Things we wouldn't admit to in real life...

[TheSassyOpalMember]

My Dc has been with his dad for a week (unusual) and I really struggle to get back into a routine with him after a long period apart

I certainly will not - I am done.

Agree

I cannot wait for my mother,father and brother to die

My mother is a narcissist and her evil runs deep-she made me the scapegoat

My father enables her and refuses to stand up to her as it would disrupt his life too much (she'd go mental at him,so he backs her up on everything to the point he has no friends,no hobbies and no life because she stopped everything he enjoys)

My brother is the golden child (her clone who can do no wrong) and is a druggie waster who thinks hes God (he says with a straight face that hes the reincarnation of Jesus,Merlin and Robin hood-i know...)

I have no bio family left thanks to their evil and the day each one dies,I will have a party (or at least get very pissed)

It will be a cause of celebration

When my other brothers and other family members die,I will shrug and carry on-they know the truth but choose to take my mothers side in case they end up being me

The world will be a brighter place when they go

I think a lot of people live in some kind of unconscious autopilot state where they don't question or reflect on their own behaviours, biases and decisions or how they impact the people around them

Me too.

Kids with milder ADHD that have no specific care needs shouldn't get PIP.

Two kids in my family receive PIP and not a penny of that is used for their additional needs, they are quirky kids but don't cost any extra to raise compared to other kids.

I didn’t/don’t get the hype about Princess Diana, found her really irritating, the bloody woe is me doe eyes. Obviously find it incredibly sad that she died.

I m so sorry you’ve also had to go through it all.

Your situation sounds very similar to mine, my father turned a blind eye to everything too, and enabled her so much, his life was so similar too, my mother stopped him doing anything he enjoyed, more or less blocked anyone else having any kind of relationship with us, or with his siblings. Even in his final years, when he was living with Dementia she stopped him going to any of the day trips that his day centre (he went one afternoon per week) because they were for patients only so she couldn’t go too. She’s an evil old cow.

My brother was always the golden child too, he can do no wrong, and is a very unpleasant individual. His DC are the favourite grandchildren too, she only ever criticises mine and tries to tear down their every achievement. They’re all adults now and hate her.

Why would a ‘multicultural society’ be something that requires a vote?

Then that’s down to their parents/carers who are lying on the PIP forms, surely? Blame them, not the system.

People always claim "it wasn't the children's fault" when a marriage breaks down but IT IS always the children's fault. No child is wilfully malicious of course, but their behaviour and the added strain of juggling childcare and siblings is 100% to blame for most marriages falling apart.

Screen time isn't actually bad and depends wholly on the child. The problem is you cannot do a scientific study of the effects of screen time because a child either gets it or doesn't. You can only predict a general trend, but not how screens affect one individual child. In the 90s, children watched hours and hours of TV and there were often jokes about getting square eyes, yet parents never cared.

People who hate on billionaires for all the world's problems are just jealous because they don't have that sort of money. If they became rich overnight, they would definitely not be donating everything they earn to end wars in Sudan.

Being neurodivergent is not a personality trait. People who make autism or ADHD their entire identity are tiresome and boring to be around. You know the ones who only talk about how they struggle socially, need special sensory treatment, can't make friends, feel rejected etc. People who make one of their special interests part of their identity are far more fun to be around!

" IT IS always the children's fault."

i don't think it is always the children's fault - for example... if one person finally admits they're gay.. if someone has gambling addiction... loss of job and money worries ... physical abuse etc and many marriages break down without children present for similar reasons.

IT might be accurate to say having children is a contributing factor to stresses that cause the breakdown, but the child isn't the actual fault.

"Being neurodivergent is not a personality trait. ..."

Same for sexuality!

Here’s mine… I have ‘heavily disabled’ child and I would far rather be in his company than most other people I’ve met. He’s far nicer, kinder and more tolerant than many adults I know.

I dislike the smell of babies and think they are all ugly.

I judge people covered in tattoos and knock about 50 IQ points off them.

Ed Sheerhan can't sing and Taylor Swift's music is really dull. She does seem nice though.

I am not bothered by trans women in female toilets (women's toilets are frequently disgusting too, covered in tons of loo paper and empty tights wrappers and makeup boxes - why can't people throw things in the bin!!)

Good for you - my brother did this once he met his now wife. My parents are absolutely lovely and welcomed her with open arms and bent over backwards to help and support them. My poor Mum and Dad were devastated and just couldn’t understand what they’d done wrong. They eventually came to realise that she was manipulating him and he was allowing it - instead of standing firm and saying ‘they are my parents and I love them and they will always be in my life’.

my parents changed their will as well.

True, obviously there are rare exceptions if one partner is transgender, queer or has other issues entirely unrelated to children. But even in those cases it would be highly unusual for the added responsibility of kids to have absolutely zero impact on their decision to leave the relationship.

Other common marriage problems like substance abuse, infidelity, MH issues are usually always made worse by children and the time and financial restrictions that come with it.

As a thought experiment, a ton of marriages could be saved if the couple were allowed to take a "gap year" from being parents and simply travel, live elsewhere, fulfil their dream trips and experiences without financial restrictions. It's not just leaving a mini break of 3 nights while the kids are at their grandparents but taking an entire year away without any strings attached. Obviously not realistic or ethical (to the children) in any form, but something like this proves that kids are mostly the problem.

But wouldn’t that suggest that marriages/long term relationships would never fail if there weren’t children involved?

I also loath hot weather and am becoming a bit of a fanatic weather forecast watcher and hate hearing about a hot spell. The ones who like it think I’m mad not to enjoy being hot , but UK heatwaves can be unbearable.

I think they fail at a far lower rate, but it would also be hard to control for factors like the societal pressures to have children, IVF, etc.

A more valid comparison would be to see the rate of divorce in gay DINK couples since children aren't as much of a topic as typical, heterosexual marriages. This can be tricky as gay marriage has only been legal in many countries for less than one generation so there's not a lot of data to go from yet.

I prefer to be someone who reverts to being 10 or 13 again, purely because I think I'm shite at adulting, and as a PP said, children are more prepared to listen and be honest.

I think the fact I can relate to kids probably shows more about me and who I am rather than other adults 😬🤣

I genuinely hate my sibling. This hatred is well deserved. Their behaviour towards me across the decades has been disgraceful and unforgivable yet am I the bad guy for feeling so much hatred?

I’ve had 3 people I know lose a sibling at a very young age and been devastated and I just wouldn’t feel that way

As a separate issue really, I love kids, but I CANNOT take to my siblings obnoxious and spoiled child

The two things are likely linked

Ooh, and another one - I'm terrified of getting older and dementia.

I had a head injury and post concussion syndrome before being injured permanently by an off label antipsychotic prescribed for severe insomnia and anxiety after, and my brain has certainly never really been the same since 😢

I lost my ability to see in my mind's eye after the head injury, and also temporarily couldn't read properly. Even now, i look at text on a page and the language has lost its meaning and my understanding of it still seems very impaired.

It's almost like I have to translate the English into... English 😬😳 Which, of course doesn't make sense really 🤔

And this terrifies me a lot. Even yesterday, I was thinking how on earth it might be if I ended up losing my ability to understand language completely. I mean, total aphasia would be horrendous, as how on earth would I have any thoughts? How could I "be" if I couldn't understand the language in my own head? 😫

Yep, these thoughts probably are best not said out loud 🤣

Just to add..my brain occasionally makes me feel like I am looking ar symbols or hieroglyphics on a page when reading words and then I panic a bit 😅

‘My fucking ARSE’ isn’t the most eloquent or elegant thing I’ve ever read.