Fil reaction to dh telling him we are having a baby

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Ohhh thought you’d have some decent holidays first

we were married and had a house and been together over 6 years And well traveled
by that point so hardly suprising

just thinking What an odd reaction

Told DM I was expecting my first dc - been married about 6 months, I was 25 - and she said she thought she'd never be a dgm as I was getting so old! (She did think I was lesbian previously due to me doing weight training)
Fast forward a few years and I told her I was expecting no. 4 at age 41. Dm said oh, I'd have killed myself if I'd been pregnant at that age (no.4 was planned).

Does it matter what his reaction is? Babys coming out decent holiday or not 😂

My MIL said, after DH told her we were expecting a baby, ‘An only is a lonely!’

He’s probably just traumatised from child raising. I have two young kids and honestly when people tell me they’re expecting I am happy for them but also have this weird feeling in my stomach, like say goodbye to calm, happy, free life and say hello to monotony, boredom, chores, regimental structure.

Bloody hell. Really? That’s how you feel about parenting @MeganM3 ?!

Well you are basically telling people you have sex really aren't you?

Sometimes we can't contain our surprise at stuff I think.

This is really sad. I’m not saying there aren’t chores to be done but now there are more hands to do them. There is nothing boring, monotonous or regimented about my life with my children. They make everything interesting and less predictable and better!

My own mother said “shit” when I told her I was pregnant with my first and then “it’s better this way” when I was going through a traumatic miscarriage. Not that it should matter but I was a fully grown adult living in my own home with my partner at the time.

MIL’s face literally dropped, she was lost in thought for a minute then said:

”But my dining room isn’t big enough for a high chair”.

Weirdo.

My parents were surprised but we'd only been married a month when I got pregnant (together 9 years) having been told I couldn't conceive without help! So understandable, it was me that was talking forlornly about the holiday we would now have to cancel as booked for around due date and I didn't fancy having DS in Vietnam.
I just think he didn't really no what to say and was just thinking aloud

How odd indeed. Is he normally a bit cold ?

When my husband and I announced we had some news and proceeded to say I was pregnant, my mother in-law looked shocked and when I asked her what she thought we were going to say, she said " I thought you were going to say you were getting divorced". I was then just as shocked as her 😂. I asked why she had thought that and not having a baby and her thinking was that I already had two children prior to meeting me husband and wouldn't want any more. She is generally lovely but has very catastrophic thinking style and will always jump to worst case scenario. We are still happily married 16 years and 3 children later.

I said something pretty odd when dd told me she was pregnant. I won't say what because it would out me for sure! Fortunately she knew it was out of character and it made her laugh. She said "shall we start again?"
It was just the surprise that froze my brain.

I once asked a colleague if it was planned when I found out she was pregnant. My brain then caught up with my mouth and I immediately apologised for asking and said I had no idea why I had asked that. She had been married a few years, early 30s and we were in a workplace with very good maternity leave so it shouldn't have been a surprise!

Sometimes people just say stupid things.

Maybe her son had been giving her the impression things were rocky @Dontknowwhyidoit ?

Well maybe, but he could have kept the thoughts in his head and said congrats.

Holy hell. That's horrendous. Im
so sorry she said that to you 🥹

100% not, we had only been married 6 months and we were very happy. As I said, his mum always thinks the worst due her anxieties. I travel back to visit my family regularly and for the first few years, she would give me a big hug and be close to tears before I set off and tell me I had to ring her as soon as I got there. She always fears the worst because she lost her daughter age 11 in an accident and she has never really gotten over that

DH has a group of friends he's known since school. When we told MIL in passing that one of them had gotten engaged (in his 30's, to his very lovely long term partner) her response was 'ohhh all those poor boys', as if their wives/girlfriends were somehow keeping them prisoner! We were married and expecting our second at the time so I guess I'm one of the jailers.

“Was it planned?”

First words out of MILs mouth on being told her first grandchild was due.We’d been together 4yrs, owned a home, had good jobs and were 37. Errr, I think you meant “congratulations “!

When DH told his dad that we were engaged FIL's reaction was "Is Sortalike in the family way then?" This was swiftly followed by "I probably won't come to the wedding".

To be honest I wasn't surprised so it just went over my head. Baby did "stay in there" and is now a happy 4 month old, that is all that matters.

My MIL was horrified when I was pregnant at 36. She exclaimed I would look like a granny at school pickup and embarrass the child. I certainly don't.

When I told my dad his comment was “about bloody time”. We’d been married 5 years.

I mean, I don’t think that’s as odd as you think it is. Have you had some good holidays first? Because I would really recommend it. It was the best thing we did. I took my last pill at the end of several weeks backpacking around India. Got home, started trying and I was pregnant 6 weeks later.

That said, when I told my mum her response was, ‘are you okay?! Was this planned?!’ 🥴 I was a 30 something happily married professional woman with a good career, secure life, lovely Dh. What a bloody weird thing to say! We are NC now, for totally unrelated reasons. 😂

Old people say weird stuff. My MIL didn’t say congrats she just pursed her lips and said you’ll be very very tired. Silence and then she changed the topic.

very strange!