Things we wouldn't admit to in real life...

[TheSassyOpalMember]

My Dc has been with his dad for a week (unusual) and I really struggle to get back into a routine with him after a long period apart

Also, I think a lot of people self diagnose mental health conditions and use it as an excuse for shitty behaviour

@Ihateboris my love, not just your mum would be heartbroken, I can assure you of this.

im so sorry that you’re finding things so hard, but please know that you are needed and wanted here, please stay.

I’ve been in a horrible place mentally in the past and nobody thought id make it. Back then things did feel so hopeless, but now i can tell you that while life is never perfect, i am happy to be here, I know im loved by those around me and that there IS light at the end of the tunnel.

who have you got to talk to about this IRL?

i still don't understand why you can't eat what and when you want... :/

That's actually not possible, though. In England (don't know about elsewhere) you can't voluntarily surrender your parental rights. If you're struggling to cope with a child, you can request a Family Support assessment, but that's more likely to end in being offered support/respite care etc, or, at a push, longterm foster care. You would still be the child's parent, even if he or she lived in residential care and not in your household. Even a Section 20 arrangement is difficult and rare, and you would still have parental responsibility. Adoption would be a fairly unlikely outcome.

I think you're hanging around with the wrong adults, if all they're doing is making polite conversation to cover up how ground down by their repetitive lives they are!

I don’t know the ins and outs but what I mean is I would give up care of the child. It’s one of the reasons I don’t have children yet. I know I couldn’t care for a very disabled child.

It means the poster is overtly racist.

@nobodyssons I agree to an extent- I'd love a third but after 2 healthy kids Im too worried about disability/ND. I know I would love them regardless but I also know I would realllllly struggle and regret it

I work for the NHS and the money wasted/spent on non- UK citizens is insane. I think we need much more rigorous health checks of everyone moving to the UK (like Aus, NZ, UAE) too to limit people with severe health issues moving and using resources.

My father died a few years ago, I didn’t mourn and I don’t miss him.

Looking forward to the day when my horrible mother dies.

Poor Charles, he's a victim of the no contact culture. One day these kids will find out that nobody is perfect, we all just do our best.

My dad died in March and the only emotion I felt was relief. He was a bad dad in every sense of the word, to both me and my brother.

I’m sorry you had to go through that as well, it’s really tough, and though I’m nearly 60 it has affected my whole life.

My mother is the more abusive one, I’m still scared of her, but my father idolised her and looked the other way every time.

I can’t forgive him for that.

Living in the NE is shit. The NHS needs to be privatised. It doesn’t always have to be the US model. Cats are a waste of time. There isn’t no point to them

It probably is but if I asked my two cats to pack their hankies on sticks and go they would just laugh.
One is out all day, I have no idea where she goes. She comes back at night to sleep on my head.
The other one is 16 and never leaves the house. It's her choice, I know she can use the catflap.
Out in the wild they would be dropping kittens until they died. I only ever get rescues, I wouldn't dream of going to a breeder.

Im not half as strong as I make out

@Gettingbysomehow When your son resumes contact (maybe when he wants you to be of use to him somehow) do not immediately start pandering to him and his wife again. Boundaries, woman!

I knew I could do better than my ex when I married him.

Same here! I live the countryside where there are lots of twisty roads and no cycle lanes. I am nothing but courteous when driving, leave loads of space and only overtake when it is totally safe to do so etc etc but inwardly it drives me utterly bonkers when I encounter them in all their lycra glory on a 60mph road.

I'd be telling him 'actually life was better when you were not in contact with me, so let's just keep it that way'.

I just don’t think I could cope with it all and that’s why I’m not having children at the moment

I wish I had moved.

Maybe, but I've met many more adults I've disliked than children.

Sending a hug from afar. Your life matters and you are important.

Sure (and actually it's nice to see someone on here expressing a general liking for children!), but that's more that they've had more time to become themselves, or to react to the circumstances of their lives in ways that may grate on you. It's one thing to be a boisterous little girl, and quite another to be the type of adult found getting into fights outside night clubs. Or a small child who tells tall tales versus an adult chronic liar.