Things we wouldn't admit to in real life...

[TheSassyOpalMember]

My Dc has been with his dad for a week (unusual) and I really struggle to get back into a routine with him after a long period apart

I hate dogs (the untrained ones that jump up and have no boundaries, and the barking drives me insane). I have huge sensory issues which I think is what triggers me

also other people’s children. I don’t mind the ones who are well behaved but it’s the ones who are just naughty and rude and the parents say nothing

I belong to a hobby group that meets regularly. A lot of the other members look on me as some kind of expert in the field. I'm not. I just regurgitate things I've read about or been told by someone else, and they think I'm the fount of all knowledge. Half the time I just make it up on the fly. 😂

I judge people on their outfit choices more than I would admit in RL. Especially on what they choose to wear to work.

My son has gone no contact with me after pressure from his wife. I have bent over backwards the last 10 years to help them financially, drive them all over the country and source lovely gifts for them for birthdays and christmas and generally be there whenever they need help of any kind
There was never been any bad blood between us before this woman came on the scene.
What do I think? I'm relieved quite honestly. I can't tell anyone that.
No more driving them around every where, no more money pouring out, no more of her shoving my gifts back at me saying they aren't good enough, no more being there for them 24/7 and phone calls asking me to do things.
I work full time in the NHS and I'm exhausted, they both work very part time.
At last I can have some peace, I'm no longer walking on eggshells, I can save for my retirement in a couple of years and the things I need for my house.
I hope it lasts a good few years because I'm sick of the pair of them.

I really don’t like MILs ratty little dog. I like dogs in general and my dad has always had big dogs but something about this dog. I pretend to like him but I hate being around him as he smells and is yappy. :/

"eat what and when I want" - why can't you do this when he's there?

tell him to fuck off about his poor wee head being cold - he can wear a night hat of some sort

"I never voted for a multi cultural society"

what does this mean? We've been multi cultural for millenia?

is that you Charles? 😂

Oh I would hate this. I see older women in work running round after their adult kids. I really hope I don't have to do all that.

I think most men are shite . Sometimes I don't like my kids very much . I really like having money

I regret and am embarrassed by most of my choices in life - from location to live in, employment, partner,…

Also, I am incredibly lonely. I have my family but no one like-minded. Haven't had true fun or relaxed into my true self, for years and years.

I agree with this.

I think there should be a licence to have kids, so many complete morons reproducing and dragging kids up

I hate cyclists with a passion. I hate their stupid little wiggly Lycra clad bums. I hate when they screech to each other as they ride past my house on a Sunday morning. I hate their sort of virtue signaling when they actually cause accidents here regularly and im always so terrified of hitting one

Because he works from home until about 7pm, and we eat together when he has finished. I like eating together with him, having a good chat about the day, a glass of wine and I enjoy his company. Plus when he is there I try and spoil him with good home cooking, which I love too .... but when I am alone I often slam a ready meal in the microwave or eat cheese on toast in front of the TV watching Love Island when I fancy it, as opposed to when he is ready.

I want to separate from my husband, but I’m scared as hell. I care deeply for him, but don’t love him or find him attractive.
Im miserable as fuck, but everyone is putting it down to peri. I don’t even know where to start 😔

Name change Obvs.....

1. Everyone should pay more tax. Multi tiered tax bands in proportion to earnings.
2. I had a really intense & sexy emotional affair with a man that was engaged. Never physical. Its over now - but have no regrets.

I love my partner but I also really love it when it’s at his own place and I can chill out on my own with my (unethical!) dogs and cats.
I rarely comment as it’s not a nice trait but I am really judgy about what other women wear, lol.
I am aware, and sad, my sisters husband doesn’t like me although he would never say anything. We are not as close as we were as a consequence.

@Ihateboris Genuinely I hope you find a way to feel better soon.

@DivaDroid08 If you want to leave - you can find a way - it is never easy no matter what your circumstances. Try reading Too Good to Leave - Too Bad to stay (can't remember the author) It might help you work out what to do.

I am starting to find my garden a massive burden. I can't tell if I am getting increasingly paranoid but both sets of neighbours seem to constantly be in their gardens and able to look over. I have social anxiety and can't go out when they are there as they insist on chatting and I can feel them watching me.

Also had enough of men like others in the thread. I make a concerted effort to but female authors, look up and follow women who are top in their field and researchers. I also find when I read or watch anything written by a man I can tell; you see where they have completely missed several saliant points or created flat female characters and ego centric males in so many shows

I like children better than adults in most cases. At kids' parties, parents either think I'm too nice/that annoying parent, because I'll allow myself to be dragged into the soft play or wherever the kids are playing, rather than standing around making small talk with the adults. Truth is, I find the polite conversation we're condemned to make by the fact that most of our lives are stressful, uninteresting and repetitive extremely draining, and I prefer interacting with their lively, sparky kids who are sweet and funny and honest and haven't yet been ground down by life. At least if I'm pretending to be a monster and chasing them around, I'm getting some exercise so it's not a complete waste of time.

I don't understand how people can dislike all kids except their own (but I know many people do, so this must be a 'me' thing). Yes, they can be noisy and annoying sometimes, but they're mostly very sweet and even the naughty ones are usually quite funny (especially if they're not mine and I don't have to deal with them!). I've only ever met a few kids I've really struggled with and there's usually been a reason for why they are as they are.

I think our pets own us.

Another one. If I had a child and they turned out to be heavily disabled I’d give it up for adoption