Fil reaction to dh telling him we are having a baby

[Stuckinthemiddlewithyouuhoh]

Ohhh thought you’d have some decent holidays first

we were married and had a house and been together over 6 years And well traveled
by that point so hardly suprising

just thinking What an odd reaction

He’s actually dh stepdad

Hahahahaha what a strange response. I’d understand if you were 21 and never left your home town!

My in laws thought we were getting another dog and were over the moon.
nearly as pleased when we said we were having our first baby, and sticking with just the one dog.
they love our children to bits

Yep was almost 30 at the time ….
and been lucky to have been to so many places in the world

wouldn’t your first thought to be to say congratulations

He’s just the practical pragmatic type.

Is he the sort to think "decent holiday" = "sunbathing somewhere 30 degrees +" for two weeks?

Because FIL is always quite snotty about our holidays. We have travelled to almost every continent and go on all sorts of holidays. But he will check the forecast where we're going and sneer if there's a single cloudy day.

My ex ils were weird.
Ex h "Christmas is expecting our first baby"
Ils "That good, oh did you get the car booked in for a service today ex h?"
The baby subject was the elephant in the room for the remainder of the pregnancy. Weird family all round tbh in so many things. For instance they were all beyond thrilled when they got a a very ropy pirated video of Lion King when it was first out.
That's it, I'm now outed.😆

Perhaps he thought the baby was going to magically appear in the next five minutes and he thought after the summer holidays would be better......😀

I think sometimes they come over all awkward like you just announced we had sex and they don’t like to think about that,😂

He wasn’t thinking, just chewing the fat.

Out of interest, how long ago was this?

It sounds like this happened some time ago?

My MIL couldn't surpress her shock/horror when dh told her we were having our second baby. I was 40 . And she'd had her two at 18 and 20 years old.

My SIL announced she was pregnant, after 4 years married so hardly a huge surprise. My MIL was so shocked she sat there and loudly asked "oh my goodness, how on earth did that happen".

FIL suggested she have a think about that and reminded her she was a Midwife and should be able to figure it out 😂.

She did eventually offer to deliver the baby but obvs SIL was not getting her muff out for her MIL 😳.

People can just say the strangest of things when you're giving them the biggest family news ever.

I’m going to guess at least a decade ago!

My mum just said "Oh".
My extremely reserved and shy dad leapt into the brief silence that followed, with loving delight at the news.

39 years on and I can still here that impassive "oh".

Hardly "offensive", is it?
That's what most practical, rational people would say/do.

@OSTMusTisNT you win best comment on MN today!! 👏

“…..but obvs SIL was not getting her muff out for her MIL 😳.”

😂😂😂

People sometimes speak before they’ve thought about it. I wouldn’t read too much into it…!

I have been asked with both of mine if it was planned by relatives and colleagues… why would they want to know that, I’m an (almost) middle aged married
women, it’s not so surprising to imagine I’d have a baby…!

When we told my mother I was expecting. She asked how many weeks and then responded, ‘Well it is early days’. Not married you see, what would she tell the neighbours and if I lost the baby she wouldn’t have the shame of telling them.

My in-laws said nothing for what felt like five years and then my FIL said we needed to “discipline it properly” and MIL said she wouldn’t be providing any childcare and then cried a bit and tried to take the baby shoes we’d just bought, which DH had taken out to show her, home with her 🥴

I said to my mother long distance on the phone Guess what I am giving you at Xmas . Then A grandchild . She replied that she thought I was giving her plane tickets . So just said a few more words and then she hung up . About twenty minutes later she phoned back . Needed to be told again and yes I was pregnant and baby due around Xmas . We still laugh about it as she was absolutely thrilled.

When we told my mum she said "Is this one going to stay in there this time". We had 5 losses before, I waitd until 20 weeks to tell her to avoid that exact comment...

My auntie said 'oh, that's a shame, you're going to miss out on so much fun in life' 🤣. I was 25 and had been travelling alone/working abroad from 18 years old.. Some family members are just odd.

My MIL when we told her we were pregnant with our first when I was 6 weeks pregnant was “and when were you to going to bother to tell us” 🤔 and proceeded to be in a grump about it and hasn’t shown much interest since (baby is 10 years old now!)

Ha my FIL, before we got married, actually kept asking why I wasn’t pregnant yet - we married after knowing each other a year and I got pregnant right away so not like we delayed things any!