Do some people genuinely not notice their own lines and wrinkles?

[stetha]

Just read on another thread a woman claiming to be mid 40s or older with not a single wrinkle and using no skincare other than a cheap £1 moisturiser. Hey I can’t see her but so many times I’ve had people say this to me in person, how they don’t have any wrinkles and yet I’m looking at their face and yes, yes they absolutely do!

Now I don’t mind lines and wrinkles I have a few myself but what is going on! Why do so many people, even those who are quite heavily lined and sun damaged insist that they haven’t any lines and everyone is shocked to hear they are a day over 21? Do other people have magic mirrors? Or perhaps there is an epidemic of untreated long sightedness?

you must know some very tedious and shallow people!

I don’t have lines or wrinkles, neither does my husband! In fact no one has … until l put my reading glasses on 🤣🤣🤣 What a shock 🤣🤣🤣 Reading glasses are usually beaded around the time of wrinkles really appearing but if you don’t have them your blissfully unaware!

I thought my wrinkles were far less than they actually are because when I look in a mirror, my face is relaxed and pretty expressionless.

Photograph me smiling and it's a different picture.
Hey ho. I'm 71, have fewer wrinkles than many my age - due to genetics rather than specific skin care. I don't really care. People that care about me don't look at the wrinkles and people that don't care about me - well - I don't care about them or their opinions either.

I don’t look at mine, at 50 they’re not bad.

Lucky not to have eye bags or crow’s feet.

My forehead, I just get a fringe haircut…

I’m getting jowly & a chin fat pouch though.

Lips are holding size, but frowning shape!

My face is melting, but not too many lines.

I find the conversations people have very odd. I’ve never met anyone who tells people they’ve no lines and wrinkles and the other one is age. Where apparently everyone tells them they look so much younger, whay do they do, ask everyone to guess their age?

I’m 59 and have a smooth face. But it has gone a bit saggy under the chin. I use a moisturiser with SPF50, but that wasn’t always the case. I do, however, have a neck like a sad deflated balloon🤣 And I hate scarves - somehow they end up like a tourniquet no matter how I fix them - so my crinkly neck is on full display at all times. I honestly don’t care. My mum had several squamous cell carcinomas removed from her face, hence my concern with SPF’s. She had fantastically smooth skin right into her eighties, but she only used standard Oil of Olay and ended up with four cancerous growths, one of which required plastic surgery.

'Oh, I don't use any of that stuff you use! I just scrub my face with Fairy Liquid and gravel, and my skin looks amazing!

🤣🤣🤣

Jeez you are superficial!

Most phone cameras automatically slightly blur skin don't they? I have a rash-prone child and it's nearly impossible to take clear photos of her skin as my phone does something to smooth it out. I feel I look wrinkly enough in photos as it is, I was horrified to realise that is with my phone's help as well!

I agree 👍 I look really old in our video doorbell camera (the joys of turning 45 recently really made me think I am getting on a bit, ha ha!) but in my en suite, I look ok. Essentially, I will close the blind, and squint at my face and not look closely, without my glasses on.

Then - ta daaaa! - I look 25 again! Hurrah! 😅

I find I look ok in the mirror but when I see a photo of myself I look awful . Crows feet etc . Hate photos now

As a white person the signs of ageing I would look for are lines wrinkles etc but as has been said black and asian skin ages differently so within the black or asian community would different signs of ageing be obvious to you so you could tell roughly someones age?

Agree

But consumerism is horrible for this
I saw someone advertising a 10 times magnifying mirror or something saying "you won't know how many wrinkles you've got till you use this"

That's exactly why I wouldn't buy it

The people OP talks about, maybe they mean like really deep wrinkles?

Are they fat? I'm 44, size 18 and have no wrinkles. It's all padded from the inside! Actually I do have that "11" wrinkle above me nose but I can only see it if really focus on the bit above my nose, and who does that?!? Also no regrets about the intense thinking/drinking that got me it 🤪

TBH you just sound like a miserable person looking to find fault in everything. If they're happy with their face, let them be happy with their face! What's it to you 🤔

In my 49 years on this planet, I can honestly say I've never once heard anyone deny the wrinkles on their face!
What an odd post!

What about a mixed race woman ie I'm white and Chinese... do I half age? Or at half the rate? 😅😆

Until I was in my early 30s I did get mistaken for a teenager, quite regularly.
MN threads always insists that everyone is being kind/flattering and that nobody ever looks younger.
However these were not kind/flattering things, people would alter the tone of their voice and treat me as if I was much younger, or be quite patronising. Some people were quite rude to me!
A good friend told me (years later) when I joined the same mum and baby group, she first thought I was a teenage nanny. A friend of my NDN mistook me for my (then preschool age) children's older sister. My neighbour later told me how embarrassed the person was, even though she was not rude or unkind. (I think a lot to do with it was being short, and quite shy)

Im in my 40s now and a few years ago a waitress said she thought I was my teen DDs sister. She absolutely was being kind/flattering, I can tell the difference.

I work with someone in her 50s who genuinely could pass for late 20s, all natural, her mum is 70 and looks barely late 40s. Very good genetics.

Meow 😸

I think some people really really look for them in the mirror and can see every fine line as a wrinkle, and others see "wrinkles" as massive crater things running across their entire face (and therefore think they dont have them). I wouldn't say I'm "wrinkly" but I have all the normal fine lines under my eyes and I suspect I look average for my age. If a dermatologist got a magnifying glass out, there's probably a ton of damage and lines to be found.

I also think it's mainly genetic, some people look young for their age, others don't. Other than major cosmetic work, I don't think you can do too much about it (other than mybe the tri killers of alcohol, sun damage and smoking damage)! That's probably why the £1 moisturiser is working, genetically she's on the front foot (or delusional - maybe both)

it is genetic, some people are mid 40s and don’t have them
i am 44, no wrinkles. My skin isn’t great though so I don’t think I look 21, but I don’t have wrinkles yet.
sure it will come with the menopause though.

I don't have any either until I look in the mirror with my glasses on, and when I do it's a shock and I vow never to look in the mirror again! 🤣 Thankfully, eyesight fades as wrinkles grow.

The Lord giveth wrinkles, and the Lord taketh away the ability to see them in the mirror at about the same time. Miraculous, really.😂

I once had a "friend" who liked to make small digs at me. I'll always remember her telling me about my wrinkles (I'm 40), and then she said proudly that she doesn't use any skin care and has no wrinkles 🤦🏼‍♀️
I do have a couple of wrinkles, but over all im happy with my skin, and she definitely looks older than me, despite her being 5 years younger.
Obviously I didn't say that to her, because I wouldnt dream of it.

I’m 50yo and I promise you no wrinkles and no Botox. Until earlier this year the only skincare I did was water and oil of Olay moisturiser. Noticed pores earlier this year so have stepped my skincare up now. I do think it’s genetics, my mum was in her 70s when she died and had a few fine lines (also did no skincare at all).