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Banned from my local supermarket after an argument with a member of staff- my language was bad though.

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Alderedge1 · 24/08/2026 13:55

So today I’ve been banned from my local supermarket, I’m not proud of what happened but I think that the member of staff was also in the wrong.

i was in the fruit and veg aisle looking to get some pre- chopped melon. The ones that come in sealed plastic pots. They were stacked quite tightly and some of the dates were quite soon, so I decided to go towards the back, in doing this I accidentally knocked 5 or 6 pots off the shelf. Immediately a female member of staff was on me- telling me “ you’re supposed to take the ones from the front”. I apologised for knocking some of them from the shelf but explained that it was my choice to choose the date that I wanted. By this point I had reassembled the display, so no harm done. She carried on chuntering so I said something like “ it’s really not a big deal, let’s move on”. As I went to walk away she said, “ it’s just not on”. I’m afraid this is where I let myself down. She was a small pointy woman of about 60 with short dyed red hair. I asked her what her problem was and she said “ customers like you thinking they own the place” to which I replied ( I know this is bad) “fuck off and shut your cunt up you fucking crackhead Anne Robinson lookalike”. It’s not often I take such a low blow but I had a rough upbringing and when I’m really pushed it emerges. The lady stormed off.

as I was leaving a manager asked me if I could step into an office for a chat, I said no thank you. She then said well I’m afraid that you won’t be able to shop here moving forwards.

so that’s that. Not proud of my mouth but she was a fucking horrible twat.

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Alderedge1 · 25/08/2026 07:03

dancehysterical22 · 25/08/2026 06:57

There was absolutely no need to comment on the woman's physical appearance. Did it make you feel better about the situation?

Yes I think it did. I was outraged at her goadiness and inability to just stfu and leave me alone. So yes, momentarily I think it did make me feel better.

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Alderedge1 · 25/08/2026 07:04

ThriveAT · 25/08/2026 03:35

You are classless. Your behavious was gross. Just, ew.

Thank you x

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Alderedge1 · 25/08/2026 06:15

Never been banned from anywhere ever ( well I was banned from the local swimming pool when I was 14, but that was 30 years ago)

I can't be the only one dying to hear the swimming pool story. Please share. 🤣

PrettyLittleRose · 25/08/2026 07:12

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That's a lot of words to say very little.

Yes, actions DO have consequences. As the OP has discovered. Wink

PrettyLittleRose · 25/08/2026 07:13

WorsethingshappenatC · 25/08/2026 07:06

I can't be the only one dying to hear the swimming pool story. Please share. 🤣

Hmmmm, now let me guess. The OP dropped a log in the pool. Or punched a lifeguard who told her to quit the heavy petting with one of the lads from school.

Whatever it is, it will be just HILARIOUS! 🙄 She probably called him a twatty cunt who looks like Rodney from Only Fools And Horses. Oh the hilarity! 😂

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mrschocolatte · 25/08/2026 07:14

I guess everyone involved in this situation learnt actions have consequences. I am firmly in the camp of having the right to defend yourself, but the savage nature of your response OP...flipping heck!
I’m not sure an apology will cut it. The store has a duty of care to its employees and will probably back the lady in question, She is probably now shit scared of you. You might think she deserves that but it’s an awful feeling to be terrified of another person. Finding a new supermarket might be the best and safest option for all.

Rubyupbeat · 25/08/2026 07:17

You are disgusting, a rough upbringing is no excuse, you know acceptable and not acceptable. You could have complained about her to the manager.

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Supersimkin7 · 25/08/2026 07:23

More entertainment here than any Anne Robinson show, ever.

Stormyrose · 25/08/2026 07:24

Well this is all a bit attention seeking isn’t it.

Alderedge1 · 25/08/2026 07:24

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Ha ha. Very close with my kids and grandkids thank you. I’m a very nice calm lady until someone takes the piss out of me

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Stormyrose · 25/08/2026 07:24

Well this is all a bit attention seeking isn’t it.

And here you are giving me attention Stormy x

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Alderedge1 · 25/08/2026 07:26

WorsethingshappenatC · 25/08/2026 07:06

I can't be the only one dying to hear the swimming pool story. Please share. 🤣

I’m afraid it’s quite tame. The sessions were one hour long. My friend and I hid in the toilets to try and get an extra hour.we were caught and turfed out

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Oh dear Morningluv, I’m sorry if my reality doesn’t fit your narrative. Shall I really blow your mind….??…. My daughter and her child live in my house, with me!!!! Imagine that.

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Oh dear, now I see you. Scary Mary. Furiously typing out repeated comments. In my minds eye you resemble Mary off of Corrie, or Martha from Baby Reindeer.

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DottyDot3377 · 25/08/2026 07:31

Asmileisworthathousandwords · 24/08/2026 14:05

If I was shopping near you I would have been upset just hearing that.
Then again I am hyper sensitive to people using vile language and unpleasant words as my adult son is unable to speak at all.
I have a view that if we have been blessed with the ability to speak (not all of us have sadly) then we should think carefully about how we use and choose our words.
Maybe I am being over dramatic but I'm having a down day and your post triggered something in me.

I agree with you. Speech is a gift and we should always try to use it wisely. My youngest child has severe speech difficulties and it is heartbreaking to both watch, and know, how utterly hard life is as a result. It causes so much concern for the future. Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone ~ no matter how much it might feel/seem that way. Sending you best wishes 💕💫

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Yes she knows all about it and rolled her eyes at me. This isn’t going to be a Q&A answer session though between me and you scary Mary/Martha)

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