How to actually pull in a club?

[hannah181]

All my friends seem to do it but I always seem to be the one left out or getting rejected by guys after approaching them. What do I need to do? Change what I wear change my approach I honestly have no idea now

Unless your on about pulling pints id probably leave well alone!

Unless it's a quicky your after? Then it's skirt up your ass and mega heels but in my case i was clubbing in late 90's and now it's all let's go nandos and in trainers! or at least the young ones at work say thats what they do!

Can you say that message in English

I can’t say I’ve really ever known a woman need a particular tactic! “Fancy coming back to mine” has been enough to work. Tends to be men that need the strategy.

Not sure what to suggest OP. What are you doing currently?

Lol sorry, was skiving on a teams call at same time!

None of the men i got chatting too in clubs were ones I actually wanted to talk too!

I wouldn’t be approaching guys directly. Bit of eye contact and see if you get anything back. Dance near them.

Also - make sure any subtle flirting is with people on your level attractiveness wise…

Not saying you look desperate but that is definitely a turn off.

The best way is to whirl an imaginary lasso around your head, 'catch' anyone you're interested in, pull them towards you and whisper 'Momma's hungry' in their ear.

You make me feel my age OP.
When I was young there weren't any clubs. It was dance halls and discos.
And women didn't do the pulling. It was the guys pulled the birds.

Perhaps these guys who are rejecting you sense you are feeling a bit desperate and it's frightening them off? Perhaps being a bit more nonchalant and relaxed might help.

Suspect the majority of us on this forum did our 'pulling' in clubs a bit too long ago to be relevant! In my day drinking half your body weight in £1 vodka redbulls and doing a bit of a wiggly dance whilst making eye contact with your (similarly inebriated) target was the classic technique...good luck!

Don’t approach them is the key. But also don’t be standoffish. When I was younger we would just get chatting to someone and have a laugh. If they’re interested they will approach you - this is men we are talking about.

Inner confidence - really know your worth and what you’ve got to offer. Even if you’re not after a relationship. Ooh and couple of drinks probably…

How old are you?

If you don't know how to pull then maybe that way of finding a partner isnt for you.

Flirting is one of those things that can't really be taught.

Odd youd ask a bunch of randoms when your mates who obviously can pull are right there doing it. Have you never thought of asking one of them?

Do clubs even exist anymore? I thought they died out after Covid

That's really rude. The message was perfectly ok and funny. Perhaps you're not pulling because you're being rude/ snippy to men?

1. Be slim and attractive.
2. Wear something tight or revealing.
3. Eye contact with the guy/girl you are interested in. Wait for them to approach.

If you are actively approaching them, sorry to say this, but they might think you are a sex worker touting for business.

Don't bother. The sex is usually shit.

For number 2 give me some ideas

I don't think you need tight and revealing clothes to get attention, especially if you are attractive. Would you say your are attractive, as it might be that you are coming across as standoffish without realising it.

You are very abrupt, if you talk like you type on here that will be why.

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I think I've just understood why you aren't attracting anyone.

That poster was trying to help you and you were a sarcastic arse to her.

That's how you react to others and that's why you are having no luck.

BTW, that poster's post was clearly written quickly but also perfectly comprehensible.

If you’re English you’d know exactly what she said?

I used to wear a low cut top and flick my hair about. Sideways lingering eye contact a couple of times - jobs a good'en 😊

Judging by a night out I had recently, it’s the exact same. Skirt up over your arse, with everything spilling out while wearing heels. Was quite a sight and embarrassing when I think back to my younger days trying to pull myself 🙈 shows things never change!

''Flirting is something that can't be taught'' ...

is it Jumanji #2 where Jack Black is trying to teach that girl how to flirt? Biting her lip and walking funny. Hilarious 🤣