Are you close to your brother in adulthood?

[Ponderingsunday]

If you’re a woman?

I have one of each. My daughter is the eldest. I am thrilled with my son, and was in no way dissapointed. However, as someone who grew up with sisters who I’m still incredibly close too in adulthood, I can’t help but feel sad for my kids if they won’t have a bond like this. All of my female friends with brothers isn’t close to them in adulthood. I’m hoping this is just my circle and for most people it’s really normal to have close relationship with brothers!

No, we're not close but get along fine at family gatherings etc. We only live 5 minutes apart but our lives are just in very different stages.

I have a mid-teens DD and he and his wife have 3 kids under 5. Just not built for being close really.

Both mid/late 30s

Two brothers, close to one but not the other. But that is because older brother was always a bit of a wanker and a bully, he now lives abroad, and he only ever contacts us currently to pester for when he's going to get his share of my father's estate.

DD and DS are very close as young adults.

To one, and not the other. I’m also close to one of my sisters and not the other.

I don’t think it’s about what sex you are, it’s about, as with other adult friendships, whether you have values and interests in common.

Nope. He's a vile abusive narcissist 🤬#£@_

Yes. I love him dearly and we'd do anything for one another. Time or distance doesn't impact this at all for us. I feel lucky.

No . Not in contact . He wasn’t a very nice person .

Yes I’m the eldest and have a brother and sister. We are all close and have just been on holiday together with are family’s and do every year. I see my siblings most weeks

I sometimes forget my older 2 brothers exist 1st brothers i don't remember him living at home when we were younger. I have never had a relationship with him. Not for aby reason just life i guess.

The 2nd brother had some contact with. Until I was about 18/19 that was judt via phone though hadn't physically seen him since 16

The 3rd brother I have no contact with since I was 18ish. Seen him twice since then. I hear about him via my sister but thats it. Theres a good reason for that.

Oldest sister I only have contact with if I bump into her. No reason really.

2nd sister we have regular contact over the phone and meet up occasionally.

3rd sister no contact at all. Thats complicated.

My own children. My oldest ds and my oldest dd have very little contact once or twice a year. Oldest ds and middle ds contact occasionally.

I really love my brother , i would do anything for him and i know i could call on him any time and he would help me.
He is my friend as well as my brother.

I know you asked for women but thought I’d share that I have a close relationship with my sister and her family. We are very different and at times you wouldn’t think we were raised in the same house lol.

I love her dearly and would do anything for her her fella and her children. we’ve been on holiday together on our own and with families. We had our own stag for two when I got married. She’s hard work sometimes and we have made different life choices but love having a sister.

That doesn't mean they can't be close, I know brother and sister siblings who are very close and I know sister sister siblings who are not. I have a brother and sister and I'm actually closer to my brother than my sister, no issues or beef with my sister.

How many posts have we see here on mumsnet where women are NC with their sister or family as a whole?

You can only try to foster a family where the kids spend time together and are taught to love and respect each other, look out for each other etc but there is no guarantee how close they will be as adults. They could be close and one of them enters a relationship that reduces how close they are or they could grow up and be so different that they went nothing to do with each other.

Focus on raising them right and stops stressing over things you can't control. There are so many factors that can affect the outcome here

Yes I chat to my brother most days. We are in our 60/70s. When our parents were ill and died we fell into what I say are natural roles but some on here would slag off eg I took my mum shopping for new nightdresses, clothes etc when she was moving into a care home. He did the house emptying. He has been my support in my divorce several years ago in the day to day sense helping me to learn how to do certain household repairs. His children are a bit younger than mine and I treat them like my own. He is 12 years younger than me. The bond has grown as we have aged.

Not at all but it's because he is an abusive, compulsive liar and needs his extensive collection of harddrives checking.

My adult dd and ds are friends and close.

Very close to all 3 of my brother's. Speak daily, and see each other everal times a week.

I'm closer to my brother. My sister has always hated me.

I am closer to my brother than I am my sister. He has a lovely wife, which admittedly helps.

I’m not but I’m not particularly close to my sister either.

I have friends who are close to their brothers.

Not really. See a few times a year for family gatherings.
We live fairly close so it's not due to distance.

Yep, get on well. He is 12 years younger and we share lots of interests and have the same attitude to life. I'm 68 now and he's nearly 56. We go away on our Greek and Roman history trips and share an interest in local history too. Great fun. Sister lives a bit further away but we get on fine too. I have an annual girlie trip with her too.

I lost my youngest sister to cancer at 49. She was a cracker and a half, and we all miss her terribly.

I'm very lucky I feel with all my siblings.

Yes but they are both at least a decade younger than me. So although we are close in adulthood it is not a typical sibling relationship, they see me as another mother figure and thats where the closeness is

No, my brother recently divorced his 3rd wife and never sees his kids. We've never got on.

I don't have brothers but my mum is close to hers and my two cousins are close to each other.

Same. Only because of him living closer to my mum. I have an eye on it because I'm watching for any financial abuse. He has form unfortunately and it scares me 😔

I am 39 year old woman. My brother is two years older than me, and he is one of my best friends.
We are very close. There is almost no one I can laugh together with like I can with my brother. But we can talk about serious things, too.
He is the best.

I don’t have a brother but my husband’s close to his sisters