Losing the plot with child losing everything!

[CalmGreenWasp]

I’m not really sure why I am even posting this, but can I ask for advice on dealing with children who constantly lose things. For context, this year (Jan to now)

1. Three expensive coats
2. Three School jumpers
3. Three ties
4. Two entire PE kits
5. Countless pencil cases/homeworks
6. One pair of trainers (from her actual feet that day!)
7. Three tablets (lost and broken)

any advice or funny stories welcome. I am losing the will!

My kid is very similar, I don’t replace any lost tech/anything fun that isn’t a need. Try just have to do without that.

anything that they do need (school jumper, shoes etc) I use their pocket money to replace. So if they get £10 a month and a list jumper is £20 they would have to go two months without any money.

This, alongside lots of coaching and actual help to try and get organised, has had zero impact. Zero.

I was also this child and can remember the shouting. I also got lost frequently and could never master bike riding.

Yep, dyspraxic.

The fact that a 10yo has enough money for an iPad, as well as £1k bracelet and numerous expensive coats etc combined with all this loss suggests she doesn’t know the value of money at all

Money can’t solve everything. She needs an assessment.

Oh gosh I never had money! I was a hungry child living in poverty, so it was probably even more galling for my parents.

I was the child that lost everything, drove my mother insane. It turned out annother girl was stealing my things. God knows why, she was very troubled, i got in a lot of trouble from my parents for being careless etc until the teacher realized. It was not nice at all it maybe not applicable at all to your situation, but it happened to me. Stupid things like lunchboxes, bits of uniform. It went on for at least 6 months.

I was about 10 at the time

I don’t want her to feel shitty if she really can’t help it. We have all forgotten items at times, how awful would it be to be punished for it? Funny, we did exactly as you said during the week. I stood with her and watched her pack her bag up deciding “where things go.” Another poster suggested basically narrating where she placed things as she went, and we tried that. I don’t know if it will make a difference, but I am trying. She is buying a new iPad out of her own money tonight though, and I will be suggesting something second hand should it get lost or damaged in future

Apple tags on everything?

I’ve was told by a paediatrician that she is “performing too well academically” and that this would not be consistent with an adhd diagnosis ..

DD1 at uni was diagnosed with ADHD which explained a lot.

The air tag idea is inspired - but not one I used. I taught them to check we had everything before leaving a room evey time- how mainly by doing it as I was taught that and then getting them to join in.

Before leaving the house they had a check list - literally one they could tick off then over years an internal habit one.

I'm stumped DH and his mother do not do this still and have to have rushed back or lost things because they failed to do that.

Is it her or is it a wider issue - DD1 lost two black coats and I was upset but turned out standing in pick up from scoutes is was a bloody epidemic - all the kids were losing black coats and getting near the lost property was made really hard for the kids - solution there was a very cheap black rain coat for a while. Plus when DS shoes went it was deliberate - he learnt to hide them in bags.

At a certian point say with tablets - that's it there are no more - can not really do that with uniform.

Just seen this is primary school - I would talk to them as they should be able to find some of this.

As they move round less in primary how is she losing so much - I would ask the school as it's a lot and maybe there is more they could do to help her.