What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

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I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

. Ive read many posts where the op is genuinely concerned about their partner and parenting and you'll often hear 'go on a spa weekend and let him crack on'. These are women genuinely concerned about their children's welfare, sometimes the man is drinking or useless or just absent. How are you supposed to enjoy a break when youre terrified about their safety (speaking from experience sadly)

There was a thread recently about the OP wanting a new bed for her teen. So many people insisting it should be a double, and a bit less floor space was fine...
Even though the OP had said the room could not fit a double bed!

Surely loo seats are single-use, aren't they? Every time you've been, a poor man in rags comes to remove it and ritually burns it in your garden (hidden behind the orangery or the folly, so you don't have your view of the garden spoiled); then another man in top hat and tails brings a new one in and instals it for you whilst singing O Sole Mio as he does it.

This reminds me of another privilege type thread where a poster brought her very wealthy, country estate type teen boyfriend back to her house, which was a semi. It was night time and he asked why only one half was lit up (they were standing outside) and she explained the neighbours must be out so their lights were off. She said he was so genuinely perplexed about "why would you want to live adjoined to your neighbours" and this was the first time he had seen, IRL someone who lived in a semi detached.

The what have you eaten today threads.

“Oh for breakfast I had smashed avocado (homegrown of course) on lightly toasted homemade whole meal bread, sprinkled with grated Parmesan cheese (again homemade) with a selection chopped herbs from my walled kitchen garden.

My coffee was the finest quality freshly ground beans that have been shit three times by a monkey and purchased from Harrods.

It was a leisurely breakfast, sat at my kitchen island which is the size of Russia.

Doesn’t everyone do this?”

No you twat, we have a bowl of cornflakes and a mug of Nescafé stood at the kitchen worktop, before legging it out the door to wok.

My MIL is like this. Was complaining the other week she’s maxed out her ISA and premium bonds and has too much money left over, meanwhile we’re taking out a loan to pay for new windows. She can’t understand why we aren’t just paying in cash - erm because we don’t have £15k spare?

I once read a thread on here from someone asking whether she needed to pre-warn her neighbours she was having a baby, as she was worried about baby crying and disturbing them, one reply was “we moved to a detached house before having children to avoid this, is that an option for you?”. Probably not, no?

The very recent thread about people not being able to afford dentistry. Some posters were saying that it was an essential and should therefore trump less-essential spending on luxuries - apparently oblivious that some people could never hope to afford those luxuries OR many expensive 'essentials' that they could possibly do without and still stay alive.

Some people can't earn enough to pay for driving lessons or run a car.

Some people are too disabled to drive.

And the assumption that they have a spare room!

A lot of posters come to MN to cosplay as perfect, smart, athletic, wealthy, coiffured versions of themselves.

Often the person posting "What do you mean you sweat after Parkrun? 5k is nothing!" has just had to google the word 'Parkrun' and can barely run for the bus. They get a rush out of making another people feel a bit behind or unworldly.

I’m sure a lot of those posts are made up, example the other day ‘oh we had roasted loin of cod with a red pepper/walnut crust with grilled Aubergine couscous and early Asparagus’. It always just feels like it’s only me having two Richmond sausages, beans and some oven chips.

Did you read the thread about some sort of poster of food guidelines that was made for NI? One of the recommendations for children was a bowl of cornflakes and glass of orange juice, to which a lot of posters were pearl clutching as they are both UPF and "who would even think cereal is an adequate breakfast food?!" It was quite eye opening.

I agree. Sensitivity to others' situation is somewhat lacking on MN occasionally.

one lovely thread about how bereaved parents were stupid for leaving things on our dcs graves and how op wouldn't do it because it's pointless and tacky.

That is... wow. Imagine walking past a child's grave and thinking, "Ugh, their grieving parents have left trinkets on their grave, how tacky."

Saw that. I think I replied that it was an adequate breakfast. Some people are both ignorant and cloth-eared.

I think a comment like that is possibly misplaced sarcasm. It doesn’t land as funny because the OP is genuinely upset about an issue hence why they are posting about it.

I still laugh at the old thread where (iirc) the OP had inherited a house and was trying to handle it fairly in giving the tenants ample notice to leave, so that she and her family could move in (or maybe it was that she needed to sell it to free up the capital for alternative housing for them).

Somebody asked why she didn't just give the house to the tenants, as they'd lived there for quite a long time and it was their home! Just give some strangers a house, as though it was sandwich or something!

After a row with a dh. Book yourself into a lovely hotel for the night and treat yourself to a spa day.

Yes there are always a few responses calling the owners "selfish" for wanting their property back and they should just give it to the tenants as the OP already owns a house and the tenants don't. I really wish I could find a MN landlord like this!

Along with the ones where there's a hen holiday or something that will cost far more than the OP can possibly afford, but the bride is putting pressure on everybody to go.

Posters will look at the price and what's included and insist that, no, it's very good value for what you get and you'll enjoy it and make memories, so you should definitely go.

That was meant to say a sandwich, btw. Giving somebody the whole town of Sandwich would indeed be far more than most people could comfortably afford to give away without missing it!

Yep it was all real. The wiping down the shopping after quarantining it outside 🤦‍♀️ Also the poster who was going to London to visit her parents. Minimum 2-hour drive each way iirc. Asked parents to leave a bucket in the garden for her to shit in, as she was so terrified of breaking the rules about going into their house and also terrified that she’d accidentally kill her parents if she walked through their hall while they sat in their lounge. After a 2-hour drive she stood at the bottom of the garden and shouted at her parents while they sat/stood inside their house behind a closed window.

I started a new job not long afterwards and a woman there told me that she did exactly this. I’ve often wondered if they were the same person. Surely there can’t be 2 of them??

I remember mentioning my non verbal child on someone else's post, and got a bitchy reply from someone that "if there is love and care people always find a way to communicate with their loved ones".
Ableis busslhit is what bothersme the most on Mumsnet.

Bit of a different one - there was a thread yesterday about an OP whose MIL needed help while her regular carer (the SIL) had an operation. MIL had an autoimmune condition, back problems and anxiety, but the amount of people who went straight to "she's only 62, that's not old, she should get over it" was absolutely staggering.
Bully for you that you're 79 and you've never been careless enough to get a life-limiting condition. Good health is a privilege easily taken for granted until you no longer have it.

@Politicians247UnderwearExtinguishingService - I posted on a thread about what were the best things to donate to food banks, ages ago, and still remember one poster who insisted that kidney beans could be mashed up and put onto oatcakes as a nutritious meal, when the rest of us were trying to tell her kidney beans wouldn't be much use to people who couldn’t run their hob to cook anything with them.