New mum friend criticised me in group setting, should I pull back?

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I wondered if anyone had advice. I am a chronic overthinker as a caveat.

I've made a new mum friend since having my baby (11weeks) we met at nursery and since then I've introduced her to a few other mum friends on the development and I think been nothing but supportive.

We recently went to a stay and play at the nursery we both attend and in front of the staff and new mums she bought up that it was good to be at a group we can talk at unlike another group we attended last week where she believed that I (rudely) talked over the group instructor and she felt bad for her and was wishing me to stop talking.

I don't disagree with her being that up if that's how she felt but it was in the context of being in front of the staff and new mums.

I mumbled something about not realising and I felt bad if I'd made the instructor feel that way but even the nursery workers commented saying 'its all coming out now'

I'm embarrassed and upset but we aren't close friends, we aren't even really close enough for me to cause an awkward situation by bringing it up. It would just probably end the friendship because I think she'd feel defensive. I don't know whether to just massively pull back or get over it (I think they are the two options I'd rather go for)

I've never been convinced by the idea that we should "call out" stuff. It's mostly something that's done with bad intentions by the worst people. I like the old saying, "never look at the person with the finger pointed at them, always look at the finger pointer".

Humiliating and embarrassing basically mean the same thing

I disagree. I consider "humiliating" to be much stronger.

People here often seem to melodramatic. No reason the OP couldn't have laughingly said, "Oh, I wish you had spoken up. Sorry - maybe I was just over-enthusiastic."

Brightbluestone · Today 10:27
Humiliating and embarrassing basically mean the same thing.
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No. Being embarrassed, though unpleasant, is milder than being humiliated.

They really don’t. You might be embarrassed if you discovered you’d worn your top inside out or accidentally called your line manager ‘mum’ on the phone. Humiliation is a much more shattering emotion — being jilted at the altar, public failure, bullying etc, and can give rise to feelings of worthlessness and inferiority.