Do some people genuinely not notice their own lines and wrinkles?

[stetha]

Just read on another thread a woman claiming to be mid 40s or older with not a single wrinkle and using no skincare other than a cheap £1 moisturiser. Hey I can’t see her but so many times I’ve had people say this to me in person, how they don’t have any wrinkles and yet I’m looking at their face and yes, yes they absolutely do!

Now I don’t mind lines and wrinkles I have a few myself but what is going on! Why do so many people, even those who are quite heavily lined and sun damaged insist that they haven’t any lines and everyone is shocked to hear they are a day over 21? Do other people have magic mirrors? Or perhaps there is an epidemic of untreated long sightedness?

Its quite a blurry image but I can see crows feet. Your forehead looks pretty smooth but it really isn't a clear image at all.

One of them is well padded and they do very much have wrinkles as do lots of heavier people but the old no wrinkles on a balloon is often trotted out. I think its fine to be happy with how you are but if you need to be delusional to be happy with yourself then I think that is a bit sad really. Its also cringe worthy to go about saying it to people.

What a strange premise for a thread.

Absolutely none of this affects you in the slightest, @stetha, other than its living rent-free in your head. Let them crack on.

Well it’s very zoomed in, no filter and very obviously a smooth forehead. I wouldn’t say I have crows feet at all, but if it makes you feel better to think that then crack on. 😆. It wouldn’t bother me if I did have crows feet.

I think what’s sad is that you e made this thread saying that people are delusional, must be fat, have bad eyesight. It smacks of insecurity and jealousy. I really hope one day you can feel more confident and secure in your own skin so you’re not in a place where you have to try and pull other women down. I think women who spend their time thinking negatively about other women like this must not be happy people.

I’m 42. I probably have wrinkles. I do all the skin care stuff (serum, creams, the whole lot and have done since my early 20s. I suffered a lot from eczema and found a routine that worked for me without steroids) but I probably have wrinkles. I just can’t see them for the giant dark circles under my eyes! Where I work a lot of people have Botox and do this and that tweak etc. but it’s just not something that interests me. I’d rather spend my money travelling than flattening my face. Maybe I choose not to see the wrinkles. I don’t know. I’ve never really thought about them or worried about them. It’s nice to be allowed to get older. So many other people don’t get the chance.

If someone asked me I would probably say I’m not very wrinkly. I’m happy. I’m not going to choose to look closer and find a problem.

I think it's lighting and phone filters and just seeing yourself as you see yourself, rather than how others see you, which create this situation. I don't think people are intentionally trying to convince others that they have no wrinkles even though, they themselves, know that they do.

I think this is the issue, people are looking at themselves with s straight unmoving face, but most wrinkles only appear with expression. Past that it’s just fine lines.

I guess it depends on your definition of wrinkles? If your eyes crinkle around the sides your whole life (and many do), I wouldn't call those crows feet. Crows feet are when the lines stay even when your face is still!

I agree. My children are in primary school and their eyes crinkle at the corners when they laugh or smile. In fact I do believe that's one way to tell a sincere smile from a fake one... real ones involve the eyes and make them crinkle.

Dp and I are the same age, 50 this year, we have this thing when we see people our age (usually if we bump into old school friends in the pub or supermarket) of wondering if they look rough for their age or we’re delusional. We always conclude that we’re deluded.
I’m not too bad with lines and wrinkles, I have fine crinkling around my eyes when I smile and half an 11 line (it’s a number 1 line). I have terrible bags under my eyes and age spots/ sun damage though.
Last week I was at a party and chatting with a friend of a friend. She mentioned her age, I think she was 42, then we were talking about our children, hers being high school age and mine being young adults. I could see her trying to work out how old I am or was when my children were born. She was obviously working backwards from us being similar ages, rather than working out that we’d probably had our children at similar ages and working forward. I could interpret this as her thinking I look young however the reality is that when you’re in your 40’s there’s not much difference between 42 and 49. Equally I don’t see the difference between me and friends who are a few years older.

I think eyesight could have a lot to do with it 🤣

When I’m getting ready for bed I take my glasses off, and I always think how young I look in the mirror 🤣🤣
I enjoy it, it’s like time travel.

Next morning it’s glasses on AND magnifying mirror and there’s no hiding from reality 😊

But if your sight is so bad you can't see your face properly in the mirror, how is it good enough to see everyone else's just fine?

Well I assume that glasses are on the rest of the time? So I wouldn’t be looking at other people without glasses, just myself when taking off makeup etc.

Then again perhaps not everyone’s prescription is up to date.

I mean some people are just better looking than others, some people are very short, some are very tall, some have very curly hair, others have very straight, some have crooked teeth, others have straight. I don't really understand why you would think it was not possible for some people to have wrinkles and others to have few or none.

Yes they do but not everyone has the funds for expensive creams or surgeries. They are not shallow as someone like yourself looking at everyone’s flaws and wrinkles

I don’t believe any moisturiser can stop you getting wrinkles. But to answer your question, yes I think some people are oblivious to it but who cares?

I can see lines at the corner of your eyes, I'm not making that up to "feel better" and the photo is very blurry so they must be even more clear face to face. I don't have anything against wrinkles, I like them so me saying that isn't some catty remark. Its just interesting to me that you really can't see them.

I can see slight lines, i literally said that in my post. Slight lines when I smile, like others have said even their kids have some lines by their eyes when they smile. I’ve had lines by my eyes when I smile since I was a kid. But that’s not wrinkles or crows feet.

I hate to break it to you but those are wrinkles.

I hate to break it to you but they’re not. Wrinkles would be there all the time. They are very fine lines which I had to zoom in to capture them on the camera. I see women much younger than me with more pronounced lines. So I’m very happy with how I look 👍

You’re so funny but it’s rather sad that you are so determined to try and bring another woman down. You can yabber all you want that you don’t think wrinkles are negative so you’re not bringing women down but we both know that’s not true. If I were you I’d do some serious reflection about what makes you so quick to be so unkind. And not only unkind but why do you even have head space for this? Why do you care what other people look like or what they think? Is it your own insecurities? Or not being a nice person? Combination of the two. There are genuinely more positive things you could fill your day with, I suggest you try some.

Honey that’s what a wrinkle is.

your forehead image is very blurry, it looks like the image has been softened and blurred.

im not going to ask yoh to confirm because to do that would mean that saying you’ve no lines and wrinkles is very important to you.

So much is in the angle and lighting. In my bedroom mirror I look terrible, in the bathroom I look youthful. These two pictures were taken literally 30 seconds apart. Same forehead, same neutral expression. Different angle, different lighting.

Well I haven’t softened or blurred the image but it seems important to you to think I have. Which is fine. It’s not important to me to not have wrinkles. I wouldn’t care if I have. I have the start of jowels, I have pores and rosacea. Wrinkles could join in. No problem. I’m not fussed about my appearance. I happily go out without makeup.

I don’t like being told I’m lying, delusional, fat , poor eyesight.

just wondering would you say an 8yo with lines by their eyes when they smile has wrinkles? 🤷🏻‍♀️😁. Honey.

I have one of those magic mirrors. It tells me I am the fairest of them all. That’s good enough for me. Now the stepdaughter has moved out to her cottage in the woods, I am using her old room as a gym and relaxation area, which has done wonders for my youthful complexion. Lots of fruit helps as well.

I have a magic mirror that has told me I’m a munter all my life!