Shared male and female changing areas etiquette - swimming

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The leisure centre I use has a large changing "village" for everyone. There are individual lockable changing cubicles and individual lockable showers.

On the basis that I've been sharing a pool, wearing a swimming costume, with the same people, I don't have a problem with changing or showering on the other side of a partition from men or women or with moving around the area half dressed.

I was just wondering what the expectation is re moving between the shower cubicle and and changing cubicles. Is it OK to go wrapped in a towel, or is the expectation that you'd shower in your costume or put it back on (or other clothes?) before leaving the cubicle?

I don't think dressing in the shower is practical as there's nowhere dry to put anything.

Fwiw, they do have seperate male and female toilets.

I don't know why you think it matters?

It's not like anyone can see underneath your towel and most people would wrap a towel around themselves whether they'd removed their costume or not.

That's what I'm asking. Does it matter?

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I can't think of a reason why being covered by a towel would be unacceptable. What makes you think it might not be?

Sorry OP, but a thread title like this is going to attract the wrong sort of attention from the wrong sort of person.

I don't know, but for example I'd answer the door in a dressing gown, or a swim suit on a very hot day, but not in nothing but a towel?

That's completely different circumstances, most people wouldn't do something they didn't have to in nothing but a towel. And bear in mind, you'd be more covered by your towel than a swimsuit.

You've thought too hard about this.

If you're concerned, maybe take a lightweight cotton dressing gown to pop on when you come out of the shower.

I have a dry robe towelling thing for this reason

Wrapped in a towel is fine.

You need to leave the cubicle in a swimming costume or fully dressed. In a towel with nothing else is not normally accepted because it leaves others open to allegations. I used to be a lifeguard and it was changing room etiquette, I'd expect it to be general.

Are all your towels transparent?

How would anyone know if there was anything underneath?

Thank you. I knew I wasn't completely mad to be wondering.

Well it's not 'general'.

In all my 50+ years on earth I've never seen a sign telling people what they're allowed under their towels.

And as for an unspoken 'etiquette', again no-one without X-Ray eyes would even know.

Swimsuit can't fall off. Towel can accidentally 😱

I’m interested in these replies as we have a similar set up at our local pool and I have never seen anyone in just a towel (for women not having a swimming costume or bra straps means you can pretty much tell). I think it would be considered quite a faux pas here.

You are way overthinking this.

I just keep my swim suit on and then dry off and change in a cubicle.

I have been known to take my swim suit off and then wrap a towel around me but I usually do that in the ladies. Not in a unisex.

I tell you what isn't acceptable, men lathering their genitals under their trunks in the communal shower area, even with their backs facing out. We get that.

Why on God's earth is this not acceptable?

Are you ok with women washing their genitals with their backs turned?

How do you feel about children cleaning themselves?

I think in the mixed sex changing villages near me, the expectation would be that people are showering in their costume and then wear their costume (plus or minus towel) to walk to their cubicle.

I would generally have taken shampoo to the poolside if I wanted to wash my hair but not my towel and only got my towel out my locker after I had showered. I think this was pretty standard practice at my pool.

I'm now somewhere with single sex changing rooms which I prefer.

Sonyou wouldn't have a 'proper' shower at the pool?

I've been swimming more frequently recently and am finding it's playing havoc with my hair and skin.

I'm not sure it would be usual/comfortable to see anyone washing their genitals in a communal shower? TBH I'm not really sure what communal swimming pool showers are for, as no one seems to actually wash in them.

I leave my cossy on when showering but just pull it down so my bum and bits are still covered. Do my top half then legs and just pull it down to do my bits. Don't take it off completely. Then just pull it back on again properly when I leave the shower. It's really not that difficult.

That's actually what I did last time, but I did find it "difficult" to rinse my bits properly.

The very fact they've turned their back to have a quick wash down their trunks, is every reason to stop looking at them.

Other people being rude enough to look, is not their problem.