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Should i advice DS not to add his girlfriend as joint tenant. ?

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Hishome · 26/07/2026 10:45

Ds is 19 and has been given a one bedroom flat by social housing. He was in supported accommodation before this for around 2 years. He is vunerble in some ways.

He has a girl friend hes been seeing for for about a year maybe slightly longer. Who's 7 years older than him. But she is younger for her age she is also vunerble in some ways she's been through a hell of alot from being a carer for her parent which she's now pulling away from..

I'm going to sound absolutely awful now. But shes going to be moving in with ds and they are talking about her name going on the tenancy as a joint tenant. My worry is if they break up she would still have a legal right to stay there. Obviously ds does as well. But if Ds is the one to leave because its to stressful. He would loose his home. He would then be seen as making himself homeless and won't get any help its very rare for a young male to get social housing which is for life. If he looses that due to relationship break up. Hes stuck in rented rooms until hes 35 and then unsecured accommodation for life.

I just think if she's moving in it should be as an occupant not a joint tenant as least for a year or 2.

I should add that she does currently have her own housing application.. they are at the stage of homless intervention. Where they are offering her studio flats /rooms. well out of the area . And she's refused them. Because they would isolate her from her support network and have a big impact on her mental health. Which i totally understand. She's explained this to the council. They told her that she needs evidence from her GP which the GP has done but she's still not collected. She's been warned they could end their duty if she refuses accommodation. But now Ds has his place and she's moving in. She will tell the council, shes moving in with her boyfriend and the application will be closed. Which i understand that's not a problem . But I'm worried about Ds housing should anything go wrong.

She wants to be joint tenant so she has security .

I just want people's opinions.

And I'm sorry if the post is a bit mixed. I was typing as it came to me.

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Hishome · 26/07/2026 11:22

Iloveeverycat · 26/07/2026 11:06

Do either of them work. Would her moving in affect his benifits.

He's in pip and uc. She's on uc esa I I think? They would have to do a joint claim.

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Hishome · 26/07/2026 11:31

Shinyandnew1 · 26/07/2026 11:13

Ah, well that’s good. I still would advise against her being named on the tenancy. Can you talk him through the situation if they were to break up and she is named? What does he think would happen? Does he have any sort of social worker/project worker who can advise him as well?

He had a key worker but that was linked to his supported accommodation. I think theres still a few bits to sort out so he will probably talk to her. I mean I could tell him what my worries are and then add maybe you could talk to your key worker. She knows his girl friend is going to live with him. But she did say to him go to the viewing on your own and don't mention your girlfriend.

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Hishome · 26/07/2026 11:40

Worldcuproadshow · 26/07/2026 11:18

I'd switch it around and say it's in her best interest to have a separate home as a woman. If you say to your son that you regard him as vulnerable then he'll only be more determined to move her in.

Turning it round to her and being concerned for her future wellbeing will make her less defensive towards you & your intentions. As social tenancy applications take a long time to process, she'd be silly not to pursue a claim in her own name. Nobody can predict the future and how long the relationship will last.

I was going to do both? Tell ds what the worry is. But also say to her the impact it could have on her. Because if SHE wanted to leave she would also be seen as making herself homless as she has a joint tenancy. Which could impact on her housing.

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Bananacrepewithnuts · 26/07/2026 11:41

Aveno432 · 26/07/2026 10:53

As he's young and also vulnerable I'd say you're spot on to be honest. She can move in but I'd say steer clear of having her as a joint tenant. Mind you, I'd also be keeping a close eye on the wider issue - two vulnerable people together can be recipe for disaster.

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 26/07/2026 12:06

I think you’re right and I think you should explain to him - but also he is an adult and he needs to make the decision himself. Good luck to them both and congratulations on getting the flat!

Blondeshavemorefun · 26/07/2026 12:21

Absolutely don’t add her

Hishome · 26/07/2026 15:20

Iloveeverycat · 26/07/2026 11:04

This.
Relationship limits: Councils usually only grant joint tenancies to married couples, civil partners, or cohabiting partners who have lived at the property for at least 12 months.

I looked it up/chatgbt it seems he can't add her as a joint tenant whilst on trial tenancy. Which is a year. But he can add her as an occupant. So that at least buys a year.

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songbird3086 · 26/07/2026 15:39

I work in social housing and if your DS has been given a intro tenancy ( 12 months before going secure which is mostly always the way ) id check if he is even able to add a joint tenant on.. she would likely be a occupier for this first year

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