What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

I consider Miller and Carter lower middle class, and Centre Parks is somewhere I would never dream of visiting, rather like Disneyworld or whatever it's called in Florida.

Whether you like it or not (I hate it and I think most people do), class in the UK is so deeply entrenched that it affects every area of life. It’s bollocks to pretend it isn’t. As soon as someone opens their mouth people are subconsciously categorising them into what class they are

I’m not. The UK isn’t a country btw.

I think 'posh' is something we make up in our own heads according to our aspirations - many years ago I aspired to, and thought them extremely posh, the following

A serving hatch from kitchen to lounge
Martini Rosso
An onyx topped coffee table with gold legs
😂

These days my tastes have changed (thankfully)

I would like to buy Charbonel and walker bonbons all year, not just at Christmas
I would aspire to a floristry budget, not just my £5 sainsburys bunch
Very expensive bed linen

Errr the UK is a country. It might be made up of 4 constituent nations but as a whole it is a country

A family I know considered it ‘posh’ of their Gdcs to call a room the ‘sitting room’ rather than ‘the lounge’. Of course they were quite wrong - truly posh would have been calling it ‘the drawing room’. 😂

No, it’s a union.

Came up on my Facebook local earlier... "Anyone lost a quail?"

Fairly posh.

The two fat ladies- Clarissa and Jennifer were the epitome of posh for me - esp with C being a barrister and an ex-
GnT alcoholic - naturally

You don't think there might be a link between you saying that all your friends and family are working class and your assertion that ‘most don’t bother about class’? You only think that because you live in a static class bubble.

Also, whether you are personally bothered about class is irrelevant to its impact on your life, your housing, your likelihood of going to university and your general educational attainment, the kind of job you’re likely to have, your earning potential, your health, your life expectancy etc.

Well, they weren’t wrong, though — ‘sitting room’ codes considerably above ‘lounge’, just as ‘sofa’ codes above ‘settee’.

truly posh would have been calling it ‘the drawing room’.

Not necessarily - they might have both a sitting room and a drawing room!

I live in East London in quite a traditional working class area and am often accused of being "posh" because i grew up in Berkshire and went to grammar school, so i speak quite differently from a lot of the people i meet here. Often said in a very negatively unpleasant way, i tend to have friends who are not British born as they don't seem to judge accents this way. So I'm not a fan of the expression "posh". Seems to be reverse snobbery quite often.

And of course one should always have a morning room, too.

One of my dds went to Newcastle Uni, where some of the girls she shared accommodation with early on, who came from northern UK areas, ‘accused’ her of poshness, because she came from outer London and had an RP accent - and I don’t mean a cut-glass one, just normal RP. And there were endlessly repeated tedious comments like, ‘I bet you’ve got a big house (we haven’t) and your parents re loaded…’
It was all actually quite nasty and did really upset her.

It's all subjective. My friend's husband constantly refers to my friend as "posh" - he's absolutely not. He grew up on a 1970s estate, very ordinary house, went to state school, worked in weekend jobs as soon as he was old enough, and has none of the attributes I would say are "posh".

I hate the word "posh" but to me it is someone with generational wealth, went to an elite Public school (as did their parents, and probably grandparents too) and didn't need to earn money until they were out of university and even then didn't have to unless it was absolutely perfect for them, as they would be bankrolled by parents through a trust fund.They probably got their job through who they know and married someone from the same background as they simply don't mix in the same circles as the rest of us.

Cannot believe I’m actually having to explain to a person who (assumedly) lives in this country that the country they live in is a country 🤣. The union makes up the country. Yes, the 4 nations make up the union, the union is the country. If it’s not a country and the 4 separate nations are the countries then where’s the border control? Why don’t you need a passport to go to Scotland? Of course it’s a country! You fly into London and go through immigration then can travel freely to Scotland, Wales and N. Ireland because you are already in the COUNTRY 🙄 ask AI if you don’t believe me!

I swear some MNers could would argue that water isn’t wet!

Because it is bad manners?

That depends on how the person pointing it out perceives posh. Some see it as giving someone a compliment, some see it as insulting someone

Posh is never using the word posh!

Yes!

Uh god, the "is the UK a country or not" question. Constitutionally the UK is a unitary state created by two treaties of union (1707 and 1801) and an annexation. That makes it very different to, say, the European Union or the United States of America. Governance has been devolved in parts of it but ultimate law making power remains at Westminster. It's also a country in which certain ethnicities historically predominate in particular parts, something it has in common with very many other countries round the world.

A drawing room is more formal than a sitting room, two different rooms used for different things and mainly seen in large houses.

My Great Aunt had a drawing room, it was used for things like Wakes, Christmas and family get togethers, it was kitted out with more formal sofas and chairs (not soft comfy sofas that you watched tv in), it didn't have a TV in. The sitting room was much less formal, comfy sofas, a lot smaller, much less grand and used for every day use, watching TV etc.

Funnily enough, although I hardly ever heard him use the term, my long-gone DF thought ‘shoes off’ was very LMC - along with net curtains. Shoes-off was unknown among my family and friends until I was long grown up - and still is, among most of them.