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Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?

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KnottyAndPistey · 02/03/2026 19:12

We bring such sad news, lovely wafflenose has lost her younger daughter (L) through tragic circumstances and we are just so desperately sorry, thoughts very much with waffle, her family and all who loved her daughter. Really really devastating. Life has been desperately cruel. You may well recognise waffle from music/education/Extra-curricular threads here on MN. Both her lovely daughters have been involved with Mumsnet.

We are so glad waffle would like to receive a Woolly Hug. For those new on here, this is a long standing tradition on Mumsnet where folk come together to make a blanket for one of our own who has been bereaved. There will be love crafted into every stitch. We want it to be a tribute and full of memories. We hope it may give whatever comfort it can.

People have described L as a quiet light, the gentlest of souls. Let us make something truly beautiful in her honour.

So we come again asking for help and shall need both crafters and donors of funds of wool. Can you help us? We would be truly grateful. Thank you

Important crafting info
Squares to be six inches, using 4mm needles or hook. Please knot off VERY carefully when finishing or changing colour and sew your ends in, thank you! No blocking please, makes it much easier to join squares.

Simple or complex, made by beginner or expert, we genuinely welcome them all. It really is the love and thought that counts.

We have some ideas for themes..
Initials please E, G, L and K

She played the recorder, the clarinet and the cello, but focused mainly on the clarinet latterly and played in the National Children's Orchestra Under 10s for a while. Her NCO hoodie was bright blue - a bit like Yarnsmith dark turquoise.

She loved art and reading and was very creative. Loved Harry Potter and would probably have been in Hufflepuff house had she been at Hogwarts.

She had a quirky mind and used to love lego.

She was quite a fashionista. Loved Vogue magazine and Miss Dior perfume

Favourite colours were pink and white (pink more than white).

English literature was the love of her life. We are hoping someone can recreate a bookshelf square? One of her favourite books was Jane Eyre. She had also been studying Plath and Hughes.

She loved swimming and the great outdoors, particular the Quantock Hills. (Photo) We are hoping this may act as an inspiration.

Work/volunteering: she did Brownies and Guides and volunteered as a Rainbow Guider and also volunteered on a hospital ward for a while. She worked as a waitress and at the village pub.

She was interested in philosophy and was planning to become a psychologist/counsellor.

She liked Fleetwood Mac.

She kept tropical fish, hamsters and gerbils and loved all other animals especially cats.

She also liked art and photography.

She was very passionate about being an organ donor - and several people have now received life-saving operations because of her. A truly wonderful young woman.

Lots of ideas and ways to get to know L better. If you can recreate a theme on a square, wonderful, but we also need simple squares, A square in one of her favourite colours is perfect too.

The MAIN Colours. We will be using her favourites,
Pinks from pale baby pink through to magenta.
Cream, but only please Drops Merino Extra Fine - Off White (01) or Yarnsmiths Merino DK Superwash - Off White (3045)
Lighter silvers
Greens pale to mid. Think nature inspired

Then embellishments and accents ONLY please (not whole squares)
Blues - sky to navy inc turquoise.
Sunset shades - red, orange, yellow, gold, but only if creating a sunset!
Browns taupe to mid
Charcoal grey
Black

The Yarn we will be Using for Consistency ….
Yarnsmiths Merino DK Superwash - a BIG sale at Wool Warehouse. Has the widest range of colours
Debbie Bliss Rialto DK only available on Love Crafts
Drops Merino Extra Fine DK.
Katia Merino 100% DK
King Cole Luxury Merino DK

Just from the brands listed please because we know they combine for wash and wear. If you still have any of our wools that have been discontinued or have become less easy to find- Artesano Superwash Merino DK, Debbie Bliss Cashmerino DK, Jenny Watson Pure Merino DK, Patons Merino Extrafine DK or James C. Brett Pure Merino DK in your stash, please do use them.

Posting will be Teddington, please message if you need the address. If you'd like to include a card for her family , please send with your squares. And please don't forget to include your name!

If you can upload photos of your squares on here as we go along, that will be a lovely record, especially if you have donated yarn.

Will set the last posting date once we are underway but it will be approx 6 weeks hence

Thoughts and love very much with waffle, we are so so sorry. Remembering L Star

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
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bookbook · 05/03/2026 13:51

@PrizedPickledPopcorn in the OP , it says
about 6 weeks to last posting , which would take it to the middle of April 🙂

KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 14:06

Hello , lovelies .

Last Posting for squares is April 13th

Message us for the address when you are ready to post.

Thank you all 💐

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 14:11

Knitting needles & hooks are fine on flights . It’s scissors they seem more concerned about ( I have had them taken away 😅) Small like nail scissors are fine . Some just use nail clippers.

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SeptemberIRemember · 05/03/2026 14:24

bookbook · 05/03/2026 13:49

I have just checked for you @SeptemberIRemember ,unfortunately not , sorry .

Oh, thank you @bookbook. Not the answer I wanted, but I’m glad I asked.

I had been thinking of something like the picture, in Pinkberry with pink beads. My yarn from Wool Warehouse hasn’t arrived yet so I’m still at the planning stage.

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 15:16

September, it’s a beautifully textured square. Would embroidered / French knots work?

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/03/2026 15:21

Here are the instructions for crocheting a gerbil, based on the two versions I made last year. Unfortunately I didn’t write everything down at the time, so a couple of things are a bit iffy in the instructions. My gerbils were the result of a lot of experimentation: feel free to experiment, too. If I’ve got anything wrong, please forgive me & let us all know so nobody wastes their time & yarn. If you can think of improvements, please say so. If you have any questions, please ask.

Hoping to see lots of lovely gerbils for dear Waffle.

Maud the Crocheted Gerbil
Maud is basically made up of circles: a big circle for her body, a medium-sized circle for her head, & two small circles for her ears.

In addition, two rectangles make her arms & a line of chain stitches makes her tail.

Her eyes, whiskers, nose, mouth & hands are all embroidered.

She was made in two forms. The full-length Maud was appliqued onto a 6” knitted square, for Swash’s Woolly Hug in the summer of 2025. The head of Maud appeared as a crocheted Christmas bauble for the WH Christmas sale later that year & it measured about 4” in diameter.

You will need:
Small amounts of

  1. One of the recommended off-white yarns. I used Drops Merino Extra Fine - Off White (01)
  2. A gerbil-coloured yarn. I used Yarnsmiths Merino DK Superwash - Stone Grey (3015)
Tiny amounts of pale pink yarn & black yarn, for embroidering details. Don’t tell K&P but I used whatever I had in my stash - in fact, the pink was a chunky yarn which I de-spiralled into thinner threads. 4mm crochet hook 4mm knitting needles if knitting the background square. Darning needle Scissors

Method (NB using UK terms)

Body for full-body version
This is a 4-row circle, slightly flattened at the base
Row 1 inner tummy circle: Using off-white, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (12 sts)

Row 2 outer tummy circle: Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then 2tr into each following treble. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (24 sts)

Row 3 main body circle: Change yarn to gerbil back colour. Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then (1tr into next st, 2tr into next st) until there are 4 sts of previous row left - DO NOT WORK THESE ON THIS ROW. This gives the flat base. (30 sts)

Row 4 tidying-up body circle: Do 1dc into top of each of the 4 off-white tr from row 2 that you didn’t use in row 3, then carry on round & do 1dc into each tr from row 3 (now the previous round, which are all gerbil-coloured). Join with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (34 sts)

Head for either version
This is a standard 2-row circle
Row 1: Using off-white, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (12 sts)

Row 2: Change yarn to gerbil back colour. Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then 2tr into each following treble. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (24 sts)

Alternative row 2 for head
This uses both off-white and body colour, to give a white throat as in the Maud bauble. Stitches are as row 2 above, but work the first 2 lots of 2tr (actually (3ch, 1tr) & then 2tr) in white, & then change colour & work the other 10 lots of 2tr in gerbil body colour.

Ears for full-body version (make 2)
These are standard one-row circles
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (12 sts)

Ears for head-only version (make 2)
These are standard one-row circles, slightly flattened at the base
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 8tr & then 3dc into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (12 sts) I might have done 3ch, 9tr & 2dc.

The reason for the different ears is that full-body Maud’s ears were full circles partly hidden by being tucked under her head. That wasn’t possible with head-only Maud, as there’s a crocheted ring around the head, so they’re shaped to get the same effect. Obviously, the shaped ears can go with the full-body version too.

Arms for full-body version only (make 2)
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, ch4 & make 1tr in 4th chain - or should that be 5ch & 1tr in 5th chain? I didn’t write it down at the time. We’re going to make an oblong 2tr wide, so do whatever’s standard for that.

Row 2: Turn, 3ch & 1tr into top of previous 3ch.

Row 3: As row 2, then secure & cut yarn, leaving enough of a tail to applique the arm on. It should taper where you finished (= wrist) & be wider where you started (= shoulder). Make the arms longer by adding rows if necessary. It doesn’t look like much & seems a bit loose & messy at this stage, but that’s fine.

Tail for full-body version only
Using gerbil back colour, loosely chain 10-12 stitches, secure & cut yarn. Or make to whatever length you want: one end will be hidden under the body for a stitch or two.

To assemble full-body version
Experimentation required to get the best look!

Lay head at top of body (flatter bit of body goes at the bottom) & overlapping body a bit with head over body. Stitch in place & if necessary make larger stitches using off-white to get a natural-looking fit between head & body (I did this on the original because I did the first version of the head, i.e. a full gerbil-coloured circle without a white throat).

Position ears with a bit under the head & stitch in place.

Embroider eyes in black as French knots. They will disappear a bit into the crochet, so don’t pull them too tight & do put a stitch or two underneath them, on the WS (wrong side), to give them a firmer foundation. Add to the French knots on RS if necessary.

Embroider nose & mouth in fine pale pink yarn. Getting the right expression can be a challenge: unpicking & patience may be required! Embroider whiskers using off-white yarn.

Attach arms, getting them the right way up (thinner at the wrist) & bending them slightly. Embroider little pink hands.

Applique your gerbil to your 6” knitted, stocking stitch square - or perhaps a crocheted square. Don’t forget the tail: put one end just under the body & stitch it down all along the tail in a single line, going up in one chain & down in the next. This thickens it a bit.

Head-only version
Make the throated alternative head & 2 flattened ears.

In a contrasting colour, do 2 standard circles of trebles. I wish I could remember what the heck I did, but I think it was one circle of (2tr, 1tr) & then one circle of 2tr all round. I know I had to experiment & frog a bit till I got it to lie flat. That may have been because I was using a different type of yarn.

Embroider face, etc as described above & as in photo. Attach ears with each flattened bit next to head.

For the bauble, I made an all-blue backing circle & sewed them together & had a loop of chain to hang it by, with the ends hidden inside. For a blanket square, the head & surrounding circles could be appliqued onto a 6” square. Or it should be possible to square off one or other of the surrounding contrasting circles using crochet & carry on crocheting till the square is 6” - but in that case it might be best to applique the ears last thing, once the squaring-off is complete.

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
SpiralArchitect · 05/03/2026 15:31

First square done - hoping that the darker pink falls within the guidelines...

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
PrizedPickledPopcorn · 05/03/2026 15:38

bookbook · 05/03/2026 13:51

@PrizedPickledPopcorn in the OP , it says
about 6 weeks to last posting , which would take it to the middle of April 🙂

Thank you! I missed that! That gives me time to do some before I go and experiment with notes while I’m away.

KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 16:30

ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/03/2026 15:21

Here are the instructions for crocheting a gerbil, based on the two versions I made last year. Unfortunately I didn’t write everything down at the time, so a couple of things are a bit iffy in the instructions. My gerbils were the result of a lot of experimentation: feel free to experiment, too. If I’ve got anything wrong, please forgive me & let us all know so nobody wastes their time & yarn. If you can think of improvements, please say so. If you have any questions, please ask.

Hoping to see lots of lovely gerbils for dear Waffle.

Maud the Crocheted Gerbil
Maud is basically made up of circles: a big circle for her body, a medium-sized circle for her head, & two small circles for her ears.

In addition, two rectangles make her arms & a line of chain stitches makes her tail.

Her eyes, whiskers, nose, mouth & hands are all embroidered.

She was made in two forms. The full-length Maud was appliqued onto a 6” knitted square, for Swash’s Woolly Hug in the summer of 2025. The head of Maud appeared as a crocheted Christmas bauble for the WH Christmas sale later that year & it measured about 4” in diameter.

You will need:
Small amounts of

  1. One of the recommended off-white yarns. I used Drops Merino Extra Fine - Off White (01)
  2. A gerbil-coloured yarn. I used Yarnsmiths Merino DK Superwash - Stone Grey (3015)
Tiny amounts of pale pink yarn & black yarn, for embroidering details. Don’t tell K&P but I used whatever I had in my stash - in fact, the pink was a chunky yarn which I de-spiralled into thinner threads. 4mm crochet hook 4mm knitting needles if knitting the background square. Darning needle Scissors

Method (NB using UK terms)

Body for full-body version
This is a 4-row circle, slightly flattened at the base
Row 1 inner tummy circle: Using off-white, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (12 sts)

Row 2 outer tummy circle: Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then 2tr into each following treble. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (24 sts)

Row 3 main body circle: Change yarn to gerbil back colour. Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then (1tr into next st, 2tr into next st) until there are 4 sts of previous row left - DO NOT WORK THESE ON THIS ROW. This gives the flat base. (30 sts)

Row 4 tidying-up body circle: Do 1dc into top of each of the 4 off-white tr from row 2 that you didn’t use in row 3, then carry on round & do 1dc into each tr from row 3 (now the previous round, which are all gerbil-coloured). Join with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (34 sts)

Head for either version
This is a standard 2-row circle
Row 1: Using off-white, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. (12 sts)

Row 2: Change yarn to gerbil back colour. Do (3ch, 1tr) into top of first treble of previous round, then 2tr into each following treble. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (24 sts)

Alternative row 2 for head
This uses both off-white and body colour, to give a white throat as in the Maud bauble. Stitches are as row 2 above, but work the first 2 lots of 2tr (actually (3ch, 1tr) & then 2tr) in white, & then change colour & work the other 10 lots of 2tr in gerbil body colour.

Ears for full-body version (make 2)
These are standard one-row circles
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 11tr into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (12 sts)

Ears for head-only version (make 2)
These are standard one-row circles, slightly flattened at the base
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, make a magic ring (MR), do 3ch & then do 8tr & then 3dc into the MR. Join into 3rd chain with a sl st. Secure & cut yarn. (12 sts) I might have done 3ch, 9tr & 2dc.

The reason for the different ears is that full-body Maud’s ears were full circles partly hidden by being tucked under her head. That wasn’t possible with head-only Maud, as there’s a crocheted ring around the head, so they’re shaped to get the same effect. Obviously, the shaped ears can go with the full-body version too.

Arms for full-body version only (make 2)
Row 1: Using gerbil back colour, ch4 & make 1tr in 4th chain - or should that be 5ch & 1tr in 5th chain? I didn’t write it down at the time. We’re going to make an oblong 2tr wide, so do whatever’s standard for that.

Row 2: Turn, 3ch & 1tr into top of previous 3ch.

Row 3: As row 2, then secure & cut yarn, leaving enough of a tail to applique the arm on. It should taper where you finished (= wrist) & be wider where you started (= shoulder). Make the arms longer by adding rows if necessary. It doesn’t look like much & seems a bit loose & messy at this stage, but that’s fine.

Tail for full-body version only
Using gerbil back colour, loosely chain 10-12 stitches, secure & cut yarn. Or make to whatever length you want: one end will be hidden under the body for a stitch or two.

To assemble full-body version
Experimentation required to get the best look!

Lay head at top of body (flatter bit of body goes at the bottom) & overlapping body a bit with head over body. Stitch in place & if necessary make larger stitches using off-white to get a natural-looking fit between head & body (I did this on the original because I did the first version of the head, i.e. a full gerbil-coloured circle without a white throat).

Position ears with a bit under the head & stitch in place.

Embroider eyes in black as French knots. They will disappear a bit into the crochet, so don’t pull them too tight & do put a stitch or two underneath them, on the WS (wrong side), to give them a firmer foundation. Add to the French knots on RS if necessary.

Embroider nose & mouth in fine pale pink yarn. Getting the right expression can be a challenge: unpicking & patience may be required! Embroider whiskers using off-white yarn.

Attach arms, getting them the right way up (thinner at the wrist) & bending them slightly. Embroider little pink hands.

Applique your gerbil to your 6” knitted, stocking stitch square - or perhaps a crocheted square. Don’t forget the tail: put one end just under the body & stitch it down all along the tail in a single line, going up in one chain & down in the next. This thickens it a bit.

Head-only version
Make the throated alternative head & 2 flattened ears.

In a contrasting colour, do 2 standard circles of trebles. I wish I could remember what the heck I did, but I think it was one circle of (2tr, 1tr) & then one circle of 2tr all round. I know I had to experiment & frog a bit till I got it to lie flat. That may have been because I was using a different type of yarn.

Embroider face, etc as described above & as in photo. Attach ears with each flattened bit next to head.

For the bauble, I made an all-blue backing circle & sewed them together & had a loop of chain to hang it by, with the ends hidden inside. For a blanket square, the head & surrounding circles could be appliqued onto a 6” square. Or it should be possible to square off one or other of the surrounding contrasting circles using crochet & carry on crocheting till the square is 6” - but in that case it might be best to applique the ears last thing, once the squaring-off is complete.

Awww. Thank you ❤️

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 16:31

That’s perfect, Spiral. Thank you ❤️

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SeptemberIRemember · 05/03/2026 16:55

KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 15:16

September, it’s a beautifully textured square. Would embroidered / French knots work?

It’s from a blanket design I’m knitting or would be if I didn’t keep getting distracted by other knitting.

There’s no need to have anything different there, it could just be two stocking stitches, or I could oversew the pair of stitches with the same yarn to give a smocking effect. I was just trying to find an interesting design without many holes.

Castlerigg · 05/03/2026 17:16

This is what I have in stash… I’m not sure if any of these colours are right for this blanket, are they?

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
bookbook · 05/03/2026 17:23

@Castlerigg - I suspect not , but more due to it being Debbie Bliss Cashmerino , which doesn't appear on the yarn list ( gorgeous yarn mind you ! ) The Yarn we will be Using for Consistency ….
Yarnsmiths Merino DK Superwash - a BIG sale at Wool Warehouse. Has the widest range of colours
Debbie Bliss Rialto DK only available on Love Crafts
Drops Merino Extra Fine DK.
Katia Merino 100% DK
King Cole Luxury Merino DK

Boiledbeetle · 05/03/2026 17:42

Maud's cooking tea for @KnottyAndPistey

They look suspiciously like takeaway containers!

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
PurpleFrog · 05/03/2026 17:44

Debbie Bliss Cashmerino DK is fine …

If you still have any of our wools that have been discontinued or have become less easy to find- Artesano Superwash Merino DK, Debbie Bliss Cashmerino DK, Jenny Watson Pure Merino DK, Patons Merino Extrafine DK or James C. Brett Pure Merino DK in your stash, please do use them.

Freya1542 · 05/03/2026 18:02

Boiledbeetle · 05/03/2026 17:42

Maud's cooking tea for @KnottyAndPistey

They look suspiciously like takeaway containers!

that looks suspiciously like a gerbil sized portion @Boiledbeetle perhaps @KnottyAndPistey isn't quite as hungry as I am.

Does smell delicious though

Castlerigg · 05/03/2026 18:06

PurpleFrog · 05/03/2026 17:44

Debbie Bliss Cashmerino DK is fine …

If you still have any of our wools that have been discontinued or have become less easy to find- Artesano Superwash Merino DK, Debbie Bliss Cashmerino DK, Jenny Watson Pure Merino DK, Patons Merino Extrafine DK or James C. Brett Pure Merino DK in your stash, please do use them.

Thank you, I thought that was the case. I’ll have a look locally and see if I can get anything suitable.

KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:08

Castlerigg · 05/03/2026 17:16

This is what I have in stash… I’m not sure if any of these colours are right for this blanket, are they?

The green is good. The pewter can be an accent colour. Let me just check the cream x

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:11

Cashmerino & Rowan Cashsoft were the first ever yarns we used for these blankets- we know they sit nicely with the others still x

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:12

Liking the sound of that, @Boiledbeetle ! Yes please , Maud x

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:15

@Castlerigg , the cream is fine as an embellishment / accent. Thank you x

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Boiledbeetle · 05/03/2026 18:16

Freya1542 · 05/03/2026 18:02

that looks suspiciously like a gerbil sized portion @Boiledbeetle perhaps @KnottyAndPistey isn't quite as hungry as I am.

Does smell delicious though

Maud wanted to ensure there was still room for afters!

Woolly Hugs. A blanket for lovely wafflenose who has tragically lost her daughter. Can you help us please?
KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:17

Sorry @Castlerigg , I mean the lighter / mid green one. Not the darker shade.

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KnottyAndPistey · 05/03/2026 18:18

@Boiledbeetle , we’ll have to hide that one, tis Mr Pistey’s favourite 😀

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bookbook · 05/03/2026 18:19

Gosh , Thank you for letting me know about the Cashmerino!! Sorry to have not realised

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