Are you jealous of people who go on lots of holidays?

[Jobs4kids]

I know a number of people who go on multiple holidays a year, often to exotic, "bucket list" places. Mostly I find out via their Facebook posts. I don't do too badly myself (generally 1 main holiday abroad plus at least 3 short breaks per year) but I often feel quite envious and wonder if I should be doing more before I get too old (am in my 50s). However, although I mostly enjoy my holidays, I'm always glad to get home to my own space and think I would actually find it quite stressful to go away so often. I'm aware I'm lucky and know there are people who never get away, either due to financial, health or other constraints or simply because they don't want to. I'm also aware you can have an enjoyable life without going away from home - seeing friends, hobbies, days out or even at home baking, watching netflix etc.

I realise that pre-social media I probably wouldn't even be aware of most people's holidays unless I saw them and they told me about them, so that's obviously a factor too.

Anyone else feel like this?

I am totally jealous! We can barely afford 1 holiday as have 3 teenagers.

I am planning to spend my 50s once the kids are adults and independent (even if living at home) going on lots of trips!!!

Nope, you’re wrong. I get the same level of pleasure every single time I go somewhere new. I also have an incredible home. It’s great that I get both!

Only if you’re the type that goes to the same place over and over.

Visiting a new country and experiencing different cultures / architecture / food is not something you get bored of.

Not at all.

Though I don't like people who fly for something that could take place locally (such as a hen or stag do) or make no effort to consider local people when they are there (a few words of the local language for example).

Sometimes. A friend and her DH are in India currently, and another has just come back from China. Another is skiing. I do travel - I’m going to the US at Easter, though that’s to visit family and nothing new. But I am also a widow- it’s different if you have a ready travel companion in a partner. I have travelled with friends but it always involves compromise, (a friend recently asked me to go to Portugal with her but unfortunately at the same time I’ll be in the US). I have also travelled alone, but as I live alone it’s nice to have someone to share with. So I think I’m more envious that my friends someone to go with!

Yes definitely, I have a phobia of flying so we don't go anywhere abroad and I hate it. I feel we all miss out and feel guilty for DC. We couldn't afford it anyway really though.

Yes I am a bit. I would love to be able to go on loads of holidays and adventures.

Hopefully one day I'll find a way

You need to get on Trusted Housesitters!

Yes. So we've started traveling more.

I love my life, home etc too. But I like to go away to see new parts of the world that variously inspire me, make me feel wonder, peace, joy, awe; to learn new things about history and society; to see exhibitions and museums and beautiful gardens and natural wonders; to see how people look, behave, eat, live, in other parts of the world.
I also have friends overseas so sometimes go to see them.

You are very off the mark and your comments are offensive.

I love my home life too, I love my house, friends, family, hobbies, days out etc etc. I don’t need to experience it for 52 weeks a year. I can also love seeing some more of the world, doing different days out, trying new things, talking to new people, travelling on different modes of transport, smelling new smells, and eating new food etc. My amazing home life will be waiting for me when I return.
I don’t ‘need’ any of my fabulous trips, I want them to make even more of my one life.

There are also some people who aren’t ever satisfied, or are unhappy in the UK and use holidays for escapism. Both types exist, so why get offended at that comment if it doesn’t apply to you and you know you love travelling and have a great time? That comment will apply to some.

Yes. I'd love to travel more, but I can't afford it. I don't see jealousy as a bad thing, it's a message to yourself about what you would like more of in your life. Clarifying.

It is great to escape our weather we in Dublin. I dont mention it in work though as one girl never gets away as cant afford it. It is nice to see new places and some heat

No, I don’t get jealous at all. I hope they’re e joying themselves. I’m enjoying myself at home! Plus, I get to be with my cats and sleep in my bed!

I know a family who were in Lapland, Finland at Christmas, Iceland for NYE, Barcelona a few weekends ago and are now in Disneyland Paris. Damn right I'm jealous.

Yes. But not so much because I'd like loads of holidays. I'd just like the odd one. I envy anyone who has enough money to take time off work/not work for any reason.

Pretty much this.
There's loads of places I'd love to go and I appreciate the trips I can afford to do, but yeah I get jealous of the people going to the places I can't afford or just doing many more each year than I can.
Obviously I'm hoping they're enjoying their holiday and I have recently started doing a bit more travel because I felt I wasn't really seeing the benefit of working hard, so in many ways it's inspired me to do more.
I think most people are at a different stage in life though so it also gives me hope for the future when my kids have left home, etc.

Yes, totally! I love travel and would be away every month if I could.

My kids are moved out/at uni now so it’s just DH and I going away so we can afford to do it a bit more often.

I’ve a list as long as my arm of places I want to go, just not enough time (or money) to do them all.

UK, short haul, long haul, camping, lush hotels, I’m not fussy.

I turned 50 this year and feel a bit like I’m wasting my life, my youngest has moved out (albeit to uni so back and forth still) so feel a bit lost and I have terrible wanderlust.

No but I hate holidays, don’t get me started.

Oh yes I feel this in my soul. The ease in which some will say oh we had a weekend away and the grandparents looked after them. Or I had to pop to the doctors for a smear test and a grandparent had them so I didn't have to entertain them whilst getting My cervix scrapped/worrying I've traumatised them. It always sounds like winning the lottery to me.

Very little envy here - I'm a reluctant traveller at the best of times, and both my husband and I have health problems which make long-haul holidays very difficult.
One of my close family members regularly holidays in some fairly exotic places, and I swear she comes home more stressed than when she left! It's become something of a family joke, to be honest, and I do wonder what she actually gets out of these "experiences". Bragging rights, probably.

No. I hate going on holiday.

oh im so sorry

A big fat hairy NO! I absolutely love my home, the place I have made my pride and joy and spent every penny on. No hotel or apartment could equate. That's mainly because my two dogs live here too-and I can't be away from them for more than a day before I miss them. My divine peace and happiness is from having a cosy home that nobody can take away from me - and plodding about in nature with two adorable creatures, whom I'd rather spend time with than humans on holiday (my kids and partner excepted). Each to their own, I guess!