Mother's Day Safe Space

[worldshottestmom]

Let's be having it, feel free to share how your mother's day is going/has been. Even if its been rubbish, at least we can have a laugh about it.

Mine started with DS smacking me in the eye winging, followed by him having a tantrum because my DD turned the washing machine on instead of him. Just walked into the living room to find DD pulling all clean washing off the drying rack and spitting crisps onto them.

I did get a nice handmade card off my DS though, which I adore! Going to order some nice food later and hope my washing and eyes make it through the rest of the day unscathed. Happy Mother's Day!

I got up at 7 to make the kids breakfast as he’d only made himself.

kids had gotten me some gifts from money older son sent them. Which I was grateful for.

Husband didn’t give kids a penny, hadn’t acknowledged it but that’s how he’s always been.

Then I done all the housework and I’m finally sat down.

Another day that can’t ever possibly be about us 🙄

It's bittersweet. My one and only child was born on Mothering Sunday. I lost five other pregnancies.

My mum's birthday was on 27 March - usually within a week of the day. She died far too young, and for a good few years afterwards the slew of promotional emails I got every year left me really distressed.

I don't really 'celebrate' hallmark days - preferring ones like our own anniversary and birthdays that have specific meaning to us. But this one always does give me a little pause for sadness.

Ack, sorry thats been your day so far. My ex was awful and constantly banged on about how stupid of a day it was and a waste of time / money, how delightful! Dont understand why they cant but a shred of effort in for the women who birthed their children, its tragic. Hope your day improves! I've all spent all morning cleaning if thats any consolation lol

No one, neither DH or adult DC have acknowledged it yet.

Gosh im so sorry for your loss. I always think of those who have lost their mother's when I see the heavy promotion of today. At least you can focus on the positive of your precious DC being born so close to the day, and hopefully find a positive in that. I totally understand it being hard for you though.

My mums mum died on mother's day, 27 years ago now. She much prefers to make a fuss over me about it since I became a mum, I think it has somehow helped her heal in a way.

That's awful, I'm sorry. I hope they do. Just feels like a lot of people don't care, and treat it like every other day that we're made to feel like its just another day of us being unimportant. That being said, you try and do something nice for yourself, maybe a pamper day? If you want, and can. Im just chilling with my DC and mum, doing some face masks and ordering some food later.

I got a happy birthday mum card (bought last minute)… brilliant 👍🏼😂

Hahahahaha that would of made my day!

I’ve had some lovely, thoughtful gifts from the kids - and my eldest bought hers with her own money for the first time which feels very special.

If I was being hyper critical id have preferred to have them at 8am rather than 5.30!

So far not even a card.
My son surprised me with delivery flowers before.
I'm upset as I always worked it.They lives miles away and I know they are busy.
We hosted them recently and Christmas.Its a bit hurtful tbh.
I'm 60 this year and will continue to buy my own stuff for birthday Christmas and mother's day.

First mothers day without dad who was basically my mum. Disc pain in my neck is making me scream out loud. Its not going well.

My teen dd started the day in tears because she is tired and woke up early. Mine started 2 hours earlier because the cat woke me up. DH hasn’t spoken to me yet, after a huge row yesterday. My own mum died several years ago, and I am still coming to terms with the awful relationship we had, and my difficult neglected childhood experienceI’ve done laundry, made my own breakfast and it’s been like every other Sunday so far. I’m pretty low today tbh.

Aw that's lovely, it is nice when they're able to treat you properly rather than paying yourself. Yeah a 5:30am start would have rubbed me the wrong way too lol, but at least they made up for it!

Aw that's so sad, I'm sorry. Can see why youre hurt tbh, doesn't take much to make an effort for one day compared to us making continuous effort 365 days a year! Especially when they're of the age to know better. I hope you're able to get yourself something nice.

It’s my first Mother’s Day as a widow. I didn’t expect to be as bothered as I am (I’d expected to feel rough at Christmas, birthdays etc) but it’s just really brought home that it’s just me and DD. She’s 4 so can’t be expected to do anything it’s not her fault.

Omg that's awful, I'm so sorry. I hope your pain gets better, and your day too. Today really can be very hard for so many people and I'm so sympathetic.

This is the first year I haven’t had my kids with me, as DH and I are divorcing and they are at their dads. They are bringing me cake later though, which they have made themselves.

And I’ve had a nice grown up morning in the meantime. Pottered about a bit and enjoyed coffee in bed.

Its ok.

Aw im so sorry, that must be so incredibly hard for you. I have nothing but sympathy. I hope youre able to get through the day knowing your doing a wonderful job as a mother to your DD 💐

Thanks for a safe space. My kids are both too young to organise anything for themselves, so I'm grateful that school helped them to make a card each. My DH isn't unkind, but also not very thoughtful. I knew there'd be no 'event' today as until late in the week he wasn't even planning to be here this weekend, but I did think maybe he'd have bought a card or bought me a bunch of flowers or something, just to acknowledge everything I do for our family. I don't need any grand gestures, but have been talking a lot about how unappreciated I feel sometimes in my role as mum/ complete mental load carrier, so I do feel a bit let down today.

I've decided to have a bath, spend time with the kids and then go and see a friend later on today for a break. And thinking about it I had to literally poke DH into buying his own mum a card and he still hasn't messaged her today, so I don't know what I was expecting when there's no one to poke him to do it for me(!)

Aw thats horrible, im so sorry. Sending you a big hug 🫂 cos you need it! How selfish of your DH to even entertain an argument before today. Yeah it can be so hard when you experienced such a difficult childhood, especially at the hands of your own mum. I can understand youre feeling low! How rubbish for you. You just try and continue to have a peaceful day for yourself, and remind yourself that youre doing amazing 💖

🤣 Could be worse, at least they tried!

That sounds okay so far! Sorry to hear about the divorce, though probably better off. At least you can enjoy your day in peace, could be worse i guess. Enjoy your cake later, as well!

@worldshottestmom@TeaBiscuitsNaptime 😂❤️

I was treated to a call at 12.30am from my daughter who was staying at her Dads because she couldn’t find an inhaler and her dad was at a party. So 20 min walk (I had been drinking and couldn’t drive) to get an inhaler to her. I guess two of them did say happy Mother’s Day in the middle of the night. But not even a text today. Oh the joy of teenagers!!! 😂😂

Aw its lovely they made you a card each. The best bit about today for me was my handmade mother's day card from my son, its the first hes done and I love it.

That being said, im so deeply sorry your DH hasn't bothered for you. Truly disgusts me tbh all these men who cant bother to give their partner / spouse a second thought for a single day appreciating all they do as mothers and partners, as you highlighted. Seems a common theme most men dont even remember their own mums today, let alone the mothers of their own kids. Why are they so dim? I could write a collection of books on this tbh.

Sending you a big hug 🫂 cos you really shouldn't have to feel like that today. I hope the rest of your day improves and you enjoy the time with your DC and friend later ❤️