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Should I tell ex about DS sen school?

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Fuzzybear22 · 14/02/2026 13:19

My son has autism hes in year 6 working roughly around year one level. Hes going to a special needs school in September.

The thing is I haven't told his father. Because whenever I used to show him reports anything to do with autism DS struggles his father would start swearing and ranting about what a load of shit it is and the words and tone were quite nasty. So I stopped telling him anything.

I could just tell him the name of the school and not tell him its a sen school. But it feels really dishonest but I also dont want to listen to him. Or for him to say things to DS.

Just for general info. We do not live together DS sees his father every other weekend.

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Fuzzybear22 · 15/02/2026 17:26

Thattimenow · 15/02/2026 17:13

As it stands… he has never attended any parents evening; never asked any questions; not expressed even a passing interest in where his child will be going in September; not noticed his 10 year is functioning at the level of a 5 year old…. Oh and he’s not on the birth certificate.

I don’t think you have even the slightest cause for concern. He doesn’t exactly sound like he’s fully functioning himself.

Yeah i know. I think i was over thinking it because going from primary to secondary feels like a big step. I was also worried about his past reactions. But he may not say anything. Even if he does it doesn't change anything.

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