Can’t help feeling sorry for Victoria Beckham

[anddeepbreathandsigh]

I’m not interested in VB at all for fame etc but even at a distance I can’t help but feel sorry for her as a mother having comments thrown about by her estranged son and his wife. Latest is the DiL saying her parents see the Beckham lad as like their son. That must be so hurtful. I can’t imagine being in that situation. The connection with your child is so deep and she seems no different in that respect so it must be awful. I hope there is a way to mend it long term.

I can't imagine what it would be like to be estranged from my DC, but they have ignored all Brooklyn's requests for privacy. They plastered baby pictures all over SM on his birthday...read the room parents. If your child feels that way then stop doing it. That's the only way things will ever heal

Until you have walked a mile in somebody's shoes don't assume your lived experience is the same as everybody else's.

I am estranged from my family. I feel no need to tell you why, but can assure you there is a good reason. More importantly I can tell you that not having contact with your parents and siblings is a painful last resort - not helped by people trotting out the "you only have one Mum/Dad/Sister" bollocks.

Google the term "identified patient".

It might help dispel some of the pity you feel.

Surely BB asking for privacy on sm is a bit pot kettle. If he really wanted privacy he’d get off sm and live his happy life in peace. Why does he need validation in clicks or whatever.

Prince Harry part duex. Both thick as mince.

I did! Very interesting hypothesis.

My parents see my husband as another son. He’s also close to his parents and has a good relationship with them. Because of that, I don’t see what she said as a slight.

How do you know it's not justified. We don't know what's gone on.

It's interesting though, that everything was fine and dandy with Brooklyn until his parents refused to buy him a mansion.

How do people even “know” this kind of crap? Do you know them or are you just believing the self publicity from both parties?

Actually it came from a recent interview she gave to Elle

That’s quite a strange level of knowledge and associated observation…

She chose to sell her son.

She is reaping what she sowed

If I fell out with my family, I wouldn’t keep posting about it on social media. Both sides keep doing it but more so the Beckhams. I think it’s a way of keeping them relevant and they’re actively exploiting it to make money.

I remember once saying that to a therapist, who replied that when you're talking about adult children, that feeling is better defined as codependency.

I see my lovely almost son-in-law like another one of my sons. It doesn't strike me as particularly weird.

She has used those kids since they were born as props in the David & Victoria show. You reap what you sow. He is a very average young man put into the spotlight for no reason except who his parents are. I'm not surprised he's unhappy.

Precisely.
I’ve just read The House of Beckham by Tom Bowers and it’s hardly surprising that they’re an incredibly disfunctional family.
The behaviour of V and D is beyond my comprehension.

Know her well do you?

Who deliberately tries to ruin their own child’s wedding? Victoria Beckham, that’s who.
They simply won’t leave him alone, he’s asked them many times to respect his boundaries but they simply ignore him. They are deliberately goading him at this point, using the press and his siblings to do so on social media as he has blocked them.
They are insane.

i did feel a bit sorry for them until they posted yet more photos of him on his birthday when he had expressly asked them not to. They know that it’ll generate all the ‘Beckhams try to reach out to BB’ type headlines, making them the wounded party again. If they really cared then why not just send him a text telling him they love him.

I was no contact with my late mum and it’s not a decision anyone takes lightly, whatever they feel about him , and / or his wife they should respect his boundaries.

I know it from comments attributed to the Peltz family. It was well publicised at the time. I'm guessing you missed it - which doesn't give you the right to be rude. My views aren't "crap" and I am not the gullible idiot you have made me out to be. It must be wonderful to be so sophisticated that you discount showbiz news out of hand - whilst still perusing the gossip threads on mumsnet in order to issue lofty put-downs to people you don't know.

I think there's a possibility he's gone from a controlling family to a controlling wife.

I was reading about Drew Barrymore who famously divorced her parents in her teens. She'd had a similarly messed up childhood. She's raised her own children to have normal lives out of the public eye. It will be interesting to see what Brooklyn does with his own kids.

With his dad's philandering christ knows what he saw behind closed. doors growing up and he perhaps had enough of playing happy families.

I'm not famous , nor rich beyond my wildest dreams . But I'm glad about that if I had to live a life in a goldfish bowl like they do .
But they have decided to live that lifestyle and seem to promote it so if it works for them , who are we to judge .
I have kids , some teens and an adult who has estranged from me .
is that heartbreaking ? Yes of course and it's like a bereavement and I feel the loss every day . I still love them and have done all that I can to open up the possibility of a reconnection , but from their point , they don't want that . So I have to respect their opinion and get on with life .
It hurts and continues to hurt everyday but there is nothing I can do .
The Beckham's will learn to accept that also but it takes time and as long as they do not do or say anything to close the door completely , it's hopefully always open for that just incase possibility .

That's interesting, what did the book say?