Cocaine mum friends

[Seymour45]

Need some advice. A good friend took cocaine in front of me at a party and now I feel I don't really want to hang out. Am I wrong and naive? Does this happen more often than not? It had me thinking - is cocaine any worse than getting pissed? Am confused...

Doing it in front of you makes her look a bit of a twat to be honest. It’s like she was trying to either impress you or intimidate you.

Personally, whilst it’s extremely common it is still illegal and most people who do take it do practice some caution and discretion. You can’t compare it to booze, which is extremely socially acceptable.

It wouldn't even need to be a bad batch. Drug use can cause all manner of health problems, many of them serious and can lead to early death.

As a child of a drug user who managed to kill himself -no I wouldn’t want any thing to do with them .

absolute sad selfish arse and tbh if I knew they had kids at home I would struggle to be civil again, and I do judge parents that take it.

I understand that lots of people think it’s common, but probably only in their own circles.

I wouldn’t cut ties with someone who had used in the past as a young en . It also seems to make people chat absolute rubbish which is an embarrassing side effect for them.

While more people may use cocaine than previously it is still a small minority actively using and probably more common within certain circles only.

I know no one who uses but I am older, ds(22) says it isn’t common in his circles (only person he know who took it was an previous supervisor - my age - in his PT job).

I would have zero tolerance for anyone who abuses legal drugs, or uses illegal drugs and would have made my feelings clear at the time.

People who do it think that "everyone doesn't". Like cheaters and thieves. Except that not everyone does it and the majority don't do it. Keep your standards and your boundaries.

@Seymour45 you do whatever it is you feel comfortable with. Some pp frame it as if you are being judgmental, but you aren’t. You are protecting yourself from being exposed to something you are not comfortable with and that is absolutely ok for you to do. You can subtly reduce socialising with this person without being judgmental of her. You do not have to talk to her about any of this. If you’d like to remain friends, just avoid going out at night with her. Otherwise, just always be busy.
I get that cocaine use is rife—but I find the casual acceptance of it on this thread really, really depressing. I’ve clearly led a very sheltered life.

It would make me look at the friend in a different light as well, and I’d feel unhappy knowing there were drugs around, especially if you have children. ,

Depends

4 year old’s birthday party? Nah. Wouldn’t be friends. Although more cake for you so swings and roundabouts

Adults party with alcohol amongst her close friends? None of my business. I wouldn’t exactly be impressed but I’d not lose a pal over their own grown arse decisions on a night out which didn’t affect me.

No,i dont think you are wrong or naive not to want to hang out with her anymore.
It's a personal choice.
How you feel about it is all that matters.

It would be the instant end of the relationship for me. I have no time for criminals or those who associate with criminals.

Cocaine will never be legal in this country, they've been saying the same for cannabis for years, pretty much most of my life!

Even if it was, it's still illegal in other countries and the suffering will still occur in order for it to be a neat line in front of your nose.

Exactly! The whole drugs industry is soaked in the blood of innocent people

Most people want it legalised and it will be legal in the next 4 years, you can mark my words. Since who made you the fun police?

Coke isn't grown in this county, I don't think it can be. Until the rest of the industry is without murder, exploitation of children etc, then yeah, I'll be the 'fun police'.

It will not be legal. Dream on.

Easy to spot what you like to do at the weekend!

Thank you so much for this. What I don't understand about it is that her youngest child is so young. How do people function doing this? What about the school run? And if you have older children what sort of example is this? An awful one. They'll find out one day and then what? I've got teenagers and that would worry me the most.

I wouldn’t be hanging out with that person again.

Also Coke doesn’t make anyone ‘fun’. Maybe they feel they’re having a good time but it makes them boring as fuck and irritating as hell to everyone else. Nothing worse than getting stuck in a conversation with a coke head.

Alcohol is highly regulated. You can drink a glass of wine and know the exact proof and judge your intake accordingly. You're not gambling that you're ingesting something horrible and putting yourself at a risk you hadn't bargained on. Workers making alcohol are also in a legal industry, paid a fair wage and have normal legal protections. No one is running county lines for a six pack of Stella.

Cocaine is not legal and so has none of these things protections. Your friend is supporting an industry which drives a lot of exploitation and violence, here and abroad and putting herself in danger every time she buys it or takes it when she has people who rely on her.

It's fine for those things to change your view of her, even if you believe a line is only as bad for you as a drink. There's a lot more to the picture than health.

Completely normal from many many people I have known throughout my life from all walks of life. friends, people I've worked with, people I've been to the toilet with on a night out, at house parties.

I find it's less common as you get older but still comes out at house parties.
I don't do it but its just a thing that goes on, a few people will go into another room to have some.
They may do it at a party but everyday they are just the same people, many have professional Jobs and are respected people. They aren't on a path to being a full blown addict living on the street, they are just normal people in society.

Doing cocaine is disgraceful. People are abused and killed in the drug trade, so to fuel demand is disgusting.

I would bin your coke head friend.

Normal people, but creating demand for the drug trade, for people to be abused and killed. Not ok.

Disgusting habit that's been glamorised
If people knew jesus they wouldn't be snorting it up there nose 👃!
Personally I would ditch anyone that does this !
Not a vibe it's enough fun to have a bottle of wine 🍷! (,my opinion,)

I would absolutely right of a friend if I found out they were doing coke. I abhor it. As far as I’m concerned, if you take coke you’re ok with funding county lines, sex trafficking and the utterly vile supply chain of the stuff.

Ive never touched anything other than cannibas and that was when I was too young to understand issues around illegal drugs.

They function really well, they are full of energy, there isn't a hangover, maybe tired if they have been awake all night and haven't managed to sleep yet. I imagine they will hop skip and jump on the school run!
Why would their kids find out?

It absolutely won't be legal in 4 years. Cannabis within 10 years maybe but cocaine sure as hell won't be.