Is it odd that my friend doesn't want to go on holiday with me, to an area I've been to before ?

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Ive suggested a few places I've been to before. Not accommodation, rather bresorts/ areas. She doesn't want us to go to where I've been before.

Is that odd ?

Im with your friend on this op.
Go somewhere you both have not been, get lost find your way about, do something new somewhere new.

I thought @didntlikeanyofthesuggestionswas joking! It made me smile.

I think this is likely to be her reason. I went away with a relative years ago and they acted like some sort of monitor/supervisor telling me where is worth eating and drinking, where was best to sit, the best times to go places etc. I didn’t go along with it past the first day but even one day was bad enough. I wanted to experience other things, not just the version she had done previously. She meant well but no.

Personally I hate a friend holiday where you havent been before and they have. You always end up being shown around, and end up as the guest on the trip, the person whos been before always wants to show off. Never free to discover a place yourself or have free reign of eateries and its really annoying

Just pick somewhere you've both not been

Sarcasm

Ok firstly does nobody on this thread understand @didntlikeanyofthesuggestions sarcastic joke?

Secondly, OP, the friend doesn’t want a know it all ‘oh when I came here this and that, oh I know this blah blah blah’. Nobody likes that.

Brilliant! Never seen so many sense of humour failings in such a short space of time. Top marks!

But it doesn’t work as a joke as the scenario involves a friend, not spouse.

Maybe not to you, I thought it was funny.

She mean OP should use her free half hour with a solicitor

I thought that was the joke.

It’s just a bit of nonsense referencing a common MN reply in a different context. It doesn’t make any sense in the context of the thread.

Made me laugh, anyway.

Maybe she’s seen your photos from the previous holiday and thought it didn’t look much cop?

Has she suggested anywhere, or is she just pooh-poohing your suggestions? Because I can see how that would be frustrating.

No

I wouldn't like it either. It would feel like you had some sort of ownership over it.

There are so many places in the world, surely there are other lovely places you would want to try out? Why so insistent in going somewhere you've been before? Make a shortlist of other suggestions between you.

I think it's nicer to go somewhere totally new to you both. I'm with your friend.

I also thought the ducks in a row joke was funny

@HipsterHighStreet nailed it

It creates a power imbalance. Not odd

Me too - make me laugh. Think the joke went over others heads.

I have a friend who always goes to the same beach resort - she rants on about how wonderful it is and has her favoured restaurants and has perfected her routine.

I will never go there with her because I feel I have been hammered over the head about this place and the dynamic would be all wrong with her controlling the holiday 24/7 and me having to fake lapping it up. I would go away somewhere we both hadn’t been tho for a more balanced holiday.

I went to New York with a friend that had been before, it was awful. I wish I hadn't gone.

I'd ask her for suggestions and see what she comes up with. Might be that she'd really prefer to go to another area.