I don’t think there is any way to stop people calling me a completely different name to mine

[inmyhome]

And I really wish it did not bother me, but it does.

My name is very uncommon, but it is virtually identical in spelling to another slightly more common one. However, the pronunciation is different.

I am selling my house. It has been let out for over a decade with the same estate agents. They still call me the wrong name.

It doesn’t seem to matter how many times you correct people and there really does come a point where there aren’t enough hours in the day.

Weirdly, it’s only in the area I grew up in this is an issue. Has anyone else had this?

Reply to every misspelled name communication with this

This happened to me many years ago at a job interview,my name begins with j and I was called Heather!, I corrected them but they still called me Heather,luckily I didn't get the job,what would they have been like to work for!

I gave up and changed my first name. My relatives back home use my (very simple 4 letter) real name. Everyone else uses English name. Then when I got married (young) I leapt on my husbands surname like it was a titanic lifeboat. Honestly why make life harder than it needs to be? Save that energy for world peace or curing cancer.

Please tell me your name isn’t Jeather!

Seriously, fucking idiots.

Me too. It’s a real and quite normal name, just one letter different than a more common variant, and a different stress pattern. I don’t overly care what people call me anymore but I don’t appreciate it when they subsequently get annoyed with me if they realise they’ve been mispronouncing my name when someone else arrives and calls me something else (not always correct either) . Inevitably they lapse back to mispronouncing it next time anyway.

Dd is one of a friend group of four and the other three have similarish names, something along the lines of Belle, Annabelle, and Alana. I can cope fine when it’s one at a time, but when they’re together, my brain freezes up so I just stick with “hello girls” to be safe.

What the fuck?

Let’s hope that you don’t work in education or healthcare with your twatty attitude.

Op hasn’t said that her name is a silly made up name.

I’ve had this too! Rather that I don’t spell my name the way SHE would spell it Her native language and land of birth isn’t the UK, and her mother tongue is German, but yet I, even in my mid 40s am spelling my name incorrectly. We didn’t go back to stay at that church, and God doesn’t find my name strange.

If it’s Eva and you are trying to get people to call you Ava I feel for I have three friends with the same spelling, one is Ava pronunciation and the other two are Eeva pronunciation. Honestly even I get mixed up and I have known them for years. Only one is British

Titania? I can imagine some debate over the middle vowel sound, maybe with some variation for accent. Bath/barth etc.

Yup. I have an unusual name which is very similar but for two letters to a much more common name. Even at work when we use email, and my name is spelt there for all to see - people will still misspell it. It's infuriating and it's so rude. I'm sick of the name that mine gets mistaken for. And a lovely new girl just started at work... With that name.

One of my DC is Emilia, I think it’s so beautiful but weirdly I don’t like Amelia at all, to me they are different names, with different origins and in most accents are pronounced differently but quickly realised when she was a baby that I’d spend my whole life saying “Emilia with an E” as people don’t listen or it’s hard to tell the difference over the phone.

For some reason we quite often get “Emelia” 🤣

If I say “like Emiliy” people think I’m insane.

I have a relative called Micah who gets called Mike or Michael so much he’s taken to introducing himself as that because everyone gets it wrong anyway.

@CrawlingBackToYou it isn’t a made up name

I think this is the rub: some people genuinely don’t have the brains to cope with names that aren’t Katie or Rebecca (not suggesting there’s anything wrong with those names of course.)

So what you’re saying is don’t have the temerity to be Welsh, Irish or Scottish, if you’re from further flung parts frankly fuck off and while you’re at it, don’t have anything you personally haven’t heard of.

JFC. You’d probably say that’s a silly made up name too, it’s quite common in Spain.

They are either rude or thick. Maybe you should ask them which they are.

I don't have a name that's hard to pronounce, but there are several ways of spelling it. It gets very annoying when people spell it wrong when replying to something that I've signed with my correct spelling.

I once had a Zoom meeting with a serial offender, so changed my name to "Bobby with a Y" (name has been changed to protect the innocent)

Losing your shit albeit nicely is the only way. And say from now on i will not reply when you call me Eliza instead of Elise. Not aggressive but assertive. Stop people every single time and say my name is important to me I’m Eliza please remember my name.

Sometimes I think I might as well.

The thing is, it’s actually quite a nice name (I think so anyway) and the name they replace it with isn’t, IMHO. So that’s another irritating factor.

Happens all the time to me too, what annoys me more is when people misspell it on an email or social media when my name is there in black and white 🙄

I'm with you op. But I've corrected people again and again till they get it right.

I have a name that is foreign but rhymes with common English names and is spelt the same, so like say, it rhymes with Lisa and is spelt Parisa. So why do they call me Parissa rhymes with kisser? I mean fine the first time but not after being corrected. And one colleague had the gall to tell me that it "ought" to be spelt Pareesa if that's how it's pronounced. No one tells Lisa it ought to be spelt Leesa.

Are you joking?
I have NC for this but my name is Danielle. I email from a Danielle email address and sign it off as Danielle and get back “thanks Daniel”

I have sat in a&e while they’ve been calling out Daniel and nearly missed triage because that’s NOT MY NAME
I never had this issue until about 5 years ago
I do pronounce it Dan yell rather than Danny L but still

Every time they call you the wrong name after you've already corrected them, ask them why do you call me X when I've already clarified my name is Y? Is there anything I can do to help you remember my name?

Getting someone's name right is a very basic courtesy and it does matter. It really does.

Is it something like Kristy? In Scotland, I found a lot of people default to Kirsty. You could try just not answering, but I know that could be awkward.

All the time. My name is often mispronounced, more like being called Anna instead of Anne, ie an “a”
is added to the end as there is a version of my name witn an a on the end.

Ffs there are some dicks on this site sometimes

My first name has two equally normal spellings. It’s quite rude of people to use the wrong one when the correct one is right in front of them on my email signature. Before I married I had an uncommon surname. There is a more common surname which sounds like it has one letter different, and almost universally I would say my name and have the more common name repeated back to me. Neither of those things is the fault of the people who named me rather than the rudeness of the person who can’t be bothered to get it right.

People get my name wrong all the time or they use my easy to pronounce surname instead. My name is very rare but it is phonetic. For some reason it doesn't really bother me. Not sure why. It bothers my kids and my partner and my friends though and they get really annoyed.