Is it odd that my friend doesn't want to go on holiday with me, to an area I've been to before ?

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Ive suggested a few places I've been to before. Not accommodation, rather bresorts/ areas. She doesn't want us to go to where I've been before.

Is that odd ?

I wouldn't see it as odd. Surely there's plenty of places you've not visited where you could explore together?

Very odd. I'd be getting my ducks in a row.

She just wants to create completely new adventures with you I guess and explore a new place together.

She doesn’t want you to control the schedule, or to be trip leader.

She might be concerned that you won’t want to visit an attraction/art gallery/restaurant etc thst she wants to because you’ve already done it.

Why not just pick somewhere new, or ask her for suggestions?

She wants to go somewhere you are discovering together rather than you saying let's go here it's good or I don't want to do that I've done it before, to be able to share new experiences, seems reasonable

Just to confirm, this will be a pool/ beach holiday. No attractions to visit. Just restaurants in the eve

I would have to agree with her. She probably doesn't want you to "show her the sights" Like a tour guide, she wants you to explore together and you both see the sights for the first time at the same time..
I think it changes the dynamics when someone has already seen it before coz they will only want to return to see what they choose.

I agree as well! It’s nice exploring an area together

I don't think it makes much difference really. I would think it odder that you only want to go somewhere you've already been.

Why the reluctance to try somewhere new with her?

When I go away with my two close friends we always choose somewhere new to all of us. Makes it fun to discover it together. And no one ‘takes the lead’.

Definitely more fun to try somewhere new together.

In which case why does it matter where you go? Just pick somewhere new

What?

Why do you want to go somewhere you have been before

Do you have a tendency to be the big I am about things?

She obviously wants to go somewhere neither of you have been before so just do that.

Are you only suggesting places you’ve been before?

That’s just a difference in preferences: some people like familiarity and some people like novelty.

Methinks you met some handsome fella in one of the places you've been to and want to go back to find him again, 😊or you know your way around these places and don't want the hassle of somewhere new.

Not all beach hols are the same. I'd say narrow it down to two new spots, toss a coin and go for it. You'd never know what's waiting for you there!

I suppose next I'll be told that you are in a LTR or married and this is your annual girlie trip or something!

Not odd. She doesn’t want you hosting her and touring her and being the expert with tedious tales of what it was like before

Uh oh - is it the Solana, Benidorm?!!

Nowhere near as odd as this response…

She wants to explore together and find restaurants and things you both like, not be directed based on your previous experiences.

What a bizarre reply!

😂😂😂😂😂

It’s more fun to explore somewhere new together than be told that you MUST go to that restaurant because it was fabulous 4 years ago…