Are you jealous of people who go on lots of holidays?

[Jobs4kids]

I know a number of people who go on multiple holidays a year, often to exotic, "bucket list" places. Mostly I find out via their Facebook posts. I don't do too badly myself (generally 1 main holiday abroad plus at least 3 short breaks per year) but I often feel quite envious and wonder if I should be doing more before I get too old (am in my 50s). However, although I mostly enjoy my holidays, I'm always glad to get home to my own space and think I would actually find it quite stressful to go away so often. I'm aware I'm lucky and know there are people who never get away, either due to financial, health or other constraints or simply because they don't want to. I'm also aware you can have an enjoyable life without going away from home - seeing friends, hobbies, days out or even at home baking, watching netflix etc.

I realise that pre-social media I probably wouldn't even be aware of most people's holidays unless I saw them and they told me about them, so that's obviously a factor too.

Anyone else feel like this?

Same for me. I have constant wanderlust, and I like being inspired by other people's holiday choices.

No not really because I've paid off my mortgage and will be able to retire early. Would rather that than go on loads of holidays all the time. We go every other year and maybe in the UK this year, not abroad.

Not in the slightest.
My friend and her husband and kids go on holiday abroad, every single school break. I would hate it.
It's like they dislike their home life so need to get away at every opportunity

No, give me a bit of time and space at home and I’d prefer that to going away all the time. Just me but I’d feel like I was always chasing that holiday high when some time off at home and one holiday or a few day trips can do you as good (and also leave you with money to live!!!)

No not in the slightest. I go on a nice luxury holiday once a year but that is just to keep DH happy. I am ready for home after a few days, my stomach always hates the change in diet, the sun makes me come out in a rash and I miss my cats! I prefer spending money on my home but completely understand people who love traveling- it’s just not me.

Yes, very envious as I bloody love travel and holidays. But I wouldnt want to do it at the expense of being in massive debt for it. I also don't have the annual leave allowance for it.

We do one foreign (Europe) holiday each year, one UK holiday and maybe a weekend break. That's within my budget and I feel fortunate to be able to do that.

No.

DH and I can afford to go on loads of holidays, we just CBA ... LOL!

Been to around 25 countries in our lifetime. Last time abroad in 2019. Seems more trouble than it's worth these days tbh. We are going to Blackpool for 3 days in May though. I know, you all wish you were me. 😆

That’s such an odd inference to make. Why would you assume there has to be something negative behind it? Surely you understand people are just different, problems at home don’t go away on holiday.

My assumption would just be wanderlust, some people love seeking out new experiences and adventures, they also take joy in introducing their children to the world.

This.

I’m one of those people, although I don’t post it on social media. Friends find out when, if I can’t make a gathering, I tell them it’s because I’m away, or they find out through DP’s Instagram stories. I’ve never come across envy or negative reactions.

I've never been envious of other people's 'holidays' as I'm more suited to a staycation anyway but I do think the financial security to be able to have multiple breaks from the work routine is enviable and probably why so many people who can't afford to are deeply stressed and get burnt out (looking at my self employed DH 🙄).

No, but most people I know are other families with primary aged dcs like us. To me it sounds too tiring to go away at every school holiday, and I'd be sad to miss out on the other activities we do by staying in the UK (drama camps, dance courses, theme park trips, theatre shows). We go away about 5 times a year (some of those are in the UK) and at times I feel regret that we'll miss out on some fun events while we're away! I think if we went abroad as often as some other families we would never really enjoy London life, as term-time is too busy with extracurriculars.

We go away a far amount including a few times of 4 to 6 weeks. Last few years is averaging 3 foreign holidays a year, one of which is long haul. It's what we spend our disposable money on. I'm generally pretty tight with the exception of travel.
I still get envious of others travels though as there's just not enough time!

I have 2 or 3 holidays a year, but usually just to Europe. Every few years maybe a long haul. So I feel I'm one of the lucky ones. I love holidays, and put off things like work on the house to nerve more to spend on holidays. I'd prefer a slightly tatty house to no holiday. Not everyone would make that choice. I don't do make up, clothes, nails, botox etc so save that way too.

This is ne. Many friends are now holidaying monthly. I am taking a hard course! My choice and love it, but yes need a good holiday. I am single and it is trickier.

Yes, very. It’s just me and my 14 year old son and from 2024 we started holidaying on our own, instead of with friends. Sadly I can’t see us doing this again for a few years following a devastating diagnosis of epilepsy at end of 2024, which we are still trying to get some control over. I felt awful telling him Rome was cancelled and we won’t be going abroad for a while …. But it’s just too stressful and the thought of being overseas and it happening is just too much for my nervous system to handle.. 💔💔💔

I’m not jealous of it, but it’s something I would like for myself. It’s something I aim for.

That would wind me up as well. I’ve been single pretty much forever, singles holidays don’t appeal but I go on organised group holidays, with friends, or alone etc.

For the OPs question, no I don’t get jealous, I’ve travelled a lot, happy not do be doing long haul flights etc. I have a short break if I get a twinge of envy.

Are you jealous of people who go on lots of holidays?

Absolutely not.
Good luck to them if that is what they want to do but it is certainly not something I (or my OH) have the slightest interest in doing.
To see where they have been (and be jealous) we would need to view their SM posts and neither of us do that.
Retired and financially secure, we could do an around the world cruise if we wanted but we neither have the slightest interest in travelling abroad and instead stick to the UK ( I know many MN'ers do not count a UK break as a holiday).
We are away almost every week in our Moho for just a couple of nights and it suits us (and Ddogs) perfectly. After a lifetime of travelling around the UK there are still lots of places to discover and old favourites we go back to time & time again.

I’m not jealous of other people as such, but I am early fifties now and feeling like I'm at the point where I should get on and see places while I can.
Trouble is, I'm often so tired out by work that when I do come to think of/sort out a holiday, I want the same sort of easy and relaxed one on the Adriatic that I've done a few times already. I always love those holidays, but would like to also do slightly more adventurous ones; I want to go to Poland (cities and also the Białowieża forest), Georgia (the country not the US state), Uzbekistan, Vienna, Istanbul, Finland, Asturias…

Good god no 🤣

No

I never get jealous of how beautiful someone is, how curvy they are, their relationships, their career etc but I do get jealous of people who get to travel.

I’m never angry about it but I just think they’re so lucky to be able to do that.

If I ever win the lottery then I’d buy a small flat and then spend money just travelling.

We are the same! Life is about living and to me, a huge part of that is experiencing what the world has to offer.

A bit as I would like to have the money and freedom . But have gotten fussy and definitely can't afford the type of holiday I'd enjoy . But I have been a SAHM so don't need a break from work and live in a place other people love to visit . Did lots when I was younger and kids .