Approaching mid 50s. Menopause has more or less killed off what was once a healthy sex drive. No-one talks about finding it harder to orgasm once you reach a certain age/stage, or clitoral atrophy, even on here! I found out how common those things are on the menopause subs on Reddit.
Add in some bladder issues as I've got older too, a husband whose snoring is loud enough to wake the dead at times hence have to sleep separately, his occasional loss of erection just cos of aging, and just complete exhaustion from this stage of life (DH has taken on a more senior role the last couple of years and works long stressful hours and seems to have aged 5 years in the past year, and I work FT still in a low paid stressful job and fall asleep most evenings when I get in!)
When you're this age you've possibly lost a parent and that does take it out of you. It changes you forr a while. I lost my dad a couple of years ago and found his last few weeks in hospital traumatic, and my mum was seriously ill 5 years ago. Put it all together and it's just a recipe for disaster as far as sex goes these days. When I think back to our 20s I feel jealous of myself as I was then - full of energy, easy to orgasm, no worries about anything, didn't have teenage kids right next door who stay awake till 2am and can hear everything. And definitely no bladder issues!
Our relationship is fine in all other ways. We did go through a couple of years adjustment with I think him thinking I didn't fancy him anymore or something daft but we seem to have come through that stage. We seem to have got to the "comfy" stage, still enjoy each other's company and honestly, from the things other women my age have hinted at in work, I don't think this is at all uncommon.
There is a world of difference between how you feel in your early -mid 40s with how you feel 10 years later.