Any good CF comeuppance tales?

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As i'm currently going through the most mind-blowing CF situation, and waiting for the courts to open a case against them, please can you point me in the direction to the best CF threads where they got their comeuppance. This will hopefully give me some reassurance that CFs don't always get away with it!

This a little longish but good one... Before we moved into our house the next door neighbour 'kindly' put up a new fence between the two properties to save the previous owner the 'hassle and expense', it was her boundary to maintain. He took quite a chunk out of her garden which she didn't seem to notice. We bought the house and planned a new garage (no mention of a gift of land from her to him in our sale process, which he tried to claim). We realised what had happened in the building of our new garage which had to be a certain distance from the boundary. The boundary on the plans was a straight line boundary and it now had a big curve and a dog leg in it, to the neighbours gain. It was all very provable with good land surveys and plans from the land registry which showed the exact measurements of the boundary and gardens.

When we asked him to give the land back he said 'you've got a boundary dispute', and proceeded to harass us (name calling from his car as he drove past etc, all very childish). Then we got really weak letters from a law firm threatening us and telling us to negotiate the boundary, I think he got some legal advice on his household insurance and a new trainee was tasked to write the letters, they were very poor. We wrote lengthy replies back pointing out that we didn't need to negotiate as we had plans with the dimensions on. This lawyer made up scenarios about how his client could have come into possession of hte land that were ridiculous and unproveable. Then his lawyer's argument was we needed historic photographic evidence. The saga took an amazing twist - a woman showed up at our house saying her mum used to live there and was clearing out her current home to downsize and would we like her historic 1980's arial photo of the house which clearly showed a straight boundary, the number plates of the cars in the drive made it dateable. What a gift!

Then we think the neighbour ran out of money / credit with the lawyer as the letters stopped. The fence hadn't moved. Two years had gone by, it was unresolved and needing sorting in case anyone need to sell / move etc. So my husband took him to the land registry tribunal for mediation with a judge present. He had to present our case, the neighbour attended with his (3rd) surveyor present to do his talking for him. The case was closed in 5 mins with the return of our land. It cost us about £350 in a professional land survey to show the exact current boundary and about £250 to take the case to tribunal, my husband had an unpaid day off work and a train fare to London. We estimate the neighbour spent several thousands.

The neighbour I think is a horrible bully and used to getting his own way. The judge also instructed him never to contact us again unless it was an emergency at our request.

This made me almost choke on my tea 🤣! A Dhar Mann story come to life!🤣🤣

Wow. So much for a light-hearted thread. It's always so depressing to scroll through pages of deleted comments and other PP's insisting on pressurising others to answer their questions when they feel the person hasn't dealt with the situation in the way they would have done 🙄have a day off!

OP, as others have mentioned, your story is so similar to another one I read... it's awful to think the lengths some people will go to with these kind of things. I mean CFery with friends not paying their way, or drivers being total arsewipes but getting their comeuppance is one thing; but your CF is above and beyond!! I really hope you get it sorted quickly as I can't even begin to imagine how stressful it must be, in addition to managing your grief. 💐

But it's not op's concern whether she's changed or not is it?

She can forgive her husband, who she made the vows with and is a far more important relationship with, and still harbour bad feelings against the woman. Thats fair enough, isnt it?

Why come on and police how she feels when it wad her done the dirty on?

Anyway you sound like a reasonable person with a different opinion to mine- we'll agree to disagree.

Back to the thread

Years ago DH took our two young kids to a local park. He got chatting to another dad doing the same. A gang of teenagers arrived and commandeered the swings and were swearing a lot. DH asked if they could keep the swearing down as there were young children around and please could they leave at least one swing free so the children could use it. One of the teens told DH to fuck off and then said if he spoke to them again he would "get his dues" and showed DH a knife.

The other dad leapt up, tackled the kid and told DH to call 999. Turned out he was an off duty police officer. When his colleagues arrived to process the arrest they realised that the kids were the same ones they had seen on CCTV earlier shoplifting from the local Tesco so they ended up getting nicked for that as well as the knife.

Oh do one please

Yes there was a post. Spain is notoriously difficult about getting squatters out and you’re right you can’t cut off utilities.
There are new laws now I believe but depends on the type of squatter and how they came to be in the property.
You can get firms that will negotiate privately have you offered them money to leave? That’s what an acquaintance of ours did. Quite a hefty amount, not that you should have to of course , but as you say it could take years.

Yet you’re still with a man who betrayed you in the worst way. I fail to see how you’re the ‘winner’ in this situation. Why are you still tracking her life?

Brilliant.

I'd been trying to sell a house in difficult circumstances. I had to get three valuations.
One particularly rude agent told me it needed 'gutting' and new modern furniture. They were the agency who sold it to me but apparently it was a hard to sell and I would have to cut my losses. Five different people from the same office rung up over the last five months to persuade me to sell it at ever decreasing values. We got to point of the agent saying it was worth less than I paid and they had someone prepared to 'take it off my hands'. Well reader I sold it yesterday to family member who wants it as a BTL. Solicitors instructed. I can't wait for the sign to go up as they thought I was desperate. They have a reputation for selling to 'mates' and they underestimated me. I'm a disabled women but my brains fine. Bastards.

My ExH cheated on me with OW. I moved out, leaving his 4 DC's whom I adored and had a wonderful relationship with.
He's since on the bones of his arse financially, got evicted from his house and the house is completely destroyed and disgusting tbh. The only ones that have my sympathy, as always, are his children.

@ThisMadeMyDay
MN posters are notoriously uber understanding, but only if it is the wife who had the affair.
This linked thread below shows the overwhelming support for a woman who had an affair and decided not to tell her husband.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5544071-should-i-tell-my-husband-about-an-affair-that-ended-last-month?page=12&reply=153076782
I am clumsily trying to say that you did what was right for you. Some posters are so aggressive. Strange they never posted or voted on the above thread. I am pleased everything worked out for you in the end.

It is a fairly normal part of the process of forgiveness that the other party, apologizes, repents, changes. @ThisMadeMyDay 's DH did that and was forgiven. The OW probably has neither sought or worked for forgiveness, and that poster also feels that it was particularly cruel because of their acquaintance. Oh and she blew up her own marriage to have an affair with this spiv.

ExDP has silver BA membership because he does so much business travel and has done for years. He is been moaning for years about how everyone except him gets free upgrades occasionally. He has never ever had one. BA gave me free upgrade on a 14-hour flight. And again on the way back to London. The DCs told me he was green with envy. He is a much higher status customer than me so theoretically this should have happened to him a few times. I’m pretty sure I know why it hasn’t - he is a self-centered entitled git and is often very rude to airport and airline staff, so he has a black mark against his name on the BA computer.

I don't think anyone can or should police how she feels, and I'm certainly not saying she has to forgive the other woman. If someone helped blow up my marriage, I'd have very strong feelings about it too.

My point was more about the idea of karma than about the OP personally. If karma is simply the consequences of our actions, I find it interesting that we often celebrate other people's apparent "karma" but rarely think about the consequences of holding on to bitterness ourselves.

That isn't a criticism of anyone, just an observation about human nature. I don't think carrying anger necessarily harms the person it's directed at, but it can sometimes keep the injured person emotionally tied to the past. That's the bit I find interesting.

Had they induced the person to rewrite their will in their favour?

In any case, I’d suspect them of having helped themselves via the P of A to assets - hardly unknown in cases of vulnerable elderly and their ‘helpers’.

CF from work who really really didn’t like me. She was older (like 20 years older) and kind of picked on anyone younger. This was just after me and DH had gotten married. She knows DH as well and always used to question if he’s gay. He isn’t gay (to the best of my knowledge anyway) but because he’s well dressed, doesn’t partake in football hooliganism and has good hygiene she just decided he's gay.

We came back from our honeymoon and we were both leaving this job at this point so we kind of just didn’t give a fuck and had been ignoring this woman. Perhaps we were being a bit rude but she was fucking relentless. She pulls me aside one day and said “I know this is a sensitive topic and I’m not trying to upset you but I need to show you something” I was like okay Linda what is it. She pulls out her phone and said “I’ve seen this photo on the Facebook of your husband…” and she proceeds to show me a pic from a night club. A gay club in Glasgow.

I swiped to the next photo to reveal everyone from work was there pretty much apart from her. It was for someone’s birthday party. “Yes it was Callum’s birthday, everyone else was invited.” And then walked off.

She very much was trying to upset me as well, she was fucking grinning when she thought my husband was gay. Even though being in a gay club doesn’t really mean your gay (imo it’s the best club in the city).

My daughter and me are both mixed race.

DD 26, was walking in the in car park at M and S along the row of parked cars , a car started reversing when she walked past it, she then said he actually accelerated when she was directly behind his car , rather than stopping, he then pulled out after she jumped out the way , and called her a fu*ing p**i , obviously she was really upset ,

he carried on gesturing and mouthing stuff , they were next to the junction in the car park ,

He was so busy looking at her and trying to intimidate her , he accelerated into the road and smashed into a passing fancy Range Rover

justice was never so sweet.

she sensibly did not hang around to see the fallout,
Im not sure I could have resisted going up closer and letting him know I’d seen ,

she did tell me I’d always told her to walk away from nasty situations,
she was more concerned and upset about the old man who was driving the Range Rover

She loves old people !

Assume you have heard of this group OP . I have a house in Spain and dread Okupas.

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Bullied, controlled and pestered at work. Absolute CF who thought I lived only to serve her. Ignored the warning signs at my peril and ended up in it far too deep to get out. I retired and didn’t tell her. Attempted to contact me for about four years after I left. Her comeuppance was that I simply walked away.

I thought it would be Spain. Their laws that literally protect these people are shocking. It’s a free for all unless they’re reported within 48 hours of breaking in.

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Quite easily and funeral directors like it, as usually you are not as emotional as you might be after a death. I had to do this for my mother, I found the various directors I called incredibily compassionate, recognising it was an abnormal situation. We were able to compare prices and what was available. As we had done this, we knew who to call, precisely what they needed to remove the body and were able to move on to dates etc fairly quickly, once the death had occurred.

OP. I hope things work out for you but sometimes the law can be to slow and toothless. Ireland is as bad as Spain for this.

An acquaintance bought a house but naively completed the purchase with a sitting tenant that had agreed leave as soon as was needed. Big mistake. Two years and so many court and solicitor bills later he finally followed a friend's advice and got the equipment in to start the major renovations that he had planned which involved very noisy digging out foundations for an extension from 8am to 6pm and soil heaped in front of windows and close to the back door. The tenant was gone by the weekend.

There was an almost identical thread a few years ago by a poster with a Spanish property owned by her Dad that was sqautted.