof before travel..

If this is starting to become a common request and people are tempted to handover paperwork in those circumstances (just for a quiet life etc) make sure the booking reference/Passenger Reference Number, the PNR, is redacted.

That really isn't any of the school's business and in the wrong hands could cause problems.

SerendipityJane · 20/09/2026 18:35

But having read the thread and people's thoughts there are reasons that the school might ask

If those reasons are genuinely important then it's incumbent on the school to verify them. Which seems a colossal waste of time that might be better spent elsewhere.

And I'm still not clear what the downside is to not complying, apart from a grumpy school ? A sterner letter ? A visit from the Head ? A referral to SS ?

Astrabees · 20/09/2026 18:35

Flight details are not proof of anything! The school can't check they were on the flight. It seems to me that in asking this ridiculous question they are display9ng total ignorance of what safeguarding actually is. I would not provide the details.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:36

Needmorelego · 20/09/2026 18:11

@SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes you obviously have some personal issues around this type of situation so I won't be responding to you any more.

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It's a professional concern actually. The concept of 'safeguarding' being misused is frustrating and the misunderstanding of so many of what safeguarding actually is is a real worry.

TattyBluebell · 20/09/2026 18:37

Just let the school have the flight details. No big deal, no personal info with that.
Slightly irritating, I know, but just saves a load of hassle that I'm sure you don't need.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:38

Venicelagoon · 20/09/2026 18:13

Why cant you just give them the basic flight info ?

I know someone who had to documents to the school complete details of her son's absences due to an operation on his brain and hospital appointments. So why the big deal ?

That would have been presumably so they could authorise the absence, nothing to do with safeguarding

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:38

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:33

It really, really isn't

Yes it is, attendance is a huge factor when it comes to safeguarding. They will be basing it on the sensible idea that if you can't see a child you cannot know they are safe.

SerendipityJane · 20/09/2026 18:39

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:36

It's a professional concern actually. The concept of 'safeguarding' being misused is frustrating and the misunderstanding of so many of what safeguarding actually is is a real worry.

for "safeguarding" read "data protection" as a wonderful coverall.

Ralphschocolate · 20/09/2026 18:40

A quick google search tells you why ... UK schools are heavily monitored by Local Authority Attendance Teams and Ofsted regarding how they code absences. If your child missed school, the school cannot simply take a verbal or written note at face value to close the file. The school needs physical proof (like a flight ticket) to back up why a specific registration code (such as Code G for unauthorised holiday) was used.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:41

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:38

Yes it is, attendance is a huge factor when it comes to safeguarding. They will be basing it on the sensible idea that if you can't see a child you cannot know they are safe.

4 days off for a holiday in otherwise perfect attendance is NOT a safeguarding concern

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:42

SerendipityJane · 20/09/2026 18:39

for "safeguarding" read "data protection" as a wonderful coverall.

Safeguarding concerns always take priority over data protection. Schools have a duty to know where a child is when they should be at school.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:42

Ralphschocolate · 20/09/2026 18:40

A quick google search tells you why ... UK schools are heavily monitored by Local Authority Attendance Teams and Ofsted regarding how they code absences. If your child missed school, the school cannot simply take a verbal or written note at face value to close the file. The school needs physical proof (like a flight ticket) to back up why a specific registration code (such as Code G for unauthorised holiday) was used.

So it's fuck all to do with safeguarding, and all about record keeping and being accountable to Ofsted? So they are lying?

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:42

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:42

Safeguarding concerns always take priority over data protection. Schools have a duty to know where a child is when they should be at school.

You've missed the point

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:42

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:41

4 days off for a holiday in otherwise perfect attendance is NOT a safeguarding concern

It would be. Attendance is a key part of safeguarding.

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:44

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:42

You've missed the point

I don't think I have, it feels relevant to the whole conversation.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 20/09/2026 18:44

BooksandSlippers · 20/09/2026 18:42

It would be. Attendance is a key part of safeguarding.

No it definitely wouldn't be
It's a holiday. In an otherwise perfect attendance record, for a child with no social work involvement or history, (in the example OP gives, not saying it's factual, I don't know that) and no prior reason to think the child is at risk. It's NOT a safeguarding concern.