People with really loud voices, what causes it?

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Is it upbringing? Some sort of biological thing with vocal cords? We all know the experience of being in a cafe or restaurant and one person's voice just dominates the whole space. I have a very loud friend. Sometimes I'm embarrassed to be with her. She is aware, to some extent, but seems unable to do anything about it. Is there anyone here who knows they have a loud voice but can't modulate it?

We are a loud family, all actors, musicians or teachers used to projecting voices. I hear you (literally). It's embarrassing

I was always told that if the people on the next table can hear you, you're too loud. "Drawing attention to yourself" was a cardinal sin so I learned very early on to speak softly and be still. Then I was always accused of being quiet 😂

My father and brother have had hearing loss all my childhood. So as a result I project my voice, its just a natural way of speaking for me now

I generally like loud chatty people but I do agree, op- you get the odd person who is just in permanent foghorn mode. I think it’s sometimes connected to hearing loss.

I think for some it’s that they don’t hear it as loud as others do.

And for others it will be upbringing as I can think of a couple of cultures where talking loudly is quite common.

My husband has hearing loss and currently refuses to wear a hearing aid so him and his children are all loud. The kids talk normally when he isn't around so they know to do it just for him.

DSS has a friend whose voice seems to echo around his mouth as it comes out as it's exceptionally loud. Truly foghorn like. Lord knows why / how he does it.

I grew up in a tiny, busy house with many people, and always a radio or music playing.
Half the household had hearing loss, there were never less that five or six pets at a time, and always lots of coming and going.

I didn't even realize how loud I was until I left home. I try and remember to talk softly, but it doesn't always happen, especially in busy places, or hectic situations.

One friend I think it's genetic. His kids are loud too. I mean mine and loud but him and his dc are Deafening.

Then there's the M&A man at work who always talks loudly on the phone. I feel that's just rude. There's always someone in an office who is too loud!

My first H used to get very embarrassed by how loud my family were. It surprised me at the time because I didn't notice it. Probably because I talked loudly myself.
However, after the passing of many years during which Ive seen my relatives very rarely and most have died I really notice how loud my sister talks on the rare occasions I see her.
So I think loudness does run in families to some extent OP.

My mum is originally from an Asian country and she is very loud. It hasn't run in our family - I and my dd both have quiet voices and are always having to repeat ourselves because people can't hear us.

I actually quite enjoy the loud ones as I love eavesdropping. Nothing more annoying than people who drop their voices to share some juicy gossip between themselves.

I don't mind people with loud voices

At least you can hear them

Mix of things really. I do think sometimes it’s tonal and not volume.

we are a loud family and I have hearing loss. But generally I’m quite quietly spoken until we all get together (I booked a table for a meal the other day for visiting relatives and actually asked where as far as possible to sit us as far away from other diners as possible)

ny daughter is unable to regulate her volume. She’ll start a sentence quietly, get deafening and then back to quiet: no hearing loss…: physically but I think she has a sound processing issue if that makes sense!

I think reasons overall stem from cultural, volume in childhood home, auditory issues including processing ability

Interesting how many people mention heading loss, I hadn't actually thought of that

We were on a train early afternoon a couple of weeks ago, and there was a group of half a dozen women sitting close to us who were annoyingly loud and raucous. Clearly they were on their way to some event in London, but my goodness, were we glad to get off and leave them to it.

It can be due to ND too.

Hearing loss

I 100% don't want to though.

I went to a restaurant with a group of people who were all shouting conversation over each other, and a woman who made screaming noises as 'laughter'.

It was so embarrassing, never again.

I really struggle with loud people. I resent the way their voices dominate the space, and I honestly don't understand how they don't recognise it and tone it down. For most I don't think it's anything to do with heating loss. They just seem to have booming voices, and can be of any age. Then there's the almost performative, very carrying voices from very middle class people who seem to want everyone to notice them.

I really can't bear it. One excessively loud person can ruin an experience for me.

I always thought mine was down to growing up in an enormous house (think huge big rooms and a dining table big enough to seat about 20) and lots of siblings and house guests.

But in adulthood I was diagnosed with partial hearing loss and told I would have had it since childhood

At a guess it's probably a bit of a mix of both. I don't meant to be loud, and I try and remember to be quiet but I guess early habits stay with us and I default to loud without realising

Apparently as a child I got my hearing tested as they thought this was the reason I was loud. It wasn't, I'm utterly unaware of it and get louder as I get more animated or excited, sometimes people point it out and I try and be quieter for a bit

I think it is really rude not wearing a hearing aid if you are significantly hard of hearing. You are expecting everybody else to do the work.

I think there is an element of denial in those cases.
My dad would have the TV up super loud with subtitles, but deny any hearing issues.

Yes I think you are probably right in a lot of cases.

I was told by the specialist I saw that I have hearing loss but not at a level where it would make sense to get hearing aids. So I am stuck in a tricky limbo. Maybe they are wrong and I need to get further advice, but they knew I was willing to pay for one if it was recommended

Absolutely the case for DH, he is early 40s with moderate / severe loss in one ear. Pretends that he doesn't buy has the TV loud and subtitles on. Very recently agreed to get tested as he can no longer follow conversations in busy places. Not actually purchased the hearing aids yet though!