Does anyone else find tv sex and/or porn repulsive?

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Is it just me which fast forwards or mutes and looks away for tv sex scenes?

This being so, obviously porn is not my thing either.

I long for the days when sex, if an essential part of the plot, was just implied without all the heaving and pumping.

I don’t find it in the least sexy, more cringe worthy.

The fact that they are work colleagues being forced to pretend to have sex just weirds me out. Plus, the filmmakers seem to think it’s for my benefit? Because apparently everyone wants sex scenes? It ruins films tbh.

I was thinking the same thing recently - I’ve seen it a few times in the last few years, usually women peeing - and wonder if it’s just filmmakers trying to push the boundaries and be edgy.

In reality it’s weird and unnecessary, and adds nothing to the story or the character.

I do feel sorry for younger, or unestablished actresses - there must be so much pressure to have to do a nude scene or go topless or desgrade yourself in some way for youe ‘craft’, it’s almost expected now.

I feel exactly the same, more so since I hit menopause (I went into early menopause aged 37, I’m now 45). Absolutely can’t stand it and it completely puts me off watching things.

I don't watch porn but I do love a good steamy sex scene.

It’s just contrived and boring. 🤷‍♀️

And a bit of Escape to the Country ❤️😊😁

I love the sex in Bridgerton which centres female pleasure. Bridgerton has an intimacy coordinator working with the actors on all scenes that involve intimacy, to ensure the actors are onboard and comfortable and that the scenes are blocked in the same way as all other scenes.

Oh yes, absolutely, since about the age of 42.
Porn, definitely.
TV sex - all that smacking they are told to do, panting, quick "sex" against a wall or whatever - don't know if I feel more repulsed or enraged.
Walk out of the room or fast forward.

What the hell!! What film was she in?

In all fairness a pp pointed out that was a childbirth rather than a sex scene. I still find it all a bit unnecessary. You have to feel a bit v sorry for the make up artist as well!

I’m not a fan either. I find sex scenes in films and tv incredibly awkward to sit through, I know that’s a me issue but I can’t help it. It’s especially awkward if watching with family. It does ruin my enjoyment and puts me off watching something again.

They never really add anything of value to a plot, implying that sex happened without having to show everything in all its glory is more than adequate 99% of the time in my opinion. The noises, the movements, how it’s usually the woman bearing all whilst the man gets to keep at least some modesty, all of it is maximum cringe for me.

Porn is awful no matter which way you look at it, a horrible, degrading and exploitative industry rife with human trafficking that normalises extreme and dangerous sex acts and fetishes. If the whole industry disappeared tomorrow I’d be thrilled.

Can’t stand them. If I’m alone I mainly ignore them. DH fast forwards. But my main issue is that it stops us watching so many things that would be great to watch as a family. No way do our teen DC want to sit on the couch next to us watching that. Even kissing scenes are difficult.

I was thinking the other day that I’d love it if we could get the “tv version” of films or shows. Like when they used to cut the worse bits out of movies so they would be allowed to show them on tv (not sure if that existed in the uk, I grew up abroad). Sometimes it jarred a bit, but on the whole you rarely noticed - which shows how unnecessary they were.

Never thought I’d see the day when I looked back fondly on censorship 🙁

I don't like it either, I fast forward all the time as I can't be bothered with the slurping noises and seeing the tongues and open mouths clashing together. Yuk! 😱

I absolutely hate it.

I've always viewed the need for graphic sex on tv/ film to show lack of talent in actors/ director/ producer. It's far more erotic in the implied.
I find it cringy and repulsive in equal measure.

The problem with sex on TV is that it's rarely sexy. It's voyeuristic yes, but not sexy. The problem, as always is the focus of the male gaze instead of sensuality.

Porn is just horrible - it's naked, sex-based violence.

I find tv sex boring and cringe and wish they didn’t show it.

I loathe porn.

Add me to the long list of commenters who thinks porn is a horrendous, misogynistic, disgusting industry.

Also, TV/film sex that's more than a tasteful suggestion is unnecessary and just makes me cringe. It's usually just unrealistic, voyeuristic, painfully drawn out, and makes otherwise potentially good programmes impossible to watch with my teenagers (who don't want to sit down with mum and dad to watch two people heaving and moaning while mostly naked, for two minutes by the clock).

It’s when they’re always having sex up against a wall that it starts to get annoying. And always just after they’ve closed their door.

Don't ever watch Outlander - that has both DH and I cringing with all the jiggy jiggy.

Be careful what you wish for! I've been re-watching The White Lotus and there's some totally gratuitous displaying of willies. Jason Isaacs said (I think it was on Graham Norton) that he'd worn a prosthetic one. It was ginormous!

I fast forward past most TV/film sex scenes too. They're mostly boring and add nothing to the storyline. It's titillation for some viewers I suppose and sex always sells.

Agree OP. What was once edgy is now just lazy and boring.

I hate it. It’s so unnecessary

Having read all of these responses I wonder why tv writers keep putting all the sex in?

What makes them think women viewers want to see it?

Are there focus groups carried out or is it just men assuming that because they want to look at sex we want it?

(Although I appreciate a few people here have said their husbands hate it too)

There does seem to be some degree of shaming if you say you don't like anything sexual these days so it is nice to have a bit of solidarity on this thread.