What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

DD23 and I were walking from our doctor's to the bus stop (soooooooo not posh) behind some local boarding school girls. One said "I always miss the start of Traitors when lacrosse practise runs late, I'm sure Miss x does it deliberately, she is so mean".
We turned round and walked the other way... so as not to set each other off. It was said with that "lashings of ginger beer" type of voice.

I thought they may be "posh".

I have learned something today! I think I already knew the phrase, but couldn't think what it was.

What's so funny about lacrosse? We played it at my school, along with netball, athletics, tennis and rounders.

I know it’s gained popularity.

I was commenting to pp because they said it was a lower middle class thing. And I don’t think it is.

New memory unlocked - I actually think I did have one of those! It had a thick black cord on it rather than a chain, was probably permitted because it was a bit hippy dippy and not chavvy. A few of my classmates had the huge moveable doll necklaces rather than the clown... they might have been from Argos but they were ££££! These were the same girls who used a coke can to shape their fringes back in the day too 😅

None of my, my DH's, my friends' or my children's schools have had lacrosse as an option. Not entirely sure I have ever even seen a game of lacrosse played. Different lived experience, so I found it (and the way it was said) to be funny.

Working class thing where I live.

That’s interesting. Was it always like that or in last decade?

I remember going to friend’s houses and automatically taking shoes off and when people came to ours they took shoes off at door.

but I don’t remember it being a thing otherwise

Then I think maybe early 2000s I saw my sil adopted it. And recently a good friend has changed to shoes off.

Always. Scotland.

I never knew that! Actually sil did move to Scotland. But I think that was shoes on. Then moved back to England and changed

I actually have a seat in my hall to make it easier! 🤣

Oh I think that might qualify as posh then! We dreamt of a seat 😂

😆

Plus blue, foaming water in the...
What to call it?
Toilet, lav(atory), bog, loo, WC...
Another shibboleth.

I love the fact that, halfway through typing "shibboleth", predictive text suggested "shithole".
Maybe it was just another option for the list?

When someone tells you they always carry a spare cummerband you know they are a bit posh 😂

It's all relative. For me personally posh is:
Going out to Miller and carter
Buying new clothes (apart from underwear)
Talking like the royal family
Going on holiday to center parts

Some people where I live think I'm posh because I have a home counties accent but in the home counties I don't sound posh at all.

Taking your shoes off when you enter the house is definitely lower middle class or below. It's a cummerbund, not a cummerband. Center Parcs isn't even a tiny bit smart/posh. Despite being middle/upper middle class I actually adore blue foamy water in loos. This whole thread is a bit crazy.

As is your post about shoes off being a “class”thing.

I’d say this is an English thread tbh as we’re not so hung up about petty shit like this.

I don't think posh means super rich, but you definitely need some money to be proper posh.

Posh is more - owning a the 5 bed detached in the 'good' part of town, 2 cars which are a Mercedes/BMW, private school, prawn cocktails at Christmas using the 'good' china, looking down on people who live in council estates - that sort of thing.

That’s pure lower-middle-class.

My ex husband was from Liverpool. I met a new work colleague and when I noticed her accent and asked whereabouts in Liverpool she was from (Bootle) I mentioned my husband was a scouser so she asked where he was from.
When I told her he was from West Derby she said “Ooh posh! They have indoor lavvies”.

This is really interesting.
won’t give all the back story but I have lived in my area for most of my life - i have a very ‘local’ accent when talking at work for eg, but then I have a different voice and almost persona for more professional situations and depending on who I am with.
PIL friends thought I was ‘posh’ when they first met me - PIL laughed at this and said I was more ‘local’ than they were. It’s true, however I also know how to act with class.

I agree with that PP that it’s a classic example of lower middle class. Basically people who could be working class if they didn’t make any effort. But they try desperately to distance themselves from anything working class and do all the things they think would make them middle class, eg. having an impeccably clean house. This is so important to them, that they ask people to take their shoes off in their homes. Same reason wearing new shiny white trainers, without a single scuff is more popular amongst lower middle class people than true m/c, who wouldn’t care if their trainers had a few scuffs.

It’s just basic hygiene surely?

I’m working class. As are all my family and friends. We all take our shoes off when we go into people’s homes and always have done.

Maybe you’re seeing everything through a prism of where you live?

People live differently and most don’t bother about class.

Seems to be a MN thing.