ASo I have a lodger who started out as a potential partner then moved to being my friend now my worst enemy. He's a narcissist, takes ut doesn't give while I'm a suffering landlady who does more for him than I should. we've lived together 12 yrs and despite the number of yrs he only gives me £400 month rent for which he gets his own living room and bedroom. i also do all the house work, gardening and laundry. I also take him shopping every week. What do I get in return just his rent and nothing else. He recently started working shifts at the weekend and needs a lift to work at 5.15am as the buses dont run at that time. he started these shifts in May and so far I've done 14 trips of 6 miles each way to work and 10 pick ups from a local area about 2 miles away after work.
He said he would "pay me" but like all our talks about money it ended with an argument. He finally agreed on £5 (a taxi would cost £15). He's terrible at paying me money and I often get it months later. For the local.pick ups he said he'd give me access to all.if his streaming services. I was ok with this and thought we'd made a fair agreement. Last night he got home from work and I asked why he hadn't called me to pick.him up. He made some comment about me charging him. I said we'd agreed on me using his streaming services to which he blew up saying how much he pays for them etc. I told him to forget it and I deleted them all. He said ill judt give you petrol money and I said I wouldn't be picking him up again. This morning he got a taxi to work. my friend tells me to chuck him out but I'm used to him being there and the rent money helps me whil I'm trying to.find a full time job. He makes me feel.like I'm some kind of gold digger when it comes to money and says he pays my bills. I've told him yes he pays rent but if he rented elsewhere he'd be paying more and would be paying someone else bills. He wont give notice and if I gave him notice he'd paint me as a horrible person for kicking him out. Amy questions are, would be unreasonable to ask for more rent?? is ,£5 for a lift to work bad? why are men like this? is withholding money owed abuse? please help!!!