Regrets, do you have lots, a few, none?

[NovemberMorn]

I don't have any, not any serious ones anyway.
I accept I have made mistakes, probably a few bad choices, but they have all been a learning curve.
We can all muse about the sliding doors theory, but in the scheme of things, what's the point of having regrets?

Too few to mention.

Agree. No point in regrets. Just like "if only." That way madness lies.

A few but not too many. I don’t get everything right but tend to get there in the end.

If I was sent back in time with all the knowledge I have now, there’s definitely things I would do differently. But now I’ve done them I don’t regret them as such. Even marrying an abusive arsehole has led me to what is currently a good place in life, but I wouldn’t repeat the mistake!!

I regret quite a few of the choices I have made. But I accept it as part of life and don’t sit around wishing I did things differently. I don’t think regretting is a bad thing unless you are constantly dwelling on it and it’s affecting your life now.

Yes, but if I’d done things differently, I’d probably have different regrets.

Chances missed would be different chances missed.

I have a few but not many. Mine are mostly rubbish financial choices. Nothing disastrous but I’m nearly 50 and still renting 😞. I love where I live though, and it’s a rental that I can stay in for ever (so long as I can afford to).

I will save to help DD to buy when she’s ready.

One big regret : My first career after university.

For some inexplicable reason, I applied for a job as a management trainee with a multinational hotel company. Unfortunately, I got the job. What followed was 5 years of hell. Intolerable working hours (70 was a good week) & zero work / life balance. Ridiculous levels of stress. Finding out that ‘management trainee’ actually meant ‘general dogsbody’. Crap salary. The job cost me a good relationship with a great person.

So why did I waste those irreplaceable years of my life? Because I was the first person in my family to go to university & I was determined not to fail in my first job. Eventually I walked out in the middle of a shift without another job to go to & never worked in hospitality again.

I wouldn’t do most things I’ve done If I could go back in time quite honestly. I wish it was a trial run.

I regret a financial decision I made years ago but it’s not something I dwell on , what’s the point .

Not many:

Kind of sorry I didn't take a year off before uni and spend a chunk of it in Israel before things really hit the fan. I'm Jewish and very ambivalent about Israel, but I still kind of wish I'd gone and done the Israel year off thing.

I used to regret a bit not getting myself on the student newspaper at university and really angling hard for a job in journalism after my degree, but journalism's turned out to be such an precarious profession now I'm glad I never got into iy.

So so many . From marrying a dick , financial decisions, career , family choices , to the way I treated people . I try not to dwell as it is pointless but as I age I often wonder how my life would be different. It's not terrible but I could have had more contentment I think .

Maybe in the future you will go.

I have been a couple of times, I loved it, and hopefully will return again one day...who knows.

I regret that the adoption we were undertaking broke down after a couple of months. Probably 6 years ago now so it gets easier

Yeah. Some massive ones. Can't change any of them. Some would change the good things of now though

A few. One very big one.

I wouldn’t choose nursing again but now at 54 I look back and there’s absolutely nothing else I’d do differently.

A few little ones but nothing major.

I would, however, have had the threesome I wimped out over before I met DH 😂

Things maybe I should have not refused..., saying 'No' when I should have said Yes... mainly turning down the job opportunity to sing, which I really loved doing (too scared).

But...when you refuse one thing, something else takes it's place, so if all ends well, (and even if it doesn't) I don't see the point in regretting what might have been.

Well that's the thing, even if things settle down, unless there are massive changes in government, I don't want to go there now. I just kind of wish I could have gone before I knew! Which probably sounds odd. I have visited Israel 3 times, but that's a very different experience to living out there for an extended period and learning the language etc.

Yep, but it’d take all night to list them.

A few. Mainly after my DH died. I think I lost the plot a couple times with my kids.
I definitely think there were a few times I could have handled certain situations better and if I could go back in time I would do things differently, but I guess one can say that about a lot of things. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t make mistakes.

I regret nothing. But I learn from everything.

I regret eating two m&s fudge bars snd a packet of salt and vinegar crisp this evening after being strict with my diet akl week 🫩

I regret not goingnc with my abusive mother earlier.

We can regret … but ultimately, the mistakes we make always have a knock on effect, and to erase them would erase a significant and sometimes wonderful outcome from that ‘regret!’

I hate the fact I was so young and naïve to marry an abusive man … but I have my 2 wonderful sons from that marriage so to regret it would regret them.

learning from these mistakes is a far better way forward.

and to wish his every future poo is a pineapple !!!!