How to decline a holiday invitation from someone I hardly know

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I am starting this thread again. As my previous one got mixed up with another one

Someone I hardly know has invited me to take a holiday with them next year. We have nothing much in common and theg are renting a property. I am not interested in where this holiday will be, and wpuld feel quite uneasy staying with someone because I like to do my own thing and cone and go as I please. I dont want to be seen as looking a gift horse in the mouth but I would only go away with someone I know very well. I guess you have to compromise with people but with someone you hardly know it would be too awkward and the person is just an acquaintance

So you have already said no thank you, what's the issue? Are they still asking you? Not sure of the point of this thread unless they're refusing to accept your declining.

There is no harm in posting on a forum because you are lonely or need advice.

I would strongly echo the advice of many other posters upthread. I once went on holiday with a colleague and two other people I did not know. I wont go into details but we all sat on different seats on the train back from Paris. I would infinately prefer to go on my own and feel a bit lonely from time to time than be with someone annoying and have to compromise.

Its best to be frank and say that this kind of holiday is not for you without explanation. Failing that the excuse of having used up all your leave/have plans is sufficient.

It's pretty rude to post disingenuous stuff like "how do I say no?" when she's already said no, though.

So you made a post about someone inviting you somewhere and you said ‘no thanks’.?

🙄

This is perfect, @PerkyOchrePeer
Say it politely
Then say it again.
And again.
Ad nauseam.
Finally, if they still won’t take no for an answer, my mum scared me to death once when she was speaking to someone and said loudly and firmly, WHAT ABOUT NO DON’T YOU UNDERSTAND??
I wish I could remember who it was and I wonder if it scared them too.

That’s really good that you already said a good firm No Thank You

If they persist in badgering you to change your mind, you say Please don’t keep asking as I’m not going to change my mind. I won’t be going with you and I prefer to leave it at that now thank you.

If you are being coerced and don’t feel strong enough to cope with it, you should go to a close relative or friend and explain what has happened. Ask for help to block them and to keep you safe from them.

Or you could explain more about your dilemma here so that people can advise you better.

I wouldn’t be worried about this. It’s more likely the OP will wake up with a boa constrictor next to her, measuring her up to see if it can eat her.

@PerkyOchrePeer Did you work out how to turn off the boiler OP?

The way you worded your post comes across as you being unsure how to respond to the invitation. But as you’ve already dealt with it I assume you are asking if people agree with you turning the offer down. Why does other people’s opinions on this matter to you at this point?

Not being rude but you sound autistic. So am I.
Did they just invite you and can't go unless 2 go. Or have they rented a villa and are throwing out invitations to lots of people to fill it.
Their invitation isn't suspicious or loaded.
Either way your answer was correct. Polite but clear. You should have perhaps added "Have a lovely time!" to the end of it.

Thank the person but decline. No doubt it was kindly meant, the person may feel you are more 'friends' than you are and was feeling expansive but won't be upset if you can't make it.

Such things happen, don't worry about it.

Just say no

I think its people with low sense of social skills. Perhaps they think this is how you make friends.

mmmmm No thank you !!!!

You are not in a position to judge whether the post has a meaning for the OP or not.

Perfect.

If you’ve said no what’s the issue?

So what’s the problem?

Are you the person who was going to go with a 'friend' to Las Vegas and hiking in Death Valley even though you didn't really like the friend, gambling or hiking, especially in dangerously hot weather? If so, is this the same person and if yes, he sounds abusive.

It must be either they are scraping about for someone to share the accommodation costs, or they simply don't have many people to ask but fancy the idea of a convivial trip. Also could be they would like to know op better.

But all these reasons are either not a good idea or are too much, too soon.

I think it takes a very bonded friendship to survive sharing a holiday.

If I were you op, I'd say thanks but I prefer to holiday alone. It isn't rude as the statement isn't specific to them and anything else raises the spectre of her revising her offer (different dates, change of accommodation etc).

Am glad you said no. Glad for the other person, as you'd have been back here complaining about them not getting on with you while away.

Yes, I remember dozens of your previous rather odd threads.

This and if they come back just state

Ive already said no thank you.

So why are you asking people how to do that?

Thanks for the invitation, but it's NOT on my bucket list of places to go and see and I'm not throwing away money on a holiday I'm not going to enjoy. But I hope you enjoy your trip. End of!!!