Are you jealous of people who go on lots of holidays?

[Jobs4kids]

I know a number of people who go on multiple holidays a year, often to exotic, "bucket list" places. Mostly I find out via their Facebook posts. I don't do too badly myself (generally 1 main holiday abroad plus at least 3 short breaks per year) but I often feel quite envious and wonder if I should be doing more before I get too old (am in my 50s). However, although I mostly enjoy my holidays, I'm always glad to get home to my own space and think I would actually find it quite stressful to go away so often. I'm aware I'm lucky and know there are people who never get away, either due to financial, health or other constraints or simply because they don't want to. I'm also aware you can have an enjoyable life without going away from home - seeing friends, hobbies, days out or even at home baking, watching netflix etc.

I realise that pre-social media I probably wouldn't even be aware of most people's holidays unless I saw them and they told me about them, so that's obviously a factor too.

Anyone else feel like this?

Thanks for your comments. I do prefer the shorter trips such as European city breaks and don't really like the heat. I do have a bucket list of places I'd like to see and, while I feel I should be doing more now to get them ticked off and could probably afford to do 1 or 2 extra short breaks, I don't have unlimited leave or the energy and like to keep some leave back to do home stuff. We keep saying we'll do more when we retire (hopefully only a few more years), assuming we are still healthy enough to do so. Just opened up Facebook and had another pang of envy as I see a colleague who is doing a much better job of ticking off the bucket list is at the airport about to go on yet another city break, maybe I should stay away from Facebook 🙂

I didn’t go abroad till i was a teen! I made up with jt in my twenties. I mean some people have amazing holidays but those tend to be people that earn a lot more than me! I’m not jealous though we do what we can.

So we do one holiday a year like a city break or lake/ mountain euro trip and a few little trips eg a week in the lakes ( my happy place) and a couple of u.k. trips that are 2/3 days. Maybe a spa. We also do a day trip each month on the train. The U.K. has lovely places to visit.

My plan once the mortgage is done (maybe 7 years) and as we get into our mid fifties is to do a little more while we are fit and able. I’d love to do more long haul but it’s so expensive.

I I'm a bit envious of people who get cheaper deals because they can go in term time. As a teacher I have always had to do school holiday prices even before kids. It has become so expensive now.

We love our holidays and go on several long haul trips a year as well as a few European ones. We both have bucket lists of where we want to visit and love travelling. A lot of our friends and relatives did long haul exotic holidays when the children were small, our children hated going far and it wasn’t a holiday with whining, not sleeping and fighting between them. The worst one was the Maldives, a dream holiday with nightmare kids. We’re making up for it now now they’re in Uni and don’t want to come 🤣

No, I’m not an adventurous traveller. A week in Spain or Greece in the summer and a couple of city breaks - one in Europe, one in London to see a show or similar, and a weekend in somewhere like York or Edinburgh is plenty. That said, I have elderly relatives living in a different country so I need to spend a lot of my annual leave visiting them - I’m probably on a plane once a month. Weekends at home are precious 😁

My friend is away abroad practically every second weekend. Not jealous in the slightest. I would be utterly exhausted and could not be arsed with the constant packing and unpacking. I need time at home to recharge.

Not jealous at all. I prefer being at home. Love my home comforts.

I’m envious of you op! And even more envious of your friends!

A week by the med once a year and a city break would make me v happy.

Not in the slightest.

I’m in my mid 30s so many of my friends are going on adventure holidays, sight seeing, educational trips with their kids etc.

My life isn’t built like that. We’ve got a disabled child who won’t fly, and would tear a museum apart. He sleeps terribly and when he’s away from home has the mother of all meltdowns most days. We have to stay in the UK because he specifically eats Tesco lasagne, and even if he could - I’m not flying that to Spain.

We take him for a family holiday park holiday every year. Playgrounds and swimming pools just with different scenery, and come back more shattered than when we went.

When we can, which is really only every few years because respite/getting him looked after is a nightmare, we do a parents only rest break which basically just involves a warm AI lie down. This year, Tunisia!

My “bucket list” has changed to just sun, peace and quiet 😂

Yes that’s a good idea, you could remove the Facebook app when in school holidays if this helps your FOMO.

I would definitely stop following people.

I do get moaned at that I don't keep up on FB but I do get bad FOMO, which coupled with adhd isn't good, so I do see people's holidays but only when they Whatsapp me (usually pics of the Italian Lakes).

Comparison is the thief of joy!

A little bit, but I’m pouring my spare cash into my house. I WFH a lot so I really get the benefit of a lovely home. In a year or two it’ll all be done and then I’ll focus on holidays, DD will be a bit older then so we’ll have more options on where to go.

I'm happy for them!

I love seeing the photos, and I get vicarious enjoyment hearing about them. I'd love to be able to travel more, but in the meantime I like seeing photos and hearing all about my friends' trips.

No. I hate holidays and think most people's photos are boring.

We go on quite a lot of holidays as we love them, and our jobs give us lots of leave, we have a friend who is clearly jealous of this and always feels the need to comment on it. The reality is, we are very lucky to both have friends in various places in Europe, and family in some nice parts of the UK, and have our own campervan, meaning for a lot of our trips we only have to pay for our travel costs.

This friend always makes comments about it both in person and via texts/ WhatsApp if we mention it "another holiday?" "You won't be able to do this when you have kids" Etc. Said friend though has chosen to live in a very expensive area, has huge outgoings, had two kids quite young and could have travelled more when they had the chance to, but never seemed interested at the time and went on the same holidays every year (which they still do now). We don't have huge outgoings and are child free. They go on the same holidays every year. It is quite annoying but we just ignore it now and don't feel the need to justify our choices to them.

I’m 64 and the only people I know who do it a lot have inherited substantial amounts or took early retirement and are using lump sums - to be honest whilst I love a good holiday I also like a decent life the rest of the time - as an example I ve got a friend who goes away ‘a lot’ but lives somewhere that’s cheap and run down that I would hate and would make me ‘want to go away all the time’ and she’s bored rigid - so I guess it depends with ‘some’ on priorities - depends to me on what the rest of your life is like

No. As you say, holidays are fun, but also stressful, with lots to plan and organise. Two is the max I would want. Don’t like flying anywhere for ‘short breaks’ as it feels like way too much effort and travelling time for just a couple of days. If I’m going to get a flight, it needs to be at least a week holiday.

I wouldn’t say I’m jealous, I’d like to go on more holidays but we can’t afford it so there’s no point getting worked up over it. It must be lovely for them to be able to do the trips if they have the funds.

We are lucky that we get 2 UK breaks a year, camping mainly, we have young children and go with family and other kids so they all have a ball.

Horses for courses really, jealousy doesn’t bring anything positive to my life so I try not to engage with that pattern of thinking.

No I don't get jealous. As I get older I find travelling exhausting, uncomfortable and stressful. I also struggle with hot climates. My husband is obsessed with planning holidays however, and we're just back from a month in South America. The flights were awful with 3+ hour delays sat on the tarmac and car trouble at Heathrow. He's already picked up more holiday brochures "just for ideas". We need a new car not another bloody holiday!

Part of our trip was a cruise and we met so many Americans and Canadians (all retired) who travel for most of the year. I did wonder that they must have nothing to go back to. 4 weeks was too long for me. I missed our DC and grandchildren, I missed my work/volunteering and I missed my home. We've done a few long-haul 3 week trips and that's plenty long enough. Husband will also never return to the same place twice, which is frustrating as there are places I'd love to return to.

Yes I am envious and would love to afford many trips a year!

Where did you go in South America? I'm planning for 4 weeks next year but know I'm going to have to focus on a couple of main areas and not 'everywhere' lol.

Not at all because that sort of lifestyle just isn't for me.

I like to go on several minibreaks throughout the year so that I always have something to look forward to, but I find holidays abroad, flying, airports,being in a different country etc etc largely very stressful. Each to their own but I can't become envious of something I do not want

No as they’re clearly very unhappy being at home. And/or they must have some kind of addiction to the dopamine they get from the excitement of going on holiday. But like anything else special, if you do it all the time you end up not getting the same level of pleasure from it.

What rubbish

I tend not to hold much stock in people's Facebook posts after seeing my cousin having a blazing row with her very drunk husband in a pub with children crying then posting a gushing post about how blessed she was. Some people have more and some people have less. The main question is are you happy, and if not what can you do about it.