Neighbours are getting on my nerves already

[OneGreyBiscuit]

Had new neighbours in on Friday. They're privately renting and was told by landlord that it was a woman and her son, didn't sound too bad so I thought. Already it's people constantly going there (9am this morning), talking loudly. Now the son has been outside for the last hour bouncing a basketball and throwing it in a bin. I've just had to shut my bathroom window and can still hear it. I'm thinking they've only been there two days and I've had enough already. What would you do?

Or move to an area where the neighbours aren't selfish twats.

I usually puncture the balls.

These comments about move into the middle of a field are not helpful or practical

Or noise cancelling headphones.

It’s normal for people to use their gardens

I was waken up at 8am by scaffolding erection this morning, again normal

OP you sound like my mother when I was younger. We had a little boy live next to us and if he bounced the ball just once in the garden she was fuming and shouting she can't beleive she has to move because of them. Obviously I wasn't allowed to play with a ball and we moved many many times due to 'bad neighbours'.
Now I am an adult I realised that she was pretty bat shit crazy and her expectation of silence was unrealistic. Maybe you should start playing music in your house to drown things out but you need to change the way you approach things/your mindset. You are obviously sensitive to noise but that's going to have to be something you work on because the world isn't stopping for you.

8 am is fine. 6 am wouldn't be.

The basketball noise is particularly appalling - my DH bought a hoop and ball back from a work trip. He fitted the hoop to the side of the house on Saturday and removed it on Sunday!

The noise of the hoop reverberated throughout the house and the heavy ball smacking on the concrete was unbearable.

You have my sympathy.

I've not said anything about moving, others have. I know I have a sensitivity to other people's noise but I wouldn't say I'm bat shit crazy, that's a bit much.

Building work can’t start before 8am though

My mother is the same. Takes any noise in the neighbourhood at all as a personal attack. I think she’s autistic. It’s bizarre because she lives in an extremely quiet neighbourhood.

If this is the worse that happens, think yourself lucky. Unless you live in the wilds, people have to make allowances. 🤷‍♀️

I used to think adults who complained about children playing football next to their properties were miserable so and soes, but now can totally relate. It's a shame to not want them to have some fun, but it is really annoying.

That's why I posted it.

I make allowances. NDN's children are young. Children are young and they do make a noise but there is a level that's acceptable and there is a level that isn't.
If you can hear every word when next door's telly is on then it's too loud.

Kids 2 doors away squealing in a paddling pool is OK. 8 doors away playing loud music all day in their garden on a sunny Sunday isn't.

Move …Sounds it’s going to be horrible…

Sympathise big time with basket ball noise. It can sound like a heavy, relentless, banging thud as though you are being tortured.

I think they have started to set their stall out. So say something to them or be prepared get a pair of noise cancelling headphones.

Good Luck
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It's May! Edit: my mistake. I see your post was earlier

Since I last posted, the kid was bouncing his ball through my garden (they have access unfortunately) and she's been blasting her radio out since 8 this morning, voom, voom, voom and I can hear it over my own TV and washing machine. This is from a woman who said they were quiet! If I say something I'm going to sound like I'm telling people how to live in their own home.

I can't move, only get a house swap and why should I when I've spent £2000 to carpet this house?

It’s really tricky as this can really upset your peace of mind, I get it. It might be as they’ve just moved in lots of activity with settling etc (was us, I was in a mad state!) then things will settle. I think try and establish a good, neighbourly relationship asap, then you are in a better position to raise your concerns if they continue. Everyone has different tolerance levels and I’m with you on this. The very best of luck as your home is the one place you need to feel calm and relaxed.

i have misophonia too and really struggle to tune out noise too. The one thing that really helps me is ADHD music (I don’t have ADHD but this really helps me zone out). Something like this:

Thank you, I've tried to be neighbourly by taking bins and parcels in. It's gone from talk radio to voom, voom, voom in the last few days. I've just been thinking, if you can't beat them join them. I can put a music channel on my TV and blast that out and get my son to bounce his football by the gate but then that's just tit for tat.

Then you will have to put up with them, you can improve the inside of your home, but no right to change your neighbours 😬

I'd just shout 'ffs' out the window a few times. Usually does the trick.

Another update - I've now been listening to non stop music since 4 o clock, if its still going at 8 I'm having a word.