Regrets, do you have lots, a few, none?

[NovemberMorn]

I don't have any, not any serious ones anyway.
I accept I have made mistakes, probably a few bad choices, but they have all been a learning curve.
We can all muse about the sliding doors theory, but in the scheme of things, what's the point of having regrets?

A few in the more recent years:

-Falling out with my friend so we missed eachother’s weddings.

-Sending DC1 to a childminder

-Not signing up to a gym with a creche during second mat leave

I had a row with a family member, I do regret saying something in retaliation, it ruined the relationship.
I cant take it back because it was the truth, but I do regret saying it.

At the time they were regrets but none now. Everything that happened, happened for a reason

Update: Yes, I do have one regret. I wish I had found my passion for history earlier on. I grew up with a very nerdy dad who took us all over the place galavanting about English heritage and national trust homes and he took us all over the world seeing historical places e.g. The Somme etc. My brother is now an archaeologist and I'm in a boring corporate job I hate. Wish I had studied history and had a career in that department.

I have a few, but at 66 it's not really worth even thinking about them. Overall I am content with my life, there is no time for "what ifs".

Not answering my mum's phone call the day before she died. I was out for the day, forgot to ring her when I got home. She died suddenly the next morning.

Yes. I bitterly and overwhelmingly regret marrying an abusive man. The signs were there. There had been awful, character-assination outbursts that started soon after he moved in.

He was rude to me the night before our wedding.

And I STILL married him.

And now I'm divorced, traumatised, I struggle to work and have horrible depression.

Biggest mistake of my whole life, and one I have to live with forever.

Stupid, stupid, stupid.

I feel your pain.

I am the same position.

But we can move fowards and just try to shed what shitness happened. Really tough though. I will never risk another man in my life.

That's so sad, but surely the best revenge on a person who has treated you so badly is to live the rest of your life as if they were never in it?
Whether that includes a man in the future or not....don't let a past arsehole affect your future happiness.

This is very sad to hear and I understand how painful this must be. Sending hugs 💐