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How many over 65 still have sex?

134 replies

Mancity08 · 08/05/2026 18:49

As title says really just out of interest

how old are you and how old is your OH

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Rebelyells · 08/05/2026 18:56

Both 65…I’ve got a broken fanny waiting for a repair he struggles with maintaining an erection due to health issues. We had a grown up discussion and decided to give up on sex - we remain close, enjoy each others company and get on with the other 99.9% of living

Musicaltheatremum · 08/05/2026 18:58

62 me 67 husband 2-3 times a week. Everything working very well!

Ilikeanicecupofteainthemorning · 08/05/2026 19:01

66/68- whenever we can, ie 2-3 times a week, why do you ask?

Whatnown · 08/05/2026 19:02

musicaltheatremum how do you maintain interest and get to it so to speak?
am 62 and so over sex.

helpfulperson · 08/05/2026 19:05

Care Homes have to have a 'sexual acitvity' procedure so it's not uncommon.

Kitt1 · 08/05/2026 19:09

Thankfully haven’t had sex for several years now. 🎉

moggiek · 08/05/2026 19:21

67 and 71. Usually once a week.

PokHas · 08/05/2026 19:27

2-3x a week? Blimey! I’m much younger and couldn’t do it that often.
My grandma told me they were still doing it in their 70s. I thought they were cool. 😁

EveryKneeShallBow · 08/05/2026 19:29

I’m widowed and no longer remotely interested in a new relationship but I would totally still be doing it if DH were still around.

Loadsapandas · 08/05/2026 21:56

helpfulperson · 08/05/2026 19:05

Care Homes have to have a 'sexual acitvity' procedure so it's not uncommon.

What does this usually entail?

Blanketyblank04 · 08/05/2026 22:05

I’m 55 and have zero interest but this thread gives me hope it’ll come back some day!

Musicaltheatremum · 08/05/2026 22:12

Whatnown · 08/05/2026 19:02

musicaltheatremum how do you maintain interest and get to it so to speak?
am 62 and so over sex.

I was widowed at 48 and for years hadn't been interested in sex as husband was very ill. Came off antidepressants 5 years after his death and libido soared. Met new husband in 2018 and things just took off. Last few years I don't always feel like it but it makes me feel good when it does happen so I tend to relax and enjoy the moment.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 08/05/2026 22:16

DH is 65. I'm a fair bit younger (50s) but we still have sex regularly and he's as 'up for it' as he's ever been. We're both fit and active generally though.

ClovisWrites · 08/05/2026 22:17

3 or 4 times per year in our twenties and thirties.. about one a year now we’re in our forties… by the time we’re in our sixties we’ll be doing negative numbers I guess… going around stopping other people doing it?!

Chatterlyssecret · 08/05/2026 22:37

79 & at least 5 times a week ,use it or lose it is my way of thinking.

mycheeseplantiscalledcharles · 08/05/2026 22:41

Pensioners and sex at least 5 times a week seems to be a Mumsnet thing, much like the chicken stretching to at least five meals. I wonder is there a link?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 08/05/2026 22:43

We were still having it until he buggered off and left me seven months ago, the cunt.

Both aged 69.

Allseeingallknowing · 08/05/2026 22:54

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 08/05/2026 22:43

We were still having it until he buggered off and left me seven months ago, the cunt.

Both aged 69.

69-how apt!

Allseeingallknowing · 08/05/2026 22:56

Loadsapandas · 08/05/2026 21:56

What does this usually entail?

There was an item on the news last year about strippers performing in care homes! That’ll finish some off!

exexpat · 08/05/2026 22:57

I'm younger, but DP is 70 and he is definitely still very much sexually active! He is generally fit and healthy (non-smoker/non-drinker) and has never needed little blue pills.

Chellapeak · 08/05/2026 23:05

Don't believe any of these "3 x week at 75" tales 🤣 If a man is going to bugger off looking for more shags, they'll bugger off whether you're servicing them regular or not.

Papster · 08/05/2026 23:33

69 and 62
once or twice a week

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 08/05/2026 23:50

I hate that I know this but both my parents (divorced) are older than this and still shagging 🤢. They have six kids though so I guess it makes sense. Good for them, and I hope I’m still going at that age but it’s obviously gross because they’re my parents. I only know because I’ve overheard one and the other got a sex related injury.

AutumnAllTheWay · 08/05/2026 23:53

ClovisWrites · 08/05/2026 22:17

3 or 4 times per year in our twenties and thirties.. about one a year now we’re in our forties… by the time we’re in our sixties we’ll be doing negative numbers I guess… going around stopping other people doing it?!

😂

WildFlowerBees · 09/05/2026 07:08

People saying 2-3 times a week probably means max 8 mins 2-3 times a week not some hour long marathon each time.