@pollyhemlock Thank you for being so honest and open. You sound like a wonderful parent.
“But sometimes, you know, terrible things happen and it’s not really anyone’s fault.”
However, this sentence stands out. A three year old did not accidentally fall into a crocodile pit, a man lifted him up and dropped him in it. Whether he thought he was being kind, and letting the boy have a closer look, or whether he was being malicious, we don’t know. We also don’t know if the man has mental capacity or not.
I get what you’re saying that he not be aware of his actions, and/or a random trigger may have sparked him to act. However, these aren’t get-out-of-jail cards.
I hope this incident doesn’t deter carers taking people with learning difficulties to places such as these, but ensures that their policies, procedures and practice are a bit more robust.