Sorry for the early Christmas post but I need some advice. I have two adult children who recently bought houses with their partners. Up until now we have always done Christmas at our house (their home until earlier this year) . Our eldest has said she would like to host this year but she doesn’t want to invite my father in law ( her grandad) we always host him because he’s dhs dad and he doesn’t have anyone else. She doesn’t want to invite he because he’s a bit lacking in manners - chewing with mouth open for example and he’s quite sexist/ old fashioned on his way of thinking. For example he makes a big fuss that dh cooks as he can’t understand why it wouldn’t be me cooking. But she has also accepted help from him when she was renovating her house both financially and practically (he’s a retired builder) so I feel like she owes him something. Dh and I feel it’s wrong if he spends Xmas day alone we are happy to host but also don’t want to offend dd. What would you do?