Can’t help feeling sorry for Victoria Beckham

[anddeepbreathandsigh]

I’m not interested in VB at all for fame etc but even at a distance I can’t help but feel sorry for her as a mother having comments thrown about by her estranged son and his wife. Latest is the DiL saying her parents see the Beckham lad as like their son. That must be so hurtful. I can’t imagine being in that situation. The connection with your child is so deep and she seems no different in that respect so it must be awful. I hope there is a way to mend it long term.

I feel sorry for the dc, particularly the one who has aired issues.

We can’t be sure how she is feeling. It’s natural that you would feel awful if it was you but not everyone is the same.

My mother hasn’t spoken to me in about 2 years and I think she’s fine with it. Not all mothers were built equal.

Live by the sword, die by the sword.
The Beckhams have chosen to live their lives - including the lives of their children - in the public eye. Plenty of people keep their children's lives private. They chose not to.
I have no idea what's gone on, but there's some very disordered behaviour.

Brooklyn very publicly complained and said harsh things about his upbringing. That has got to hurt . She can't even refute or apologize for anything as it would add more attention from the press.And to be cut off from your eldest child , no matter who you are or how much you have must be distressing. To imply that she is OK is to say that she doesn't love her son. Many MIL on here feel sad that their sons adopt their wives and her family to the exclusion of his own . And if I was one of Nicola brothers I wouldn't be impressed either.

Saying they see their daughter's husband as a son is one of those throw away comments said without thought. Unless of course with thought, they would be happy about their "son" having sex with their daughter. That is if they actually said it.

His actual parents seem to have remained a dignified silence about the rift, only posting about their love for all their children.

It’s vanity off the scale. It’s incredible how she was able to produce four children. As she gets older it’ll all take its toll. It must be utterly miserable. Imagine not looking forward to your dinner. Or a few lagers.

I do feel for David and Victoria having a whinging spoilt nepo baby for a son. He'll be back with his tail between his legs when Nicola tires of him

She should have given him a normal childhood, and not made him part of a brand. You reap what you sow. No sympathies.

@anddeepbreathandsigh if and I say if loosely ,d and v are narcs who have used him then it goes way deeper then one argument.
It seems he's been trying to put his view across for a long time !

This. Give them regular names, protect them from the press, allow them privacy.
You never hear anything about George and Amal Clooney's children.

I agree. I saw their programme on Netflix and thought she looked frail and brittle. David was kind of mean and snarky to her too talking about how he'd like another child knowing that at 50, she's too old for that and it wouldn't be possible anyway.

I didnt seen any evidence of her being funny either, she seemed pretty bland.

Lovely to read how hard estrangement is for the parents completely invalidating the fact some people have cut their families off as a last option. I had to cut mine off for VERY valid reasons and as nobody knows what has gone on nobody should be feeling sorry for any of them.

He was happy enough to use the Beckham brand to try to have a career. And took the money . Which he is still doing now just a different Daddy . If he had really wanted to be independent and break away he would have focused on education, experience and get a career for himself. Romeo seems to be trying to become a musician which takes a bit of talent plus work .

Unless you know them personally then you don’t know what’s gone on, who’s actually said what or anything so no I don’t see why any of us should feel sorry for any of them.

I think in that sense it's a bit like getting invested in the imaginary problems of people who don't exist, aka a soap.

Ok these people do exist but we don't really know anything about them. They might all be monstrous for all we know.

My thoughts on this for the little they area worth are that I am sure Brooklyn has valid reasons for cutting contact with his parents but it seems as if he has just swapped the endless exposure he had via "Brand Beckham" for endless exposure with his wife and her family. I guess that this is in some way due to the upbringing he has had, constantly being in the press and now enmeshed in the world of social media. I assume that this is one way he validates his existence, but what do I know? I do think that it is wrong to monetise your kids, they can't consent and online stuff is there forever. It is a conscious choice of the parents who do this as there are many celebs whose children have completely private upbringings and are shielded from the public. I think it must be quite challenging to have famous parents anyway without the parents themselves thrusting you into the limelight.

This is going to be a massive future problem, children who have been monetised by parents, put on social media and used without consent.

I guess my brain works differently. Yes I can very invested in characters in a soap or whatever, I can also get very upset at certain well known people's deaths etc. I was very upset when The Queen died for example. But people like the beckhams whose whole lives are just 'media' I just can't understand people feeling 'sad' over things that are generated by media 💁🏻‍♀️

I do think it's sad. I think any family estrangement is sad. I also think it's easy to judge from the outside (and take sides) when the reality is usually more complex and there's often faults on both sides. As a mum of adult children, I know I haven't always got everything right but my children are my life and I can't imagine the pain of one of them not wanting to see me 😔

Yes poor lad - born into wealth and privilege, which he then leaned on heavily to try to get a ‘career’, despite no discernible talent.

The whole family are fairly pointless

Yes poor lad - born into wealth and privilege, which he then leaned on heavily to try to get a ‘career’, despite no discernible talent

its weird how privacy is really underrated by so many

I agree OP. No amount of money would help me if I lost contact with my boy.

As if money makes up for being estranged from your eldest child.

But the public eye was all he ever knew, he was bound to be part of it. They had the option for wealth and privilege, without sharing his photos and name with the world, and pushing him into the public eye. My children make mistakes just like Brooklyn did with his photography book but it's not on a public platform. I know wealthy kids whose parents protect their privacy. I think kids should be able to grow and develop, and make mistakes, without having parents push them into the public domain and make them a laughing stock. I believe he was failed by his parents.

2 sides to every story...